You can't let him bring you down. He has his own problems to solve, and if he can't do them then he should sort out himself before he allows anyone in.


However that's my opnion, ad it may not suit, so do whatever you feel is right within you.

I wish you luck, hun

kitty
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hey! You probably don't remember me but I talked to you when you posted all that a while back.I told you my boyfriend was almost exactly the same way.We also broke up a couple of weeks ago for the same reason but we are now back together.I have the same fears as you.Not so much the drinking because the last fallout we had with alcohol made everything so hard.We had a long talk and everything seems fine,but I am soo worried something bad will happen.He acts the same way your b/f does when I cry.He acts like i'm doing it for pity or something,not because i'm really hurt,and he thinks i'm whining.I can't believe how cold he can be sometimes.It's like when he wants something and doesn't get his way he b*tches but when I want something and don't get my way and complain he tells me to grow up and stop being immature!what! He is backwards and I have been trying so hard to hold us together but I can't do it alone.Sry for the long post,i just wanted to let you know I know how you feel.Your a positive person like myself and you don't need to be brought down by someone who is negative.You can pm me if you want to talk.

Well if u really love him then u will trust him but if u see something like him cheating on u then u better leave is ass and dont let him tell u that he was drinking because hes full of caca if that was the case then he should have went to u for the sex tell him that trust me im a guy I been though that caca befor I can tell u anything u want to know about a guy u can talk to me





love blast :)

Don't know if you were talking to me or her but I wish you could help me out!

.....Well me and my girlfriend have been together for bout 10 months....When we first meet, I was drinkin alot, at the clubs everyday, and partin. But I gave that all up because I fell in love with her.....She didnt ask me to stop, I just felt that it wasnt healthy for our relationship....Plus I didnt want her doin it. No offense but drinkin and partin wit friends everyday is for the single life, and for him to say he needs alone time....Says it all..... If he were in love with you....He would spend every second with you... Also, if he broke up with you once, what makes you think he wont do it again. Trust me im a guy, I know how guys think....

You guys are all right. I have let it get me down so much that I am just really depressed, and sad all of the time. I start a new job on monday it's my dream job, but I don't even want to go. I just want to loay in bed and sleep

Dont be a 'square' just drink with him and have fun. Atleast then you'll be able to watch him when he drinks.

ive tried that.We were able to get drunk about 3 times togheter without him being an a$$,but every other time it ended up in a fight. . .(i know this question wasn't aimed at me but I answered anywho : ))

It sounds like it is time to sit down with him and have a little heart to heart talk with him and let him decide if it is his drinking and partying he wants with his friends or you, he cannot have his cake and eat it too, it is eating you up on the inside and it is not right for you. You could probabably do much better but it is your choice and you are the one that has to live with the decision as these are only my suggestiions.
Good luck to you!

Kind of...

-- when I met my boyfriend 3 years ago, I was like your boyfriend. I drank, all the time. I was hard to trust, and I never wnated to be around him cause he'd be upset with it... We broke up, and I lost someone who was there for me.

Now, we're back together, alcohol is not part of our situation. I had to erase it completely, it's been the best decision of my life. My boyfriend knows it bothers me now, and I never told him he can't drink, but he choses not to cause he knows it destoys our trust.

Drinking with him won't solve the situation, that'll lead to worse things. Fights, fuzzy nights, everything that single people could consider "fun" people in relationships can consider damaging.

After all in all, alcohol has been diminished for the sake of our relationship, some people just can't handle the addition of alcohol... He sounds like one of them.

You need to tell him its bothering you. You can't keep quiet

Your boyfriend has a serious problem with alcohol and people like that changes into better is difficult for him. You might want to consider to forget him and move on and find a better man that treated you good and respect you....