Yesterday I Turned 28 And Still Broken Hearted Posted: 05-07-06 01:32am
I am here to write how I feel. I
found this forum thru yahoo and just
seeing if anyone here has a similar
situation as me and how do you deal with
it. Anyways yesterday I turned 28
and whats so heart broken of this is I
never had a gf yet. Still today I
never kissed a girl, never had a
relationship, never held a girls hand.
At this age I am starting to get very
very worried now. I feel like I
missed out on an important part of my
life.
Why can't I get a gf? I really wish I
knew..I always wanted to have a gf and
have a relationship. I always wanted
a girl whos outgoing, enjoys working out,
sports and having fun. Its really
heart breaking and lonely sometimes.
It always been hard for me to get girls.
I have never been to a hs dance or
prom. I never been approaced by any
girls during turnabout or anywhere.
Girls never can look me into the eye if I
look at them. They turn their head or
they just don't look at me. I been
out with a few but nothing serious at all.
After going out with a few, they just
lost interest in me, I call them I leave a
message and never call me back. I
also been ditched and hanged up on.
I just don't get why girls don't find me
attractive at all or give me a chance.
I think its my height and somewhat my
appearance & my voice, I am only 5'4,
I weigh 130lbs..My appearance is about
average, on a scale of 1 to 10, I am about
a 5. I have read many many profiles
and the type of guy a girl wants is always
within 5'9 and up. Many profiles says
I want a man whos taller than me.
Girls never want to get to know me or go
out with me. I ve asked many and
always theres an excuse or just no. I
ask out average to some attractive girls,
the ones I find attraction to.
I am an outgoing fun person, I always
dress neatly, I am no messy person, I am
in good shape, I workout all the time, I
do play ice hockey and other sports.
I can run the mile under 5 mins. I
take good care of myself. I am not a
big bar or club person at all. I
can't stand the smoke.. I do drink
but rarely, . I ve heard success
stories of online dating. Ive tried
several dating websites from cupid, match,
plentyoffish, myspace, matchdoctor,
eharmony, hotornot and no luck at all.
Since I have been on of all of those
dating websites my profiles has been
viewed more than 1000 times and I have
never gotten an email from one girl yet.
Its so hard to believe of all of those
girls who viewed my profile, I would think
at least one girl would be interested and
wanting to get to know me. I am the
one who sends all of the emails to them.
I don't understand why I can't get a gf?
They all say its easy to get a gf..Its
not easy at all!! I have heard people
say "don't look for them they will come to
you". I don't buy that at all..
Ive been waiting for many many many years
and nothing..Being 28 and never having a
gf is really really hard to deal
with..Everyday I think about it and its so
dam hard not to think of it..Its also hard
when you hear co-workers talking about
their gf, dating etc, also going out
seeing guys with their gf having a good
time, laughing and enjoying each
other..When I see a guy with a girl I
sometimes wish I could be in his shoes
just for a few minutes seeing what its
like to have a girl by your side.
Whats wrong with me?? I don't really
know what else to do. Its so hard to
think I am already 28 and never had gf.
Thats why I always go running or play
hockey just to try to get my mind off of
it but everyday its still stuck in me.
I sometimes wonder and think if I will
ever get a gf? The biggest question
is when will I have my first kiss?
Many guys have their first kiss in their
early teens and me being 28 makes me feel
so bad. Sometimes it seems like that
I might not get a gf at all..Time flys by
so dam fast and its hard to believe that I
am already 28 and almost 30 yrs old and
still no gf..I am probably the oldest guy
here in the forum who never had a gf or
kissed a girl yet. If theres anyone
here like me (which I doubt it) with this
similar situation, how do you deal with
it? Have you been successfull?
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 388 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-07-06 07:40am
I can't speak for other women, but
although physical attraction may open the
door, it doesn't keep it open. And beauty
is truly in the eye of the
beholder......Chocolate brown eyes, black
wavy hair, the way he moved with
effortless power, a sneering
expression......That's what caught my eye.
What kept me there....He is
philosophical, deeply analytical and
profound.......A diamond in the
rough.........He's got that extra
something, a sparkle a shine.
No offense to all the beautiful people out
there but many times that's all they are.
And they rely on it too much and use it as
a crutch.
What can you do?
-go where the girls are...Preferable a
place where you can actually sit down and
have the time to get to know them(and they
you). Can't start any "deep"
conversations at the bus stop or while in
line.
-it's a fine line but 1. Don't just talk
about you 2. Show interest in her but
don't become the "question man".
-telling people you, "dress neatly" isn't
exactly a turn on.
-ask people who know you to give you a
honest answer about what their first
impressions of you were, you may be very
surprised at the answer. And pay
attention to the answer cause this is what
your presenting to the rest of the
world.
-if you have a nerd edge to you, clean it
up a little.
-take a course in self confidence,
something that'll help out not only in
personal relationships but professional as
well. :)
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thriller81
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2006 Posts: 6
Posted: 05-08-06 18:10pm
Hey iwishiknew, wow dude, I feel exactly
the way you do.
I tell you one thing, its our height man,
short guys have it so tough, do a google
search and you will find an
article/statistics about how short guys
lose out on love, jobs, happiness, being
short is not like being fat, were not
recognised, take fat people for example,
you see it talked on tv every day, on
every channel because it effects alot of
people- it is recognised-
being short is not, there just isint many
of us and were just literally overlooked,
ignored by society...By girls
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iwishiknew
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 31 Location: Illinois
Posted: 05-20-06 21:13pm
thriller81
wrote:
hey iwishiknew, wow dude, I
feel exactly the way you do.
I tell you one thing, its our height man,
short guys have it so tough, do a google
search and you will find an
article/statistics about how short guys
lose out on love, jobs, happiness, being
short is not like being fat, were not
recognised, take fat people for example,
you see it talked on tv every day, on
every channel because it effects alot of
people- it is recognised-
being short is not, there just isint many
of us and were just literally overlooked,
ignored by society...By
girls
yes you are correct! Yes being short has
never been easy for me to get girls
nothing but turndowns and rejection ..I
read many many profiles online that many
girls perfer a guy thats 5'9 and up..I was
wondering do you have a gf?
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nick19
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 May 2006 Posts: 5
Posted: 10-15-06 12:25pm
Hey man, I feel the same way you do. I am
19 and I still have never had a
relationship with a girl. I dont have any
real friends that are girls, never dated,
never had a first kiss. You guys who
think that all tall people get girls.
That is completely bogus. I am 6'3" and I
cant find anyone. I know alot of it has
to do with my low self esteem and bad
confidence, but nothing helps. I hope you
find that one person for you to be happy
because I am still looking.
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iwishiknew
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 May 2006 Posts: 31 Location: Illinois
Posted: 10-15-06 21:13pm
nick19
wrote:
hey man, I feel the same way
you do. I am 19 and I still have never
had a relationship with a girl. I dont
have any real friends that are girls,
never dated, never had a first kiss. You
guys who think that all tall people get
girls. That is completely bogus. I am
6'3" and I cant find anyone. I know alot
of it has to do with my low self esteem
and bad confidence, but nothing helps. I
hope you find that one person for you to
be happy because I am still
looking.
you are still young compared to me whos 28
years old and still today I haven't had a
gf or my first kiss yet. Being 28 never
kissing a girl, just makes me feel sad
sometimes..For you being tall I think you
have better chances scoring with a
girl..Just go to any dating websites and
majority of the females looking for
relationships wants a guy whos taller than
them..And height of 5'8 and up..I know..I
have seen it many many times.
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Honekaur
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 May 2006 Posts: 56
Hey Men... Posted: 11-26-06 14:16pm
From a girl's point of view, and maybe
it's just me, but looks (height, weight,
etc.) are not everything in a relationship
or even when you're on a date with
someone. To me, I think it is much more
difficult for a girl who considers herself
unattractive to find a man. I'm not
saying all men are shallow, but
unfortunately a lot of them are. I know
a few guys who are even shorter then me
(i'm 5' 3") and they have girlfriends and
even families. If you think your height
is a bad thing, unfortunately many other
people will see it as a bad thing as well.
