17 Years Old Can Get An Erection Posted: 05-05-06 00:13am
Ok as embarrassing as this sounds this was
the best place for me to try. I am 17
years old and I have been going out with
my girlfriend for 3 months now. We have
messed around and things have been great.
I am a virgin but she is not. Last week
we talked about it and decided to try and
have sex. We were messing around I got an
erection fine but when we went upstairs to
my room to go have sex, between that time
period I got soft again and I couldn't get
it up. Now, its starting to effect
everything. Even if she plays with it and
stuff I can't help but worry about it and
in turn I can't get an erection.
I have self diagnosed it as just nerves
and me worrying about sexual performance
since she is experienced and I am not at
sex, but at the same time I can't just
tell myself "hey, don't worry about it"
because I worry about it all the time now.
Please advise. Thank you
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erinjacob
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2006 Posts: 219 Location: australia
Jess Posted: 05-05-06 01:54am
When I met my partner it was his 1st time
an I had been with a lot of people but he
was the best id had even though it was his
first he seamed to no what he was doing
more an pleased me more so it could be the
same for you just let her take controle an
you relax im shore shell under stand its
your first time it will work out
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fiona05
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Posted: 05-05-06 17:40pm
It's really just a matter of relaxation.
I hope she really cares about you and is
willing to help sort things out... Once
you feel secure and understand she's not
judging you, and understand she's not
gonna feck off any time soon, it'll be a
weight off your shoulders. You're right
- it's all in your head, so I wouldnt
worry about any physical problems. Best
thing for you to try is to relax totally.
Have a night in. Watch a film,
whatever. Spend some time together.
Get naked, get into bed, but dont jump
into things. Take your time. Just lie
about and talk and have a laugh and mess
about and hopefully it'll make the nerves
go away. But the longer you let these
negative thoughts take hold of you, the
harder you'll make things for yourself!
Just chill out and take things at your
pace.
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paulmooney
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2006 Posts: 2
Posted: 05-07-06 17:45pm
Fortunately I ended up working out this
problem. My girlfriend really helped me
relax and she made me feel alot better for
the previous time. It ended up being a
pretty awesome night(it was my senior prom
night too). I appreciate both of your
responses.
