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kim121
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 May 2006
Posts: 9
Location: northumberland
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What Is Wrong With Me?
Posted: 05-19-06 06:10am
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Mood swings are controlling my life!
Sometimes I can wake up looking forward to
the day ahead & all that it brings, I
can cope with anything & i'm content
& happy. And then then the next i'm
feeling sad, & horrible & that
nothing is going my way, I can't do it, I
won't become of anything, that kind of
feeling! I start things but never seem
to finish them because my motivation goes
before I reach the end. Sometimes I lie
just to make out that I am more than I am
because I feel so useless & ashamed of
what i'm 'not' acheiving. Infact my
mood doesnt change daily, it could change
within a split second. It makes me feel
like i'm going mad. My relationship
suffers so much. If I could just get it
to stop - I hate been like this. After
i've got angry or sad I always feel guilty
& silly for the way I acted. What
is wrong with me - why am I like this.
Can anyone suggest herbal pills or any
coping strategies!
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ThomasJones
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Joined: 18 May 2006
Posts: 7
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Posted: 05-19-06 08:04am
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I know exactly how you feel. I become so
consumed with self-doubt and worry that I
lose interest and cannot motivate myself
to finish things I started. I tried
bringing up this topic with my parents
before, but they just tried to convince me
everything was fine. They're parents,
they want to hear things are great, and
they don't want anyone "rocking the boat".
I don't share my problems with friends
as I don't want to alienate the few close
ones I have by bringing them down.
Since I don't have health insurance i'm
interested in herbal remedies and coping
strategies, too. I can trick myself into
putting on a happy face for a while, but
eventually I realize my "happiness" rests
atop a house of cards that inevitably
crashes down.
Best of wishes to you.
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kim121
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 May 2006
Posts: 9
Location: northumberland
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Hi Thomas
Posted: 05-19-06 08:17am
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The quick answer is to try &
concentrate on 1 thing at a time but
unfortunately life doesn't allow us to
concentrate on just 1 thing at a time...
We have to juggle allot at once! So we
need to know how to keep all of the
juggleing balls in the air & not let
them fall... I'm not sure how long or how
severe your self doubt has been with you
but you need to get a tight grip of the
problem now before it gets a tight grip of
you for the next 5 years or more... Have
you ever had medication from your dr for
depression - if so did it work! Xxx
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ThomasJones
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 May 2006
Posts: 7
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Posted: 05-19-06 08:22am
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I made an appointment with a primary
physician about five years ago. It was
a med group working out of a hospital, and
the physician was a co-ky kid not long out
of med school. I wasn't about to
confide in him so I instead told him about
an old athletic injury that really wasn't
bothering me. I haven't gone back
since. In the meantime i've dabbled
with st. John's wort with little
success.
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johnR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 May 2006
Posts: 229
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Posted: 05-20-06 17:36pm
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You may want to join a cbt group to learn
coping strategies. I am almost halfway
through mine and the exercise called the
tea form is starting to help me. It
teaches you how to modify the way you
react to things and eases stress. The
book by sam obitz is good and has
illustrations of the tea form in it. Hope
you feel better.
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ThomasJones
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Joined: 18 May 2006
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Posted: 05-22-06 18:55pm
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Thanks johnr, I just ordered sam obitz'
book, and hope it gets here quickly so I
can try the tea forms. I'm also giving
st john's wort another try for 2-3 months.
I hope I can get somewhere doing these
as my lack of confidence has done great
harm to my professional and personal
lives.
Kim, how are you doing? Hanging in
there? I don't have any great insight
for you, but just know that you are not
alone. I have a feeling i'll be
unstoppable when I finally control my
demons, and I know you will, too.
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johnR
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Joined: 20 May 2006
Posts: 229
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Posted: 05-23-06 19:11pm
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| thomasjones
wrote: | thanks johnr, I just ordered
sam obitz' book, and hope it gets here
quickly so I can try the tea forms. I'm
also giving st john's wort another try for
2-3 months. I hope I can get somewhere
doing these as my lack of confidence has
done great harm to my professional and
personal lives.
Kim, how are you doing? Hanging in
there? I don't have any great insight
for you, but just know that you are not
alone. I have a feeling i'll be
unstoppable when I finally control my
demons, and I know you will,
too. |
hi thomas, I hope it gets there quickly
and that you find it as useful as I am
finding it. The tea forms were difficult
for me to catch on to using at first but
now that I am figuring them out they are
hugely helpful and it seems silly to me
that I struggled so much with them
initially because they are really very
simple. I also think you will appreciate
the tone of the book as it is not
technical and preachy like so many of them
are. Let me know how the tea forms work
for you? Be patient with yourself as it
may take a few weeks to get the hang of
them.
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johnR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 May 2006
Posts: 229
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Checking Back to See How You Are Doing
Posted: 06-05-06 14:53pm
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Hi thomas I was wondering how you are
doing? I hope you have received the book
by now and are trying the tea forms? I'll
check back to see how you are faring.
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ThomasJones
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Joined: 18 May 2006
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Posted: 06-05-06 20:17pm
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Johnr -- I received the book and have
already gone through it as it is a quick
read. I liked how concise it was and how
no words were wasted. It was written in
layman's terms. I have started doing the
tea forms in my mind. Baby steps. I
will have to force myself to get a pen and
write the tea forms out as that is the
most effective way. Thanks again for
recommending it.
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johnR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 229
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Posted: 06-09-06 00:21am
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| thomasjones
wrote: | | johnr -- I received the book
and have already gone through it as it is
a quick read. I liked how concise it
was and how no words were wasted. It
was written in layman's terms. I have
started doing the tea forms in my mind.
Baby steps. I will have to force myself
to get a pen and write the tea forms out
as that is the most effective way.
Thanks again for recommending
it. |
hi thomas, i'm glad you liked the book and
already got through it and are doing the
tea forms in your mind. Go at your own
pace but do try and start doing them on
paper because it really does seem to
accelerate the process. I still do them
in my mind but always try and do them on
paper when I get up to start the day off
right and again at night before bed. I'll
keep checking back in case you have any
questions and to let you know how i'm
doing.
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trying_to_cope
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2005
Posts: 31
Location: Seattle
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Ditto
Posted: 06-12-06 23:46pm
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When it comes to the idea of tea forms, as
the temptations would say (or sing).. "i
second that emotion...." :)
they are helpful. I'm pretty sure you'll
like the obitz book.
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down
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Joined: 11 Jun 2006
Posts: 60
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Posted: 06-13-06 02:38am
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I go through this alot too..Can find
something I like then maybe a few days
later I never wanna do it again. I wanna
go to the gym, 3 weeks to a month later I
don't go for months..It's been 4 months
now but I plan to go back for the summer
when I have less hours at work and more
time. It can get pretty depressing
sometimes...I can go like this for days or
weeks and feel worthless and just wanna
curl up and be alone forever and never
wanna leave my room or even go outside.
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johnR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 May 2006
Posts: 229
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Posted: 06-19-06 10:33am
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Down have you tried cbt? It may help you
if you continue find yourself spiraling
down. I went through similar emotions but
not nearly as severe as it sounds like you
are going through and learning to catch
the thinking errors I was making and
countering is helping more than I thought
possible just a few months ago. Take
care.
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down
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Joined: 11 Jun 2006
Posts: 60
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Posted: 06-19-06 19:43pm
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No lol I don't like to and cannot talk
about my problems to people offline.
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luvkittykats
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2005
Posts: 69
Location: north carolina
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johnR
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Posts: 229
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Posted: 06-27-06 17:29pm
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| down
wrote: | | no lol I don't like to and
cannot talk about my problems to people
offline. |
down I know what you mean but cbt is not
talk therapy it's almost like a class on
how to help yourself by identifying and
corercting the errors in your thoughts.
It is working well for me and if you don't
want to talk to anyone you can probably
learn it through books or just google cbt
and read about it. The tea form exercise
is the one (of many I have now learned)
that seems to help me the most. Give it
a shot :p
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Raggedy Anne
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Joined: 29 Jun 2006
Posts: 1
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Posted: 06-29-06 17:39pm
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I feel the same. I can't get the
motivation to follow things through. The
smallest things upset me more than they
should. Things that used to make me happy
don't. I find myself asking myself "what
is wrong with me?" I doubt myself all the
time. I feel unusually tired and food is
unappetizing. I don't know how to talk to
my friends or family about this.
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johnR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 229
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Posted: 08-01-06 16:12pm
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Raggedy anne you may benefit from giving
cbt a try. Perhaps the exercises could
turn you into happy anne :lol:
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trying_to_cope
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Dec 2005
Posts: 31
Location: Seattle
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You Know...
Posted: 08-07-06 23:07pm
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Maybe you should consider changing your
member name, and yes i'm being serious.
By referring to yourself as "raggedy",
don't you think that reinforces the sense
that you're out of control and a failure?
Just a thought.
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johnR
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