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Scared443
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So Scared, Need Reassurance Please!!!
Posted: 05-09-06 16:20pm
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I am 18 weeks and 1 day pregnant today.
My due date is october 9th.
My boyfriend and I got in a huge fight in
january and I ended up cheating on him
(god I feel like the worst person in the
world for it.)
my lmp started january 2nd ended january
6th than I bled for another day after.
Had sex with other guy january 6th
had sex with boyfriend january 15th
my cycles are usually 26 to 28 days never
anymore or anyless.
I had an ultrasound at 7 weeks pregnant a
regular ultra sound and vaginal one.
The lady said I concieved january 16th
give or take a day.
Please tell me can I relax and know this
is my boyfriends baby or is my life ruined
because of my infidelity. I am almost
in tears right now, I am so scared.
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teach486
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Posted: 05-09-06 16:26pm
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Based on the information you provided I
would agree with the date that the nurse
gave you. On a 28 day cycle most women
will ovulate 14 days after the first day
of their last period. Since you started
your period on january 2nd, that would
indeed make it around january 16 when you
conceived. Good luck with your pregnancy
and birth. There is nothing like bringing
a new life into the world.
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Scared443
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Posted: 05-09-06 16:27pm
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If I were to be more fertile the 11th to
the 17th does that mean those are the days
I would of had to have sex to concieve?
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Mabel
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Posted: 05-09-06 16:31pm
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In all honesty, no one here will be able
to tell you who the father is. It is all
speculation and you 'probably' ovulated on
those days (11-17) - but, in fact, we do
not know. The only for sure way to know
is a blood test after the baby is born.
What I can say is it is more than likely
your boyfriend's baby ~ but again, that is
only my opinion based on the evidence you
have provided and there is no way any of
us can know for sure.
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Mabel
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Posted: 05-09-06 16:34pm
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| scared443
wrote: | | if I were to be more fertile
the 11th to the 17th does that mean those
are the days I would of had to have sex to
concieve? |
sperm can live anywhere from 3-5 days, so
the answer is no, you don't have to have
sex on that particular day. You can have
sex days before and still get pregnant.
Did you use protection at all?
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Scared443
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Posted: 05-09-06 16:39pm
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Damn it i'm such an fool. No I didn't
use protection I was drunk and stupid.
My ultrasound tech told me that I had
concieved the 16th give or take a day
which would be right on with my
boyfriend.
With the other guy I would have had to
ovulate anywhere from the 6th to the 11th.
But as far as ultrasounds so early in
the pregnancy i've reasearched and heard
from my doctor and u/s tech that they are
accurate within 3 days. So that
eliminates the possibility of the other
guy if the u/s tech was right.
Also I don't know if this is true but the
farthest from conception that implantation
bleeding occurs is 12 days, average 6-12
days and I had implantation bleeding on
the 25th. So that would make the soonest
I ovulated on the 13th which would make
the other guy out of the question right?
God I can't believe I did that.
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El
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Posted: 05-09-06 18:27pm
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I'm with sandralynn on that one, never
speak of it again.
It's far more likely the baby is your
boyfriend's child. There is a remote
chance that it's not, (i myself conceived
my second child just 2 days after a
period)
if you are in doubt later on, after the
child is born, or some time in the future,
then get a dna test done.
For now, focus on keeping yourself, and
your relationship healthy.
Forget your mistake, but remember the
lesson.
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2scared2funtion
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Posted: 05-09-06 20:15pm
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Ok I had sex like around the 25 of april
so does and now im almost 5 days late does
that mean I could be preggy?)(based on the
info u posted the baby is your boyfriends
so quit worrying )
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El
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Posted: 05-09-06 20:32pm
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| 2scared2funtion
wrote: | | ok I had sex like around the
25 of april so does and now im almost 5
days late does that mean I could be
preggy?)(based on the info u posted the
baby is your boyfriends so quit worrying
) |
take a test if you are worried.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 05-09-06 20:34pm
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Yeah 2scared2function you're pregnant
definitely
i love being a doctor =) I have alllll the
answers!
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Scared443
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Posted: 05-09-06 21:41pm
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Thanks so much for the support and
information I am about 95% positive it's
my boyfriends but that little chance that
it couldn't be is freaking me out. I'm
just going to enjoy this pregnancy with my
boyfriend and not speak of it again, even
though it is so hard especially with all
these hormones from pregnancy going on.
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Scared443
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Posted: 05-09-06 22:22pm
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I will never be that stupid to blurt it
out. Besides I really am pretty damned
confident it's his because of the fact all
the dates match up. I was completely
confident up until I hit about 14 weeks
and all of a sudden started thinking about
it more and more. Maybe my hormones or
something?
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-10-06 10:07am
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The baby is 100% your bf's. With a 26-28
day cycle you are epxepcted to ovulate
someitme between day 12-15 and you had
intercourse at the proper time with your
bf . Good luck and don't stress anymore!
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Emma2
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Posted: 05-10-06 10:09am
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Oh and the problem is guilt that you feel
.....Its normal but rest assured its your
bf's
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DylanJacob
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Posted: 05-10-06 11:15am
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| hcobrunette06
wrote: | yeah 2scared2function you're
pregnant
definitely
i love being a doctor =) I have alllll the
answers! |
lol terra! The incredible internet doc!
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 05-10-06 11:38am
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| sandralynn
wrote: | u would have been most
fertile from the 11th to the 17th...
Hope that
helps. |
ok smarty pants,i think I have my period
around the 10th or 11th of every
month,what about me?
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mommy555
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Please Help Me Too
Posted: 05-17-06 20:42pm
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I did the same thing...My b/f and me got
into it....And I cheated on him...My last
period was in nov 22-24 only lasted 2
days(weird b/c I last 5 days)well my due
date is sept 1 and I had sex with the
other guy on dec 16...Whose the daddy?I
had sex with my b/f dec 13 and almost
everyday before that....I love him and I
know he will be a great dad...Even though
we both fight and have mess up
b4....Please help!!!!!!!! :(
gurrl I know how you feel !!!!!
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Scared443
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Posted: 05-26-06 16:39pm
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Mommy - from what you told me it sounds
like if you have a regular period of 26-28
days it's gotta be your b/f's it's so hard
to tell because you were with that dude 3
days after your b/f. I don't want to
freak you out at all!!! Did you get an
early u/s? That'll be the most acurate on
when you concieved. Feel free to email
me anytime!!!! I had a talk with my
doctors and stuff and they said they were
pretty much positive mine is my boyfriends
because I was with him and (that stupid
mistake guy) 10 days apart and my u/s's
equal to the exact date I concieved which
was with my boyfriend.
But please email me anytime you want to
because I know how your feeling it
sucks!!!! But seriously from what you
told me it would most likely have to be
your boyfriends because the last time you
were with your boyfriend was on your cycle
day like 19 or 20. So if you have pretty
normal periods you should be okay.
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