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sh5nton

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Suppressed Memory? Posted: 05-03-06 03:34am


I am confused about suppressed memory. I went to a psychologist a year ago and he skipped around the issue of sexual abuse. I have no memory of anything like this but when I was a child I was showing strange behavior, related to sexual curiosity but too young to be found out by myself and I am having sexual issues to this date, feelings of sex being wrong and dirty. If I have no memory of anything like this happening but show signs that arose worry from my psychologist then I am just strange or have suppressed memory?

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I Have the Same Thing! Posted: 05-10-06 22:45pm


Omg! I have the same thing! I have no memories, no flash backs, no partial memories...Nothing concrete but I feel as if that is the only explination for my adult feelings... I was always self stimulating as a child, I was hyperstimulated from the age of 6 onward... Now I can't acheve the big-o with the few partners I have been with and just feel that it is "ickie". I have this vague "feeling" that something is "wrong" but nothing comes from that! I don't want to have been abused but it is the only thing that makes sense!! Well, I gotta crash...If you come up with any info please post it!! I want answers too!!!!!!!!

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Hi Posted: 05-31-06 10:00am


I've experienced this too, for me I feel like I can somewhat remember something but I never talked to anyone about it because i've always felt like maybe I just made it up or something. I've done a little research on suppressed memories and they say that it is a form of dealing with pain that we are not sure how to handle at the time. It might not have to be truly sexual abuse but something that you saw or experienced that you've blocked out. It might help to try and find out what the memory is so that you can deal with it.

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Posted: 05-31-06 14:53pm


Since it is such a vague feeling I don't really have any "fear" of finding out what it is but no matter how hard I concentrate on the feelings I can't get past this nebulous…feeling! I can’t even describe what it feels like… it’s not really “fear”, it’s not really “anger”, it’s this strange combination of feelings that just makes it really confusing! I guess that it is more of my responses in certain situations that makes me believe that it was something bad. It is just the danmdist thing!! I can almost guarantee that a ton of stuff that has happened since then is a lot worse then anything way back from being that young. The feeling does have this “flash” of a dark stairwell so whatever “it” is could have happened in a number of places. My first apartment building, my neighbor’s house, my friend’s houses…i remember being in a ton of places that have dark stairwells but I do have that tiny flash. Well, if this makes sense then please respond!

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Posted: 06-06-06 15:29pm


Wow! Yes, I have been going through the same thing. I've talked to my therapist about it and wondered about hypnosis. She told me though, that it may not help me. I really want to know what happenend to me. I think I was probably about 3-years-old. I've been through a lot in my life and can't imagine what my mind could be blocking that could be much worse than I already know I have.

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i figured out my suppressed memories Posted: 01-27-08 00:32am


first im not telling anyone to do things i did to find out mine! well i smoke hemp thought about the furthest memory i had as a child and climb back through memories untill i got there! i figured out i was molested! i am not a pot head but very spirtual im christian with native american heritage and read alot about shamans thats what lead me to the answer! again im not telling anyone what to do just giving you an option! im not saying it will work the first time but through high school i smoked and found myself having highs that were really deep like i couldnt stay outta my head. after i found out what i was looking for life didn't get easier just harder. the one thing i ask everyone is to not look back look to the future!

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Posted: 01-27-08 11:52am


I am very skeptical about suppressed memories or the use of hypnosis to reveal such memories. I feel it opens the doors for well meaning people to plant memories in those searching for answers. There could be a lot of reasons for having feelings of guilt about sexuality that do not stem from sexual molestation. It could have stemmed from the relations in your home life, or attitudes about sexuality in general. I remember discovering sex and masturbation as young as 7 years old. The guilt that I experienced stemmed from attitudes of sex being dirty or wrong. Our culture sexualizes women at an early age, yet instills the idea that sex is wrong.

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have i suppressed memory Posted: 05-01-08 01:24am


I have had a bad childhood and things happened to me and i can,t remember who it was that hurt me. can some one help me.

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Posted: 05-02-08 13:58pm


Suppressed memory, probably not. Most experts say that this is very unlikely- if you have absolutely no memory of something, it probably didn't happen. However, there could really be some other reasons for you to feel this way about sex, which you might be able to work through with a therapist.