A lot of people have misconceptions about
what anxiety is and what it can do.
It can pick your life up and rip it apart
in one second. It's just a feeling
like any other you have though. I've
recommended this book to people that's
called hope and help for your nerves by
Dr. Claire weekes. That's the
best drug you'll ever buy for anxiety.
However, some people don't get what she's
saying in the end or feel like they're
almost cured but there's always that last
bit hanging around.
Anxiety at it's core comes down to two
fears.........That feeling that screws you
up completely to begin with and then
there's the fear of it.
You kill that fear of it and the first
fear can't grow. The second you
start thinking........Oh no, here it
is.......Is the second you start feeding
anxiety for the rest of the day or
whatever situation you might be in.
Especially when you think you're over it.
If it bothers you, you're feeding
it.
I promise you this............Anxiety
comes in waves. You might think it's
constant but it rises and falls like the
pain of a toothache. I you had a
toothache, you'd wait for the pain to pass
but with anxiety, you think about getting
married and freaking out before the alter
for some reason or whatever the hell might
happen that isn't happening right now.
We're always fast forwarded into a
zillion future events that aren't here
yet.
The best thing anyone can do for anxiety
is face it like a bully in a
schoolyard..........If you try to avoid it
everyday, it's scary. If you seek it
out and say........Beat the crap out of
me........It isn't.
Let it happen to you instead of being
afraid and don't just say, i'm not scared
anymore. Forget that.........
Really, really ask yourself how you feel
at the moment. Forget tomorrow and
the next five minutes..........How bad do
you really feel right now? Even do
that while you read this line.
You'll find you're not that scared and you
can feel the anxiety around that feeling
of not scared. It takes time for the
nerves to heal but if you just really
say........How bad do I feel right
now......There's not much that your body
can say that will hurt the question.
That's half the cure..............The
second you just sit back and take this
minute in instead of 12 days and whatever
else you're loading on your mind in the
future, you'll find there isn't all that
much to worry about. Right now, you
can feel the anxiety there but, it's just
there instead of eating the life out of
you. You can time every anxiety wave
just to see how long it lasts. That
always works to get over it.........You're
totally separating yourself from anxiety
that way and look at it like it's just
something to pass the time. It takes
time to heal your nerves.......Don't think
it's an instant thing. Anxiety took
years to get you this way........You just
have to think your way back. It might
take a lot of time but that's a good
thing. If everytime you think of how you
feel at the moment, and look at your watch
to time that stupid rush of adrenaline
that always, and I mean always
passes......It becomes boring. It's
just another rush instead of everything.
You'll control your fear better than most
on the planet that way.
The moral is...............Anxiety (the
first fear) can't ever grow no matter
where you are if you kill the second fear
of it. It's a wave that comes on and
actually sit there with your watch and
say.......Ok, let's see how long this one
lasts. They gradually get slower as
time goes by.
Don't get freaked out
again............Anxiety loves to do
that..........Use the same time pass
thing. Even if it's in your mind
without a watch. Just
say.........Here comes another
wave.....Let's see how long this son of a
health forum goes. It never lasts too
long when you time it and aren't afraid of
it.
One really good thing to do also
is.............Think of every situation
that would scare you whether it's where
you had a panic attack or 5 minutes from
right now................Now picture
yourself being as exactly calm as you'd
wish you were. I mean like........If
it was 2 seconds before meeting someone
you didn't want to see.............Picture
yourself as being as calm and talkative as
you wanted to be. We feed ourselves
with being scared in every
situation.............Feed yourself with
being calm from this second to forever.
There's nothing to be afraid of
anymore..........Time how long every
feeling lasts and it becomes boring.
