You would only go to a doctor if your problem was a consistent ongoing one. You're a virgin - you really need to get sexual experience before you can jump to the conclusion that you have any kind of problem.

Unless there's intercourse, your performance doesnt really come into the equation. There's not really such a thing as premature ejaculation when you're not having sex.

Hell, if anything she's probably relieved that she can make you come, and relieved that it didnt take so long that her arm fell off.

It's early days, you're new to this - right? So you're bound to be excited. Just relax, explore each others bodies when you're ready to, and just chill out about it. If she'd dump you over something silly like this then she wouldnt be worth it anyway. I doubt you have a problem. Just see how things go

Thanks for all the advice.

Is there a way I can prolong it or will it naturally happen over time with her as we get more used to each other. Also what is the average ejaculation time?

depends on sexual activity. I mean, if you are excited like hell it will ejac fairly quicky. But if you got your mind somewhere else, stressed, or you are "sexually tired" then it'll take more time to first "activate" and then to actually cum.
For average time, I don't know. My best score was 10 seconds I think... Lol

assuming this is new to you, you are very excited.
Plus, it's your gf who does it, so you are not able to "regulate" your pressure (slow down, stop, use it in another way; etc), like when masturbating.

What you have right now seems very normal, you don't have to worry.

Whatever you need to know you'll certainly find by yourself. There's nothing really negative you could encounter anyway.
I personally prefer not to give you any advice because if you want to try out something and it doesn't work, it could cause you stress. And you know how stress reacts on the penis.. ;-)



but if you plan to have sex, just use the damn condoms. Really. It does not "happen only to the others". And do not trust any fertility calendars !
Use condoms. Always. I'm serious. (did I sound paranoid ?)

just one bad point: sometimes condoms can be difficult to put on.

Good point, I guess if you do have a problem with "overexcitement" condoms can help with that, apart from preventing the obvious

Well, guys ive been doing kegels and stuff and its just gotten worse honistly. This time I ejaculated in about 20-30 seconds, I just want it to go back to how it was the first time we did it, because it was enjoyable.

Dont get me wrong my girlfriend has been very supportive with me by telling me that she loves me no matter what and I told her I was worried about if it carries on that it will break the relationship up but she said she loves me just the same no matter what.

I just think its so weird since the first time and I dont know at all what was different. She even ended up with arm ache the first time :roll: but since then its been no good.

The one thing this has proven is she aint just using me, im hoping the kegels will help but they wont really take affect for about a month yet I suppose.

Any comments or advice would be appreciated :)

Are you sleeping with her yet?

well, as a "defense", you could tell your gf that you can't control the penis' pressure (in fact: no man can). You kinda know when you have to slow down and such, but you do not deside when exactly you ejaculate.

At least she won't be able to blame you.

Thanks for the advice, no im not sleeping with her yet and thats one of the things im dreading really but I dont think it will happen for a while yet.

You really shouldn't be dreading it!

Look - once you're having sex, assuming you're on top, you're in control over how much stimulation you're getting. With oral or hand jobs that's not the case. So all you have to do is exercise a bit of self restraint, think about your granny or something.

It'll be fine, it should be something to look forward to, not dread.

When the time comes, if you're afraid of leaving her behind, invest some time in oral on her first, and take things slow. I wish you all the best, wee man!!! X

I think its very strange though because im getting worse and worse n its doin me head in. I think being like this makes it worse though.

It feels like im a lot more sensitive now, I mean before I was with this girl I was masturbating a lot and nothing ever concearned me im wondering if it will be any better if I completely quit masturbating, but I am unsure whether this will make me even worse.

Anyway if I dont concearn myself to much I suppose that will help aswell

thanks for all the help.

Matt

Hi

here is a copy of my post concerning how I got over this

i had this bad! But treated it by using viagra

here is what you do

- firstly you need access with a regular partner because you need to have sex every day for 2 weeks (not a bad traetment hey?)

- the first time you will have sex, you will ejaculate early as normal. Have a little break for a couple of minutes and then have sex again, trying to go all the way til you climax again (doesnt matter if you cant climax on the second attempt.)

- on the second day do the same and repeat for the 2 weeks

- also you must refrain from masturbating because this trains you to climax rapidly

- make sure you get your viagra from a good source. There are heaps available but you hace to be careful where you buy from. The guys I use are here and I have only good experiences ordering through them. My advice is dont go for cheap versions as it will probably be fake.Edit

^^^ you must be kidding.

Stan75,
i'm interested to know where you got that idea from. Surely it helped with pe because, after the two weeks, you were knackered. How about the medium term results, have you returned to pe after stopping this routine?

I've tried almost everything. Going to give kegels another try.

Thanks