The first thing i'm gonna do I just hug you. You sound like you need a big one.

Now i'm gonna ask you what you feel like doing right now... (caferul what you wish for cos depending on what it is I may tell you to do it :) )

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Fgshl

Aww tanya, dont be upset, hes probably being a typical bloke and just running scared because he nos your pregnant and its worring him, but hes got to relise that hes got a baby on the way and that he needs to treat you like a princess atm even tho he should ne way! Lol but even if you to split up or you leave him, you will be the best mummy your baby could ever ask for, dont doubt that your be a bad one because you wont, your boyfriend will come around, hes just scared, and I no your probably just as scared but your be a great mummy just like the rest of the girlies on here! Hehe :-) you can always talk to us even tho im new here but yeah lol. Hope things go ok with you and erik and the baby :-) xxxxx

Tanya erik is a jerk sorry but thats all there is to it, I dont mean to be rude because you know I love you to death and i'd never ever try to hurt your feelings, but i'll hold him down while you cut his d*ck off k? :wink:

you can do this alone, im not saying to break up with him, but you deserve way better than that. After the stories you've told me, you know you can do better. Just because you're having his baby doesn't mean you have to sit there and take the verbal abuse its not right. You can still dump him and have him in the babys life. You dont .H.A.V.E to dump him, but wow... I sure wouldn't want to be in a relationship like that for the rest of my life.

Good luck hun, you know im here if you need me =)

Hi tanya, sorry things aren't going well for you.
My opinion.....In the end, when you look at the big picture, you will be the primary caregiver for the baby if you and the father are together or not. Sure he may change a diaper here and there, but overall it's you that will be taking care of the baby. If he's already showing his priorities, then it's likely he won't put his child first. So if things don't work out, it could be for the best....As hard as that may be at first, i'm sure things can only get better afterwords. Good luck!

If you think leaving him would be the best thing for you and for baby, then do it. You and that baby deserve to be in a loving and stable environment, and he just sounds like an immature little punk. As for no other man wanting you once you have a kid, that's so not true. Actually, you're probably more likely to find a loving and caring guy if you already have a child.

Remember, just because his sperm had some sense of direction does not make him a dad. A father, yes, technically... But it takes more than that to be a dad. Just ask yourself if you really want to bring your baby into that environment.

Men are pigs.

Amen.

Yeah but - he sounds like a person really, sorry to be blunt but if he is making you question your mothering skills then he really is. You're gonna be a fab mom and you should dang well know it!

Vent as much as you like! :)

I want in on the bash! Tanya f*ck him! (wait already did that lol sorry couldnt help myself) anyways you shoulb be worrying about whats best for you and that baby right now and I think that is to do the homeschool thing to give yourself the best chance to support your baby. I didnt have a daddy and I dont feel the least bit deprived my mommy was my mommy and daddy and I prefer it that way. Sometimes its better to not have a dad then to have a sh*tty one.

Haha thanks everyone i've already calmed down though I think it's the hormones and maybe it wasn't such a big deal to start with? The home school thing sounds so tempting because I would be making myself independent and increasing my chances of university and such. But I kind of see how he'ld feel because i'ld absolutely die if someone took my baby to live somewhere else.

Here my advice

i see nothing wrong with a guy watching porno its just something they do unless it takes over their life then I wouldn't worry that didnt bother me but lying and decieving you did bother me.....


I think you need to leave him, you can still stay friends and have him in the childs life / you can stay with him and look around for other fish in the sea just because its his sperm doesnt mean that someone else cant be the dad and I know a few odd guys who would love to be a dad.


When you preggo you dont need the added stress trust me, if your worried because you dont know how you will do it then I can help you there they're so many resources available to you its insane you can get your own appt and ei/welfare plus other little benefits...



Let me know if you want to do it I think your bf is just doing it with you and I think you can do better your pretty and seem really nice I dont know who wouldnt take a leap into good luck!!


Jess

I totally agree with jess.Not all guys will turn you away cause you have kids,actually I know a lot of guys who wouldn't mind dating a chic with a kid! I can't give great advise cause i'm not in the best situation right now but good luck and either way you decide to go,it will work out for the best!

Hows it going? Sorry, random maybe but I really feel bad about this one :(

Poor girl.She must feel worss than I do.I'm fighting with my b/f and all but she's pregnant,and stress while pregnant is badddd! Wish we could help

Same - hugs via the world wide web tanya!

Yeah i've decided not to worry about it for now. I mean I cry about something every day so it must just be the pregnacy making me emotional. I don't want to act on anything for the time being because when I get my head on straight I might regret it or see it wasn't necesary to get worked up. Haha I was kind of feeling emotional when I wrote that. I feel completely better now. I'm just effing crazy that's all.

I agree with everyone else do what is best for you and your baby but, I have to defend myself because i'm a man. There are alot guys out there that make men in general look like assholes. Me and my wife both equally take care of the boys. I never have had a doubt what my proiorties were, my boys. Trust me when I say this, there are many more guys out there that will want you child or not but you have to make sure that they are in it for both of you.

Good luck,

brent