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Q: She Kissed Me, Now What?
asked by: ajc28 on May 23rd, 2006
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I'm gonna sound like a real novice here, but that's what I am.
I'm 19, never had a girlfriend before, have always had very low confidence and no self belief etc, always believed I wasn't good enough for any girl to ever look twice at me.
Been working a lot on my confidence etc this year and have been getting better, and I met this great girl that I like a lot at university recently. For once, I actually did something about it and we met for lunch one day last week at uni, then she invited me out clubbing with her and her friends in the weekend. It was an awesome night, we danced quite a lot, and kissed more than once, held hands etc, all that kind of stuff. Trouble is, she ended up quite drunk at the end of the night (she was fine when we first kissed for sure) and doesn't remember a lot about the night. I really like this girl a lot and I hope some of it meant more to her than just a drunken mistake.
Never been in a situation like this before, so I just don't know what to do other than make a fool of myself trying to ask "did you mean to kiss me, or was it a drunken mistake?" I have asked if she remembers and she said she "kind of does" and I have left it at that so far.
We met up for lunch today at uni, and seemed to get on more as just friends.

Any advice? How can I go about talking to her about this?
As I said, when it comes to this stuff, i'm a complete noobie with no idea whatsoever.
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stormyf2
replied on May 23rd, 2006
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Plenty of Fish
You no there is plenty of fish in the sea...... Just use this as learning if u need to. U are so young and u need to enjoy life and it sounds like your confidence is growing and thats great!!!! U may kiss alot of toads before u meet your princess!!!! I just got engaged at age 32!!!! And there has been many toads first......... Sloppy drunk isnt attractive is it?
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Spirit
replied on May 23rd, 2006
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That's a little harsh...........It's rare when someone hasn't gotten totally plastered......And at university it's almost a given. Let her save face and don't talk "it" to death. I know you probably wanna get things moving, but the best relationships are the ones where people truly get to know each other.................Relish your time in the friendship stage and the flirting stage....................And don't worry, if this babe digs you, she'll let you know....................And hopefully you'll get a sober kiss. :)
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ajc28
replied on May 24th, 2006
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Thanks, that's good avice. Got similar advice from a female friend of mine.
I realise I can't keep bugging her with "did you mean to kiss me? Do you like me? Can I see you again?" etc. Will only look like a needy, desparate loser and scare her off.
I'll just leave it a little while, not text her or see her for a few days, then perhaps in the weekend she what she is up to. Just gotta try and stop thinking about it so much (not been easy so far) and be easy going about whatever happens I guess, even though it is a bit of a big deal for me being the 1st time anything like this has happened for me.
I guess, i'll at least be able to put it down to learning/experience if nothing else, and I got a good night and good story to tell a few mates out of it.
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beautiful
replied on May 24th, 2006
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Tell her how you feel
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ajc28
replied on May 26th, 2006
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Well I saw her last night and she has asked me along to some party tonight, so I guess the fact she seems to want to see me is positive. We seem more like just friends as I said, but that may be because I am so inexperienced I have no idea how to progress. Still, this is a good opportunity to learn, and as she seems to want to see me outside of uni, maybe there's a chance there.
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beautiful
replied on May 26th, 2006
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I agree
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