I'm gonna sound like a real novice here,
but that's what I am.
I'm 19, never had a girlfriend before,
have always had very low confidence and no
self belief etc, always believed I wasn't
good enough for any girl to ever look
twice at me.
Been working a lot on my confidence etc
this year and have been getting better,
and I met this great girl that I like a
lot at university recently. For once, I
actually did something about it and we met
for lunch one day last week at uni, then
she invited me out clubbing with her and
her friends in the weekend. It was an
awesome night, we danced quite a lot, and
kissed more than once, held hands etc, all
that kind of stuff. Trouble is, she ended
up quite drunk at the end of the night
(she was fine when we first kissed for
sure) and doesn't remember a lot about the
night. I really like this girl a lot and
I hope some of it meant more to her than
just a drunken mistake.
Never been in a situation like this
before, so I just don't know what to do
other than make a fool of myself trying to
ask "did you mean to kiss me, or was it a
drunken mistake?" I have asked if she
remembers and she said she "kind of does"
and I have left it at that so far.
We met up for lunch today at uni, and
seemed to get on more as just friends.
Any advice? How can I go about talking to
her about this?
As I said, when it comes to this stuff,
i'm a complete noobie with no idea
whatsoever.
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stormyf2
Supporter
Joined: 16 Mar 2006 Posts: 146 Location: Canada
Plenty of Fish Posted: 05-23-06 02:57am
You no there is plenty of fish in the
sea...... Just use this as learning if u
need to. U are so young and u need to
enjoy life and it sounds like your
confidence is growing and thats great!!!!
U may kiss alot of toads before u meet
your princess!!!! I just got engaged at
age 32!!!! And there has been many toads
first......... Sloppy drunk isnt
attractive is it?
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 387 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-23-06 07:34am
That's a little harsh...........It's rare
when someone hasn't gotten totally
plastered......And at university it's
almost a given. Let her save face and
don't talk "it" to death. I know you
probably wanna get things moving, but the
best relationships are the ones where
people truly get to know each
other.................Relish your time in
the friendship stage and the flirting
stage....................And don't worry,
if this babe digs you, she'll let you
know....................And hopefully
you'll get a sober kiss. :)
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ajc28
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2006 Posts: 11
Posted: 05-24-06 02:34am
Thanks, that's good avice. Got similar
advice from a female friend of mine.
I realise I can't keep bugging her with
"did you mean to kiss me? Do you like me?
Can I see you again?" etc. Will only
look like a needy, desparate loser and
scare her off.
I'll just leave it a little while, not
text her or see her for a few days, then
perhaps in the weekend she what she is up
to. Just gotta try and stop thinking
about it so much (not been easy so far)
and be easy going about whatever happens I
guess, even though it is a bit of a big
deal for me being the 1st time anything
like this has happened for me.
I guess, i'll at least be able to put it
down to learning/experience if nothing
else, and I got a good night and good
story to tell a few mates out of it.
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beautiful
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 May 2006 Posts: 146 Location: stockton
Posted: 05-24-06 14:42pm
Tell her how you feel
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ajc28
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2006 Posts: 11
Posted: 05-26-06 18:19pm
Well I saw her last night and she has
asked me along to some party tonight, so I
guess the fact she seems to want to see me
is positive. We seem more like just
friends as I said, but that may be because
I am so inexperienced I have no idea how
to progress. Still, this is a good
opportunity to learn, and as she seems to
want to see me outside of uni, maybe
there's a chance there.
