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Q: Am I Crazy?

asked by: khokha on May 11th, 2006

New User

Well, my problem can be specified in one word "me"!!
I have had many boy friends during my life, I am 24 yrs now, and I am alone..The problem is that me the one who always end the relation, by just leaving the victim "boy" and went away, or treating him in such a very bad way that makes him hate me and force him to leave me.

I felt very broken and alone each time I end a relation.. But I finally realize that the problem lies on me.

I dunno what to do, I would like to have a boyfriend, fall in love, get married and have a children, like any other girlz...

Lately, I become very awful in dealing with guyz who flirt with me... Each time anyone tries to flirt with me, or tries to have a date with me,,,, I become very aggressive and treat him very bad.

Am I crazy?

Replies(5)

Kensf2

replied on May 11th, 2006

New User

Your not crazy.
I'm the same. When ever a girl shows any interest in me these days I just cant take it. I used to be really good with girls back in school but then one day I just lost all my confidence and now I usually just try and ignore them when they start showing any interest in me. But i'm afraid I cant really help you because we seem to be in the same situation and I have been for some time now. At least I konw its not just me it happens to. Someone should help us out.

RedDelight

replied on November 3rd, 2006

Experienced User

kensf2 wrote:

your not crazy.
I'm the same. When ever a girl shows any interest in me these days I just cant take it. I used to be really good with girls back in school but then one day I just lost all my confidence and now I usually just try and ignore them when they start showing any interest in me. But i'm afraid I cant really help you because we seem to be in the same situation and I have been for some time now. At least I konw its not just me it happens to. Someone should help us out.

humm.. I'll try my best!

It sounds like, to me- that you both are missing something in your life..And as bad as you want to think it's having a relationship with the oppisite sex- I think you should concentrate on something more important- you!! You have to make yourself happy, before you can make someone else happy Smile

i am going through something similar. I don't know how to handle being hit on or receiving compliments. I get mad- ticked. Like someone's trying to lock me down- even though the person could just really have an innocent crush- and wants to be around me. You don't need a man/woman to make you happy. I'm learning that now. Do something you used to love- might just turn that frown upsidedown Smile

good luck- hope you both are well!

-red-

paul995

replied on May 1st, 2007

Experienced User

well . . . i think you are . . . well at least to those guys who seem to like you.

How would you be able to know if the person is worth it if you don't even dare to give him a try? if you become too agressive?

you probably have learned a lot of things during your past relationships and it's now time for you to come into a realization that it's time to calm down and make a relationship work . . .

GreyWolf

replied on October 16th, 2008

Experienced User

No you aren't crazy!

I think that because you have had relationships with many guys, you feel a bit "back-off" ish at the moment? Am I right?

You will find someone. Baing single at the moment isnt a bad thing.
Is a boyfriend so important right at this moment? Give yourself a bit of time to yourself. Work out exactly what it is you want at the moment. Maybe try being friends?
Try and enjoy being single, and when you find that special person you will know it!

It's understandable that you want guys to back off a bit at the moment, but instead of being aggressive, if you really aren't happy with it then let them down gently.

ServiceU

replied on May 23rd, 2009

Supporter

i have a b/f but i get irritated when guys beep their horns, make cat noises, or whistles.
i think you should see a therapist. they probably can get to the bottom of why you do those things. when you find out why maybe you can work on "you".
how were you raised? how was your childhood?

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