Hi,

i read your post and I thought to myself that at least you look at yourself in a positive way, saying that you are not unattractive. I wouldn't be able to say that about myself!! Life can feel really tough sometimes and feelings of depression are high. When I feel depressed I always try to think of somthing positive to bring me out of it.
As for finding a guy, I would say that if you look to hard it won't happen, but just let it happen, think positve and positive things will happen for you believe me. You sound as though life has been rough with you, and at times it can be hard to figure out what positive things you have in your life, but please be positive and believe in yourself. I know this sounds really naff but it does work! Maggie

Thanks so much maggie for your reply. U have no idea how nice it was to have such a positive and supportive response. Thankyou again. Regards, suzi

There's a great amount of people that have been through this face. Depression doesn't come from been ugly, or not having enought money etc... It comes from not having the quality of life you want or you think you deserve at this moment and feeling kind of empty at some point. Even people that are famous or rich and supossely have it all, a lot of them suffer from depression. I my self, have experience this emotion and I know it is very hard to control sometimes and we become very sensitive and anything can hurt us. I wasn't this depress person untill I went to a foreing country where I didn't know anyone and eather speak the language so I kept in home by my self often just thinking negative.
So what we must do suzii is to make a plan, change prospective and think... "so what i'm a going to do about it now" instead of "dear me, why is this happening to me?" I know that's the 1st thing in ur head, to feel sorry and pity for yourself, I been there!... But we must over come the obstacules and find a solution, star acting in our favor, so good luck suzii.
Colombian girl

Hi, don't think you have to be the one doing the searching... I'm sure you are a special person & have lots to give to a partner, let them be lucky enough to find you! Hows your social life... Do you get out & about enough to meet new people! People do get hurt in relationships... You will have to kiss many frogs before you find your prince... But thats the way it goes so don't put yourself down & wonder 'why' your not finding anyone! It will happen, just keep being yourself! Xxx