
| honekaur wrote: |
| everyone gets depressed about certain things. I didn't have a single boyfriend at all during high school, and I didn't want to go to the prom. Not because I didn't have any friends, but I didn't want to be stuck hanging out with the few friends who also didn't have dates. I didn't have a boyfriend because I didn't have very high self confidence. After I graduated high school I became more confident, went to more parties and the guys started noticing me. Now i'm almost 22 and have been dating a guy for almost four years...Which of course has its own problems.
Two months ago my boyfriend and I (working at the same place) quit our jobs out of anger. Having enough rent money for one more month we decided to quickly find jobs so we could keep our apartment. I looked for a job but my boyfriend didn't even try. Because of this I had to move out of my town to his home town sixty miles away. We now live with his parents. I have no friends in this town and I don't have a car so I can't drive to my city to visit my friends whenever I want. I still have to find a job and i'm in a lot of financial trouble. I graduate college in september but i'm not sure if i'll be able to find a good entry level job especially in this city that i'm living in now. So yeah, I would say that we all get depressed because of our problems. I've thought of suicide, not recently, but I know that won't solve anything. Keep on truckin'. There's always something in life to make you smile. |
| honekaur wrote: |
| awdracer, I haven't even gone into half of my problems on this board. Some of which I can't possibly bring myself to write about on here, and some problems I just did not add. For instance, my boyfriend is abusive. Mostly verbally but occasionally physically. Why don't I break up with him? Because I can't support myself financially by myself at this point (being unemployed for almost two months now), and part of my still loves him. He is lazy and selfish and freaks out at the dumbest things. I can't move in with my parents because they do not want me back and I would not want to move back in with them. So I am stuck in a town with no one I know but a boyfriend who goes to hang out with his friends all of the time.
My boyfriend is the type of person who says one thing and does another. He says we will be out of his parents' house by the end of august but I know we won't be out of here until next january at the absolute earliest. This is a town that pays low wages, but prices are a little lower. Anyway, I have to start paying back my $50,000 loans for college next april and i'm not sure if I can get a job that pays even $12 an hour before then. When my boyfriend first moved in with me in my home town it took him eight months to find a job (he wasn't really looking, I had to go out and get applications for him and I had to force him to fill them out, so I could hand them back in). I was laid off after christmas and it took me three months to find a job. So we were both unemployed and living off of my student loans and my credit cards, so that's another $7,500 I still have hardly made a dent in to pay off. As soon as we both find jobs in this town, my boyfriend is going to spend most of his money right away as he has done in the past. My plan two years ago was to move to the capital city in my state where there are more jobs. I managed to save a little money but he saved none so that never happened. It is going to take us a long time to save up to move out of here, but I can't be working behind a counter at a convenience store earning $6 an hour for too much longer. It would be impossible to find a job with my degree in this small town (i've already started looking). Anyway, I have never actually attempted suicide. Thinking about it is one thing, but acting on it is another. I know I am more fortunate then some people and less fortunate then others, but everyone has their own sob story. I know that massive amounts of debt isn't too much to cry about, but it gets to you when you have several creditors calling you every week and you have no money to give them. |
| MsSky wrote: |
| nick19 and anyone else in the category,
Takes alot to upset me. But if there is one thing that I will get a bit aggressive about it is this. First of all your topic text is a threat of suicide. Secondly, I think you need to read my post in Self Injury forum about " Let's Review Mental Health Statutes For S-i in the "Sticky area. ". Then think who are you really hurting? Yourself and leaving those that love you behind. I have said this once and I will say it again. If there is one word that rustles my feathers it is the word "Suicide or End My Life". Yeah, easy way out of solving your problems. Just end it all.......Grrrrrr Go get some help NOW! Carrie Am I wrong anyone? Who are you hurting by taking your life? You will be dead and not care. Don't you care about how your family would feel? |
| MsSky wrote: |
| JFXMurphy
That is all any parent can expect of thier child. I personally have a crap fit when a parent sets higher standards for thier child when all the child can do is the best they can do. And I believe you are doing just that. Now, you need to consintrate on achieving the best in your life that your abilities will allow you. Set your own goals and stick to them. Setting goals in ones life is the best thing one can do for themselves. Without goals, we are just here doing nothing and happy doing it. You need to let your parents know in a nice way that you are doing the best you possibally can. And that you are having anxiety due to the fact that they are setting your achievments to high. Now, you may actually get to that point where you have met their requirments. But you will get there on your one. It's not like you are disobaying your parents. I know from experience on this one and it angers me. Again, one sibling is treated like gold due to the fact of their great achievments and progress and the other is then expected to follow in thier footsteps. My kids step mom was that was. And today my youngest son is seeing a phsyciatrist due to it. The Doc tells him is suffering from being afraid that his father ( who he no longer even lives with) will ground him if he does no do what he is told. That son is now 33 years old! You have to let you parents know that you are an indiviual person and only can achieve that what your knowledge will except. I am sure your parents love you very much and want to see you have a wonderful life and so do I. But they do not realize the damage that they are doing to you at this age. I would sit down and have a family meeting (calmly) and let them know that you are doing the best that you can do and you know that they are looking out only for the best for you. But, it is causing you to much anxiety by trying to meet their exectations. Does this make any sense? Don't get me wrong. I am a parent of three boys. One of them is a drug addict and does land scaping, one works at a bowling alley as head machanic and the other has his master degree in computer software anylist. Now does that mean I love my masters degree son better because he achieved those honors and was on the Deans List? NO! Again, am I wrong here? Please don't make yourself sick trying to be someone you are not capable of being. You'll do great! Honekaur : This is the place to bring out your problems without being laughed at or humiliated. How can we help you if we don't know the whole story. I am sure everyone on this board has heard just about every thing there is to hear and would treat you with compassion and kindness. You need to open up so we can help you get some help. JFXMurphy: Just the fact that you did not carry out you suicide attempt means you are crying out for help. Anyone that contenplates suicide and follows through, is not here to tell about it. That means for you there is much hope. If I were you (and the others in this thread) I would seek help ASAP. Suicidal thoughts and even attempts are NOT a good thing. Glenn85uk : You post is great and you make alot of sense. I am sure you have many people that love you. And you are right on when you say that children that have parents that have commited suicide are more apt to do so themselves with the feeling of cause. Not true! You were not the cause. Could have been the marrige, could have been anything. Take a deep breath and stop blaming yourself if this is what you are talking about. You have a family right here that love you and are here to help. ThomasJones and MMAFighter : Good Advice! Just so you know, as a teen I myself attempted suicide three times and all three times I called 911. I was crying out for help! I am no different then anyone else on this board. Just been there, done that. I come from a broken home. Never knew my dad. Left mom when she was 6 month pregnant with me. We learn through experience. Carrie |
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