A lot of people have misconceptions about what anxiety is and what it can do. It can pick your life up and rip it apart in one second. It's just a feeling like any other you have though. I've recommended this book to people that's called hope and help for your nerves by Dr. Claire weekes. That's the best drug you'll ever buy for anxiety.
However, some people don't get what she's saying in the end or feel like they're almost cured but there's always that last bit hanging around.
Anxiety at it's core comes down to two fears.........That feeling that screws you up completely to begin with and then there's the fear of it.
You kill that fear of it and the first fear can't grow. The second you start thinking........Oh no, here it is.......Is the second you start feeding anxiety for the rest of the day or whatever situation you might be in. Especially when you think you're over it. If it bothers you, you're feeding it.
I promise you this............Anxiety comes in waves. You might think it's constant but it rises and falls like the pain of a toothache. I you had a toothache, you'd wait for the pain to pass but with anxiety, you think about getting married and freaking out before the alter for some reason or whatever the hell might happen that isn't happening right now. We're always fast forwarded into a zillion future events that aren't here yet.
The best thing anyone can do for anxiety is face it like a bully in a schoolyard..........If you try to avoid it everyday, it's scary. If you seek it out and say........Beat the crap out of me........It isn't.
Let it happen to you instead of being afraid and don't just say, i'm not scared anymore. Forget that......... Really, really ask yourself how you feel at the moment. Forget tomorrow and the next five minutes..........How bad do you really feel right now? Even do that while you read this line. You'll find you're not that scared and you can feel the anxiety around that feeling of not scared. It takes time for the nerves to heal but if you just really say........How bad do I feel right now......There's not much that your body can say that will hurt the question.
That's half the cure..............The second you just sit back and take this minute in instead of 12 days and whatever else you're loading on your mind in the future, you'll find there isn't all that much to worry about. Right now, you can feel the anxiety there but, it's just there instead of eating the life out of you. You can time every anxiety wave just to see how long it lasts. That always works to get over it.........You're totally separating yourself from anxiety that way and look at it like it's just something to pass the time. It takes time to heal your nerves.......Don't think it's an instant thing. Anxiety took years to get you this way........You just have to think your way back. It might take a lot of time but that's a good thing. If everytime you think of how you feel at the moment, and look at your watch to time that stupid rush of adrenaline that always, and I mean always passes......It becomes boring. It's just another rush instead of everything. You'll control your fear better than most on the planet that way.
The moral is...............Anxiety (the first fear) can't ever grow no matter where you are if you kill the second fear of it. It's a wave that comes on and actually sit there with your watch and say.......Ok, let's see how long this one lasts. They gradually get slower as time goes by.
Don't get freaked out again............Anxiety loves to do that..........Use the same time pass thing. Even if it's in your mind without a watch. Just say.........Here comes another wave.....Let's see how long this son of a !**@! goes. It never lasts too long when you time it and aren't afraid of it.
One really good thing to do also is.............Think of every situation that would scare you whether it's where you had a panic attack or 5 minutes from right now................Now picture yourself being as exactly calm as you'd wish you were. I mean like........If it was 2 seconds before meeting someone you didn't want to see.............Picture yourself as being as calm and talkative as you wanted to be. We feed ourselves with being scared in every situation.............Feed yourself with being calm from this second to forever.
There's nothing to be afraid of anymore..........Time how long every feeling lasts and it becomes boring.