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Q: helping fiance deal with bipolar

asked by: worried89 on May 16th, 2006

New User

Hi all. My name is molly, i'm 16 and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder around 12-13.
I rapid cycle a lot. My fiancé knows I don't purposely say/do things to hurt him, and says it doesn't bother him. But I know it does, because he is blaming himself for everything I do. I've tried to make him understand if I get pissed that he touched me that it's not because of him it's just some weird irrational mood swing. I've been trying so hard to manage it, not get so moody with him and explain the whole rapid cycling deal to him, but I don't think it's helping him cope.

I don't know what to do, I hate when he blames himself. I could be apologizing and he says this and that immediately makes me want to rage again.
What do I do? Any ideas??

I would really appreciate any help you all could give me on how to help him deal. Thank you!!

- molly

Replies(2)

MysticalStar

replied on May 26th, 2006

New User

I'm in the exact same boat your in. I have rapid cycling and mixed episodes. My husband has been so understanding and tolerant of my behavior but I feel so bad about how I treat him. It is so miserable not knowing what mood I will be in one minute to the next. I know it has to be horrible for him as well. I may be in an affectionate mood and all of a sudden I get incredibly irritated and push him away. Of course he is completely dumbfounded. I really can't give you any advice cause I don't know what to do about it either. When i'm in a decent mood I just try to reassure him and that is all I know to do. I have told him several times if he wanted to leave me I would understand and I wouldn't be mad but I think that makes him feel worse. Sorry I couldn't help but I just wanted to let you know that you and your fiance are not alone in the struggle.

DSmith529

replied on May 26th, 2006

Experienced User

How About Introducing Him to Your Doctor?

Maybe hearing it from other people, lots of other people, will help.

Have you been able to find an effective therapy to slow down the cycling?

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