Help! In An Affair With a Married Man.

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gosh I hope you all have a minute with clear ears. I met a man about a year ago through my professional career. Our company was sub-contracted with his company to provide services in our state as theirs was not liscensed here yet. Up on meeting, we instantly sparked an admiration for each other with a deep respect in our jobs. As we worked very closely for the couple of weeks it took us to set up the account, we both found ourselves at the same hotel, both away from home and very much enjoying each others intilect and positions. We developed a physical relationship even though we were both married. We saw each other off and on for almost 7 months while keeping in touch with daily phone calls, e-mails and snail mail letters and cards. In january this man left home in his state, convincing his company that he could head up my states division of his company as a representative, heading to my state alone, without his family. This mans children are grown, two in college and one just graduated college. Man in question states he just had to be near me, and could not live life as he knew it without me as I am so vivacious, loving life and great at what I do professionally. Mind you I was not happy in my marriage of 8 years and was in the process of looking at how I could afford financially to send my husband out of the house. As luck would have it, my husband was dismissed from his job of 7 years and was forced to move to another state to train for a new job. I told my husband that this would be the end and that we needed to accept what is and move on, seperate. I just had to finish this relationship without committing to another yet. Anyway, due to the conflict of interest, I left my job and became employed by the "other man's" company. I now am technically his boss in a position that he wanted. That is another story altogether. This man has been home only twice since he left in january, it is now may. Said man states that he loves me deeply, he has cried for me, he has fought demons within himself for me, as he states I am the best thing that has happened to him in his life as I believe in his goals, I encourage him in his life and never nag him. I have recently filed for divorce and am now free, financially stable and in love with this other man. My soon to be ex-husband knows about this other man and accepts it, my children know about him and they love him as he states he does them. So you ask, what is the problem? Well, this other mans wife is a diabetic and is reliant on his insurance for care, she does not work more than part time as she wishes, depends on her husband. Supposedly, in great tears and trepidation, this "other man" went home for his oldest daughters graduation from college this weekend and to tell his family of his intent to divorce his wife and become a permanent part of my life. In great tears, this man called me yesterday on his way back to his home, told me he promised that he was coming back and that he had told his mom about me, but he needed this time for himself to do what was the hardest thing in his life, leave his family and home. I have yet to hear from this man, no e-mails, no nothing. Should I take this as the fact that he is leading me by the nostrils or that he did need his time? Do you think that I should trust that he told his family? Or that he is yet leading me along again as I gave him the ultimatum that if he is that unhappy he finish it and come home to me or stay there and leave me alone? I just need an answer, from him, I can accept it one way or another. I feel like crap that I may be the cause for breaking up his family, but he states that it was over when he came here to my state in the first place. Am I being unreasonable?

Jusmeii