I read this self help book and it was interesting because it said a doubt is a don't. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and I have a one big doubt about the relationship. I went out with him straight after highschool, no real boyfriend before then. This is the problem. I am too scared to commit because I haven't been out with anyone else, experienced anyone else.
He wants to do everything he can to keep us together, even let me have a break with other people (no kissing or sex with other people) then when I am on a 'break' I can't meet anyone as good as my partner, it's very frustrating because I have this inbuilt loyalty and love for my partner.
I find this issue will keep rearing it's ugly head, so what do I do? Ruin a perfectly good relationship to experience life? Or is this just a sign or a 'doubt' that it's not the relationship for me even if I love him?
I think it's exactly what you say it is.....You got into a serious relationship at a young age and now your wondering if......The grass is greener on the other side? Again your right in saying this will probably keep coming up. Go ahead take a breather and find out for yourself, otherwise you'll always be in doubt.
I think you can find out about other people without kissing or sex. If given long enough they show their true colours. Just don't fall too fast, as some men come on really strong and tell you everything you think your missing from the current relationship. A lot of times i'll tell men that i'm married(i'm not) just to see what their reaction is.......Most times it turns out i'm no longer "worthy" to even talk to anymore......I see this as a sign of their true character and this helps eliminate them as any future friends or partners.
I suspect you'll find out that you got it pretty good already. :)
What you said makes no sense. Why would a guy looking for a girl make an effort to talk to a married woman? If anything, hes showing you and your husband respect by moving on. Think about what you are saying.
Perhaps it's confusing cause I try to look a little deeper than someone's surface appearance.......For example, someone I know casually....Always educated, kind and considerate......Finally gets up the nerve to ask me, "are you single or double".........I say "double" cause i'm quite serious about my relationship..........Since this time he no longer wants to talk or even acknowledge me..........I think this says alot about someone's "true" character and not the face they put forward to the world......Why because a person is double or single would they no longer be worthy to just talk to? Was he just being nice to get "laid" or shopping for a gf? How about just being a decent person??
I often watch how a potential friend/mate treats other people and how they react to certain situations to spot the "real person". :)