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Q: Mother's Day : (

asked by: Kate917881 on May 15th, 2006

Experienced User

I just need to vent.. I was having a wonderful mother's day .. My ex boyfriend (damien's) father..And damien made me a stepping stone with damien's foot prints and they decorated it .. Well my ex did most of it since damien is only 5 months old..And they made me breakfast in bed and took me out for lunch.. So my first mother's day went well.. Until my mother stepped in.. My mom is a depressed alcoholic.. Honestly .. Well last night.. As we were talking about our mother's day .. ( of course she was drinking) she told me i'm a bad mother.. It broke my heart. I know i'm only 17 but I take excellent care of my son.. He's well fed and clothed.. And I never "pawn" him off on her so I can go out with my friends.. I don't know why she said it.. I asked my father if he thought the same thing and he said " no your a wonderful mother" .. It just breaks my heart that she would say something..And this morning when she was sober .. She acted all nice to me.. But I haven't spoke to her since she said it.. I can't believe she ruined my very first mother's day.. Sorry .. I just needed to vent.. What do you guys think?

Replies(11)

HcoBrunette06

replied on May 15th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Aww hun dont let that mess up your first mothers day, you had a great day with your son and your ex so thats all that matters! As long as you know you're a great mother then dont listen to waht she says. I know it's hurtful but she wouldn't have said it if she hadn't been drinking (thats not an excuse but its probably the truth)

im sorry =(

Kate917881

replied on May 15th, 2006

Experienced User

I don't know .. Something keeps telling me that she honestly feels that way and I think she does only because i'm raising damien how I want to and not by her standards.. I think because i'm young she figured I would need her help all the time and she would be buying stuff for him.. But I don't need her help I do all the stuff on my own.. I do my own laundry and his, I do my dishes, I clean up after myself.. I do eveything for him and i.. And I don't ask her to buy anything for him I buy it myself. I buy my own groceries and everything.. I just can't believe she would say something that hurtful on my first mother's day.. :cry:

ThriftyGal

replied on May 15th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

She had no right to say that. And, what a hypocrite. Isn't she the mom who is a depressed alcoholic?

Kate917881

replied on May 15th, 2006

Experienced User

Yeah.. She always says everyone is trying to conspire against her to get her to leave.. She's been like this for a long time and anytime someone mentions getting her help she flips out and gives everyone the silent treatment. I think it bothered her because before I went to bed.. I said "you say some pretty hurtful things to me but this is by far the most hurtful thing you have ever said to me.. This even beats the time when you were drunk and said you thought about having an abortion when you found out you were pregnant with me" grrr..She angers me!

ThriftyGal

replied on May 15th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Yeah she sounds very immature and selfish. My mom is simular. She just wants to fight and she never stops to listen. I'll be like "mom can you just calm down and talk nicely for a se-" and she'll be like ".D.O.N'.T .Y.O.U .D.A.R.E .C.A.L.L .M.E .C.R.A.Z.Y!". I feel for you dear.

Kate917881

replied on May 15th, 2006

Experienced User

Yeah i've heard that line a million times with her.. She loves to start yelling and it's like "mom your not going to get anywhere if you yell because you'll only end up losing your voice and then you still won't get your point across" and she'll say " y.O.U.R. A.L.L. T.R.Y.I.N.G t.O c.O.N.S.P.I.R.E a.G.A.I.N.S.T m.E.!!!"

ThriftyGal

replied on May 15th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Yeah that is crazy people for you.

Melissa_20

replied on May 15th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

So happy my parents aren't like that.I would die

Kate917881

replied on May 15th, 2006

Experienced User

Don't get me wrong.. My dad is wonderful ... But my mother is crazy. Lol

Melissa_20

replied on May 16th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

My parents were never drunks or anything but my dad sure could be an ass sometimes.But he is an awesome father

GreenPeace

replied on May 18th, 2006

New User

For Kate

We don't allways get what we want from situations or people and it is natural, that's part of life! I understand you feel hurt, we're often more bulnerable with people that we care about or that are suposed to be close to us and suport us and be there for us, but it doesn't allways happend like that. So don't keep thinking about that insident, it hurt you, yes but, think now about what you think about your self... Do you think you're doing your best to be a good mother? Couse that's what counts, and sorry I gotta say this but I don't think your mom is in the best position to judge you, so analized that. It matters to you that your first mother's day was ruined but... You will have so much more mother's day to come and it is problably goin to be more special everytime as your kid will grow and star saying "i love you mom" or giving you precents.
You just make sure you raise that kid to be a good human been, to learn to respect others, to learn to respect cultures, to be helpfull in society.
I'll finish now couse this is getting longer, but good luck!

Sincerely - colombian girl -

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