Im assuming you meant why can't you get an orgasm with your boyfriend.... In that case your probably just tired of the same old routine with him... Try something new.... Role-playing... Blind-folded... Toys... Make it an adventure, like your trying to get to know him all over again. The same thing over and over again can get boring no matter who your with.

I can relate. Im a guy and ive been with my gf for close to 4 months now. In the beginning she was the aggressor and wed have sex multiple times a night and again in the morning. Slowly I became the aggressor. Lately, however, she tells me we are gonna have sex and shes gonna give me some and its gonna be crazy and all that and then she lays down and falls asleep. Then in the morning before work we have a quickie. It kinda sucks. I hate being rushed and having alarm clocks ringing every 5 minutes. I really hope shes ligitimately tired and not bored to death with me. She tells me its not the latter. Its kinda frustrating. The thing that bothers me is that shes all horny in the middle of the day when we cant have sex, and then when we can have sex its bedtime.

My other problem is that when I go away with my friends for an extended weekend next month im concerned that she is gonna end up going out with her friends, getting drunk and hooking up with someone else. I know I shouldnt think this, but weve been together pretty much every night since weve met and this will be the first time in a long time that we wont be sleeping in the same bed. Any ideas on how to discuss this issue with her without coming off as an fool?

I dont know what to do anymore.. I think I am a pretty attractive women . Well other guys seem to do so, but why is it that my own hubby makes me feel unwanted and undesirable.. Shot!!!! Im tired of been the only one wanting a piece of action every night. He could settle for once a month..What kind of relationship is that.. I tried almost everything, but he seems to just like the same old routine..I wish there was a way were I can tell him that im tired of feeling like the horny, wanna make love every night type of gal..It never use to be that way...Well after we had our 1st child!! After that it all went down hill. Its starting to feel funny when we do have sex because it feels like a stranger..Help........

well I will tell you what my aunt did, she crushed up viagra and put it in my uncle's tea he never knew but he got horny as hell. She did it everytime she felt like she wanted sex. She would get the pill sometimes two and when she was fixing dinner and he wasn't paying attention crush them up and stir them in his drink really good. About two hours later they were in the bedroom getting it own.

No lie I am serious :lol:

lol as much as I find this kinda funny, you have to be careful cos viagra can and .D.O.E.S have side effects in a lot of cases, and this doens't really help matters in the long run. Lol. Umm... Though maybe you could try it just the once and put on some kinky stockings and suspenders and do it really wild to make him realise what he's been missing(!)

maybe the guy has issues with libido levels. How is his general health, diet, and stress levels?

My daughters love sex & enjoy 20/25 partners per day.

I can completely sympathise with you on this - I have exactly the same problem with my husband, i'm just about gagging for it every night while he is too tired/got a headache etc. If you come across any ideas please let me know :-) maybe we just need to tell them outright how bad it is sounds a bit nasty but there ain't many options left. Although the viagra does sound like fun :-) prob not a good idea though :-)

I'd try everything I could first. Meet him at the door when he comes home with nothing on, new fancy underwear, being very spontaneous and just being forceful. There's no way he could say no! However, if he does, maybe you need a sit down and a nice loooong talk as to why?

That sounds like a bit of a problem. I suggest spending the day together. Drop the kids off round an aunts or something for the weekend and taking a nice relaxing day with just the two of you. Spend it doing what you two want to do as a couple, romantic sounds ideal. Perhaps without the added stress of the children he;ll be more up for it, literally :)

I don't care how tired a man is, if you grab his penis and put in your mouth he won't say no.

I have the same problem with my husband, I could have sex everyday multiple times a day but he is satisfied with once every two weeks. He tells me that it helps if i'm not interested so that he has to work for it a little bit. I can sometimes get him in the mood if I scratch/massage his inner thighs or start giving him a blow job.

Good luck

I am in the same boat as well!! I have been with my fiance for 5 1/2 years. When we first started having sex it was like rabbits! Now we are down to 1 time every 2 weeks! It really, really sucks! I am always in the mood and he is never in the mood. He says its because the kids are always around, but even when they are asleep I try and he basically refuses. Ive tried everything too! I feel for all of you, I really do! Good luck.

Jeannine

May be he has problems with sex health and tries to hide it. He needs your help, caress and endearment. Don't be assertive. Increasing desire drugs are helpful in your situation: think about extagen or smth like that. It has highly helped to restore sex relations in our family.

True, trying too hard, or high expectations can cause performance anxiety in men - have you tried reverse psychology?

Dress provocatively, then tell him he can't have it. He may just have a low libido, it happens, and working a lot really does leave you tired and less horny - sex is mostly in the head.

Help him change gears after work, let him relax a while, take a shower, shed some stress, don't bring up sex for a while, you can masturbate to relieve your own frustration.

Also, have him try zinc supplements.