My friends tell me I am not fat and I
think it just makes me feel bad. My
friend that is kind of thicker than
everyone else was like I don't care if I
am fat or not and I am proud of the way I
look. I want to be like that but the only
way I will be is if I lose weight but I
don't want to be on a diet not being able
to eat my favorite candy for ever some one
help...
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 05-04-06 05:28am
I also go through that very often. People
tell me that i'm very slim in fact, but
it's like I don't believe them - even when
I know them - because I fear that they are
just being nice. Then I look around to
the other girls and it's like I can only
see thin people...
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AshGracie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Apr 2006 Posts: 7
Posted: 05-05-06 02:48am
I have a book on eating disorders, and I
remember it saying that we are always
looking through different colored glasses.
When you look at other people or in the
mirror at yourself, the image you see
depends on what "color" glasses you are
wearing. I kinda related it to being
what "mood" you are in.
I don't know if this would work with
anyone else or not, but last year when I
was at my ultimate worst physically and
mentally, I had a friend who I always
thought was so tall and skinny and
perfectly built. I always wanted to have
her body, and when I would tell people
that, they would just laugh and say I
already did. I never believed them, so
my psychologist told me to talk with the
girl and tell her a little bit about my
situation if I felt comfortable enough,
and see if she would agree to take a few
pictures with me. Thankfully she was a
good enough friend that I could be
truthful with her and she was nice enough
and understanding enough to help me. We
took them standing frontwards, sideways,
and backwards, both with jeans and regular
t-shirts on and then with swimsuits on.
When I looked at them later I actually got
to see what everyone was talking about.
I was actually thinner than her! It just
helped me to see what everyone else sees
from their point of view. Kinda puts
that whole "body dysmorphic disorder" into
perspective.
About not being able to eat your favorite
candy, etc.....Just remember that you can
eat anything in moderation. Of course
eating a whole candy bar everyday might
not be the best thing to do, but eating a
little bit of chocolate a few times a
week, heck even a small amount everyday,
won't kill you or cause you to gain any
extra weight. Now if I could only heed
my own advice all the time..... =)
*ashleigh*
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 05-05-06 10:50am
ashgracie
wrote:
i have a book on eating
disorders, and I remember it saying that
we are always looking through different
colored glasses. When you look at other
people or in the mirror at yourself, the
image you see depends on what "color"
glasses you are wearing. I kinda related
it to being what "mood" you are in.
(...)
it just helped me to see what everyone
else sees from their point of view.
Kinda puts that whole "body dysmorphic
disorder" into perspective. (...)
just remember that you can eat anything in
moderation.
hi again, girl. I also relate it a little
with the mood i'm in, because there days
when I feel really down and bad and I
haven't even woken up.. But I feel i'm
fat and scared of putting weight or body
volume on everyday...
Do you think that book you mentioned is
good? What book is that?
I may try to do something as your
therapist suggested you, but I don't
really think that will work the same way,
because i'm not that thin.. :\ but it
would help to clear things...
