Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 42 Location: western australia
Is a Doubt a Don't? Posted: 05-03-06 02:29am
I read this self help book and it was
interesting because it said a doubt is a
don't. I've been going out with my
boyfriend for 3 and a half years and I
have a one big doubt about the
relationship. I went out with him
straight after highschool, no real
boyfriend before then. This is the
problem. I am too scared to commit
because I haven't been out with anyone
else, experienced anyone else.
He wants to do everything he can to keep
us together, even let me have a break with
other people (no kissing or sex with other
people) then when I am on a 'break' I
can't meet anyone as good as my partner,
it's very frustrating because I have this
inbuilt loyalty and love for my partner.
I find this issue will keep rearing it's
ugly head, so what do I do? Ruin a
perfectly good relationship to experience
life? Or is this just a sign or a 'doubt'
that it's not the relationship for me even
if I love him?
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 388 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-03-06 08:05am
I think it's exactly what you say it
is.....You got into a serious relationship
at a young age and now your wondering
if......The grass is greener on the other
side? Again your right in saying this
will probably keep coming up. Go ahead
take a breather and find out for yourself,
otherwise you'll always be in doubt.
I think you can find out about other
people without kissing or sex. If given
long enough they show their true colours.
Just don't fall too fast, as some men come
on really strong and tell you everything
you think your missing from the current
relationship. A lot of times i'll tell
men that i'm married(i'm not) just to see
what their reaction is.......Most times it
turns out i'm no longer "worthy" to even
talk to anymore......I see this as a sign
of their true character and this helps
eliminate them as any future friends or
partners.
I suspect you'll find out that you got it
pretty good already. :)
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awkwarddepressed
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 70
Posted: 05-05-06 14:28pm
What you said makes no sense. Why would a
guy looking for a girl make an effort to
talk to a married woman? If anything, hes
showing you and your husband respect by
moving on. Think about what you are
saying.
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 388 Location: Canada
Posted: 05-06-06 06:33am
Perhaps it's confusing cause I try to look
a little deeper than someone's surface
appearance.......For example, someone I
know casually....Always educated, kind and
considerate......Finally gets up the nerve
to ask me, "are you single or
double".........I say "double" cause i'm
quite serious about my
relationship..........Since this time he
no longer wants to talk or even
acknowledge me..........I think this says
alot about someone's "true" character and
not the face they put forward to the
world......Why because a person is double
or single would they no longer be worthy
to just talk to? Was he just being nice
to get "laid" or shopping for a gf? How
about just being a decent person??
I often watch how a potential friend/mate
treats other people and how they react to
certain situations to spot the "real
person". :)
