Ok so i'm 15, 16 in june and I have been
seeing a girl now for just under a month.
Anyway this week we decided that we wernt
going to go through with full intercorse
for a while however we decided that it wud
be better to just have a play.
Right now getting to the point she has now
maturbated me around 4 times. The first
time was gd and it took me over 5 minutes
to ejaculate, but since then it has gone
pear shaped, a cuple of days later it took
me about 2 minutes! Then she did me again
in the same day and the same happened
again. Just today I had the exact same
problem, and really I am afraid that this
might split us up and that is the last
thing I want. :oops: :cry:
please could someone give me some advice,
what I should do, whether I should go to
see a doctor.
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fiona05
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Posted: 05-07-06 21:14pm
You would only go to a doctor if your
problem was a consistent ongoing one.
You're a virgin - you really need to get
sexual experience before you can jump to
the conclusion that you have any kind of
problem.
Unless there's intercourse, your
performance doesnt really come into the
equation. There's not really such a
thing as premature ejaculation when you're
not having sex.
Hell, if anything she's probably relieved
that she can make you come, and relieved
that it didnt take so long that her arm
fell off.
It's early days, you're new to this -
right? So you're bound to be excited.
Just relax, explore each others bodies
when you're ready to, and just chill out
about it. If she'd dump you over
something silly like this then she wouldnt
be worth it anyway. I doubt you have a
problem. Just see how things go
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Mattb22
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Joined: 07 May 2006 Posts: 7 Location: uk
Posted: 05-11-06 05:24am
Thanks for all the advice.
Is there a way I can prolong it or will it
naturally happen over time with her as we
get more used to each other. Also what is
the average ejaculation time?
depends on sexual activity. I mean, if
you are excited like hell it will ejac
fairly quicky. But if you got your mind
somewhere else, stressed, or you are
"sexually tired" then it'll take more time
to first "activate" and then to actually
cum.
For average time, I don't know. My best
score was 10 seconds I think... Lol
assuming this is new to you, you are very
excited.
Plus, it's your gf who does it, so you are
not able to "regulate" your pressure (slow
down, stop, use it in another way; etc),
like when masturbating.
What you have right now seems very normal,
you don't have to worry.
Whatever you need to know you'll certainly
find by yourself. There's nothing really
negative you could encounter anyway.
I personally prefer not to give you any
advice because if you want to try out
something and it doesn't work, it could
cause you stress. And you know how stress
reacts on the penis.. ;-)
but if you plan to have sex, just use the
damn condoms. Really. It does not
"happen only to the others". And do not
trust any fertility calendars !
Use condoms. Always. I'm serious. (did
I sound paranoid ?)
just one bad point: sometimes condoms can
be difficult to put on.
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fiona05
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Posted: 05-15-06 18:08pm
Good point, I guess if you do have a
problem with "overexcitement" condoms can
help with that, apart from preventing the
obvious
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Mattb22
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Joined: 07 May 2006 Posts: 7 Location: uk
Posted: 05-16-06 16:47pm
Well, guys ive been doing kegels and stuff
and its just gotten worse honistly. This
time I ejaculated in about 20-30 seconds,
I just want it to go back to how it was
the first time we did it, because it was
enjoyable.
Dont get me wrong my girlfriend has been
very supportive with me by telling me that
she loves me no matter what and I told her
I was worried about if it carries on that
it will break the relationship up but she
said she loves me just the same no matter
what.
I just think its so weird since the first
time and I dont know at all what was
different. She even ended up with arm
ache the first time :roll: but since
then its been no good.
The one thing this has proven is she aint
just using me, im hoping the kegels will
help but they wont really take affect for
about a month yet I suppose.
Any comments or advice would be
appreciated :)
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fiona05
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well, as a "defense", you could tell your
gf that you can't control the penis'
pressure (in fact: no man can). You
kinda know when you have to slow down and
such, but you do not deside when exactly
you ejaculate.
At least she won't be able to blame you.
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Mattb22
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Posted: 05-17-06 09:38am
Thanks for the advice, no im not sleeping
with her yet and thats one of the things
im dreading really but I dont think it
will happen for a while yet.
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fiona05
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Posted: 05-17-06 10:14am
You really shouldn't be dreading it!
Look - once you're having sex, assuming
you're on top, you're in control over how
much stimulation you're getting. With
oral or hand jobs that's not the case. So
all you have to do is exercise a bit of
self restraint, think about your granny or
something.
It'll be fine, it should be something to
look forward to, not dread.
When the time comes, if you're afraid of
leaving her behind, invest some time in
oral on her first, and take things slow.
I wish you all the best, wee man!!! X
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Mattb22
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Joined: 07 May 2006 Posts: 7 Location: uk
Posted: 05-17-06 10:21am
I think its very strange though because im
getting worse and worse n its doin me head
in. I think being like this makes it
worse though.
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Mattb22
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Joined: 07 May 2006 Posts: 7 Location: uk
Posted: 05-17-06 16:03pm
It feels like im a lot more sensitive now,
I mean before I was with this girl I was
masturbating a lot and nothing ever
concearned me im wondering if it will be
any better if I completely quit
masturbating, but I am unsure whether this
will make me even worse.
Anyway if I dont concearn myself to much I
suppose that will help aswell
thanks for all the help.
Matt
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Stan75
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Joined: 17 May 2006 Posts: 4
Treating Premature Ejac Posted: 05-18-06 01:50am
Hi
here is a copy of my post concerning how I
got over this
i had this bad! But treated it by
using viagra
here is what you do
- firstly you need access with a regular
partner because you need to have sex every
day for 2 weeks (not a bad traetment
hey?)
- the first time you will have sex, you
will ejaculate early as normal. Have
a little break for a couple of minutes and
then have sex again, trying to go all the
way til you climax again (doesnt matter if
you cant climax on the second attempt.)
- on the second day do the same and repeat
for the 2 weeks
- also you must refrain from masturbating
because this trains you to climax rapidly
- make sure you get your viagra from a
good source. There are heaps
available but you hace to be careful where
you buy from. The guys I use are here
and I have only good experiences ordering
through them. My advice is dont go
for cheap versions as it will probably be
fake.Edit
Stan75,
i'm interested to know where you got that
idea from. Surely it helped with pe
because, after the two weeks, you were
knackered. How about the medium term
results, have you returned to pe after
stopping this routine?
I've tried almost everything. Going to
give kegels another try.
