I am sixteen. I am my parents' only daughter, 4 brothers. I know that they will help me through this but I don't know how to tell them. Sorry if you think I am too young to be having sex. I am very well educated about sex and babies (i am a straight .A student). I don't have any bad habits either. Like I stated in the first post I ever made here, I believe if you think you are responable enough to have the sex you think you are responable enough to have the baby. I am really and truely sorry if it offends you that I am having sex at 16.

Lmt

I'm 16 and had to tell my mom its was weird but she understood and now I have her support wich is great while being pregant and 16

I suggest making sure she is in a really good mood. I was 20 when I had my first so alot older than you but I was still scared to tell my mum. Me and my boyfriend sat outside the front door, me crying my eyes out.
In the end I played all innocent. I said 'mum I did a test and it says positive but I think its wrong' she calmly said it couldn't be wrong and that I was pregnant and then I burst into tears crying hysterically and she gave me a hug.
Believe me crying will make them more sympathetic!

or you could act like an adult and tell them you plan to take full responsibilty for your actions and maybe then you'll earn their respect (after they get over their shock).

i disagree with your statement about being very well educated about sex and babies. Babies come from unprotected sex. That is sex ed 101, also baby making 101. If you were at all educated on this matter you would not be pregnant.

However, you asked about your parents and i'll tell you that the sooner you tell them the better. Maybe you could sit them down and just explain what has happened.

Another part of your education should be to look into what daycare in your area is going to cost you. Since i'm sure a straight .A student will be going back to high school after the baby is born, you'll need full time daycare. Check out what that runs for an infant. Let your parents know that you aren't going to dump this baby onto them as if it were their own (remember, they are done having kids!). Do your research so when they ask you, you already have some idea.

my highschool had a daycare center. I kind of looked at it as they were giving the moms a chance to continue their education, which is a good thing.

yeah, not only will you get free money and food from the govt, but free daycare too!

Are you conservative? I like you! ;-)

now this is something ican help with!!!!! Woooh!

Ok - I am my parents only daughter - I am 16 and I have more brothers than you! (how old are your bro's by the way?)

my older ones flipped more than my parents. Just tell your parents straight - and keep your boyfriend away from your brothers and it will .A.L.L.L.L.L.L be fine. Remember -

distance between older brothers boyfriend = safety.

Closeness between older brothers boyfriend could result in death

=)

I just get so peeved that girls are having babies and never consider the .C.O.S.T of raising them! I'd have 12 kids if someone else was going to pay for them. Why not?

Daycare costs money. Every month. To work, to make money, to go to school - daycare costs money. I don't care if you do get 'free' daycare in your school. Who is paying for it? Because ultimately someone is - just because these girls aren't, doesn't mean it isn't being paid for by someone's blood sweat and tears.

Baby equipment costs money. As does formula and clothes. Not one person here can say they weren't shocked when they realized how much a baby was costing them. Diapers alone are a huge expense. these are the things that her parents are going to be worried about. They'll ask her straight away (as i'm sure a lot of your parents did), "how will you be able to afford this?" and the reality is, at 16 she .C.A.N.'.T afford it on her own. It will end up the responsibility of tax payers and her parents.

That is what irks me. She says she is so educated, if she were educated, she would not be pregnant and thinking her parents will 'help' her. As if it were that easy.

So, even if daycare is 'free' to you, check out how much it costs. And even if you get welfare, check out how much that stuff costs. Someone is paying for it.

Daycare for an infant under a year old is over $1,000 a month where I live.

Over 3 and potty trained it is more in the area of $600. Which is better, but still! Think of paying that for 5 years (until they go to school) and think of paying that all summer every summer until they are over 12.

Except that isn't always an option and it isn't realistic.

My brothers are 22, 19, 17, and 13. They all really like my boyfriend. I am not your average 16 year old girl. I work 12 hour days for my dad any day that I don't go to school. My mom has worked nights since I was 5, and since my dad owns 2 tyson chicken barns that require 24 hour attention, I have pretty much been a mom to my little brother. No, I didn't have to pay for him, but I have helped him learn almost everything he knows. At the age of 13 I babysat for my neighbor who has a milk barn and has a .H.U.G.E farm. I worked over 40 hours a week with thier infant and 3 year old. I work my butt off everyday to help my dad. I also at the age of 15 took out a loan (with my dad as cosigner) for $5,000 to buy cattle. So I am the proud owner of 8 cows and 8 calves. I know that prolly doesn't make sense to you if you aren't a farmer, but calves are selling for $1.50 a pound, which is extremely good. So I have a very good source of income. Sorry if it offends you that I am pregnant, I came here for advice not to get yelled at. If you want me to leave please just say so and I will. Also, I know that unprotected sex = baby, but sometimes protected sex = baby, as it is true in my case. I know that you prolly think I should of been on birth control, but I can't b/c of my family history of stroke and high blood pressure. Sorry if I offend anyone.

Lmt

Make sure that your mom is in a really good mood then tell her please dont hate me but mom you know that my boyfriend I have sex and because of this I ended up pregnant!!!


This is to you was it planned???
Weather it was or not,
tell her if it was tell her
if it was not tell her

no, this wasn't planned. It just happened.

Hi,i used to go to a woldorf steiner school called wynstones and there was this girl years ago who got pregnant at 15 and when she was in class 12 (year 13)her child was in our same school but in kindegarten,it was so wierd,i do think its a nice idea to have suppost at school,college or university as it says that just because you are a mum and have children you can still get a career and we will help you.

you didn't offend me, but I don't think you know what you are getting yourself into. I was a mom when I was 16. It isn't like I don't know what i'm talking about.

You can take care of someone else's kid for 40 hours a week but it isn't your kid and you get the leave when your shift is over. You get to go home to the quiet of your own house/life/whatever. You can also babysit your younger brother, that doesn't make you a parent.

I think it is wonderful that you have income. I think it is great that you have a job working for your dad. I think it is fabulous that you are a straight .A student. I wish you all the best.

okay... I'm about to write a long ass thesis.

Forfeits all rights to an education? But that would keep teen parents depending on the system and stuck in a sad cycle, as opposed to if they were able to get help to further their education and increase their chances of becoming productive members of society. I believe in doing as much as you can, no matter what situation you find yourself in. Even though I am 16 and pregnant I plan to finish high school, go to university, and to get to the top I might have to accept help from my family... And god forbid the government. But there will come the day when I give back. That is the thing about being a citizen of north america in the 21rst century; you have the opportunities to make anything you want of yourself no matter what your situation, equal opportunity for everyone! (i know being born native or into a rich family makes this varied, but basically anyone who has the ambition can do what they want in this country). I don't believe anything forfeits that right. I moved to canada from south africa. I lived in a country divided by race, where you see little freaken children begging on the street for a meal. Education is the key to breaking free of this cycle, but so many people are so deeply stuck in this cycle and there is no help for them that it is hopeless. I know these situations are completely different, but deprivation of an education is the factor in both situations that keep the people on both ends in a dependent sad cycle and in a form of poverty. Everyone makes mistakes. I wish I had saved myself for marriage, it's something I regret not doing every day. But all sins are the same, and mine doesn't make me any less deserving of following my dreams than the next young person, it just means I might have to put them on hold for a while and work harder to achieve them. Condemning pre martial sex on a teen pregnancy forum is sort of silly. If it weren’t happening there wouldn't be this forum. And girls, yes even ones who might have 'forfeited their rights' by making a mistake, deserve a place like this forum to come for support and to not feel condemned and judged. Believe me the world gives us enough of that. Forgiveness and grace is so healing. Our world needs more compassion. If we can pick up our neighbor when they are down, we could all rise up together. If a teenage mom wants to accept help created for people in her situation so that she can make more of herself I think society should encourage her. I am thankful every day that women have been liberated to the point that even a teen mom can make her place in the world. Should the male teenage parent of this child still have a right to an education? I mean you said 'if you get pregnant as a teen' and only females are capable of child bearing. I assume your comment was only directed at young female parents, so are you encouraging separate standards for the different sexes also? I believe the best thing you can do is make yourself strong and independent, no matter where you find yourself, so that you don't become a slave to your situation. Your comment encourages female oppression in a world where we already had to fight against discrimination and for the right to equal citizenship. Why progress backwards?


Okay don't take any of this personally! I did not personalize your comment and I like you very much sandra! You were the first person on this forum to help me. : ) I just love a good debate and can never keep my mouth shut. Besides that was so long I doubt anyone will actually read the speel.

That is completely true. And as a pregnant teen I just have to learn to deal with the stereo type that I am like those girls who are content with making living off the system a life style. But it is important to encourage improvement and change. I think things like day cares in high schools do this. Like everything, it isn't black and white, and totally differs from person to person.