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Q: Friend And Stupidness

asked by: oh_mommy on May 1st, 2006

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Hey.. I dont know what to do or say to my friend, because she has hiv and shes sexually active with her bf, but they use condoms. Shes not on b/c or anything, and one day she said to her boyfriend something about "if you loved me you would take it off" I guess it was in the moment and she was talking about the condom and he took the condom off and continued so now he probably has it.. He already knew that she had it though so he knew what he was getting into.. So yeah, now my friends worried that he has it.. She also has irregular periods like has it for a week heavy and dosnt get her period for liek 2-3 months.. So if she got pregnant from that she wont even know.. What should I say to her? She went to me for comfert and I didnt know what to say other then if she was expecting her period she might be fine, but I couldnt say anything about her bf and hiv

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Cambion

replied on May 1st, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Your friend doesn't need comfort - she went and screwed around without a condom and may have possibly given an std to her boyfriend. Both were aware of the consequences of their actions, so what she needs is to be reprimanded for being a selfish fool, not coddled for helping to spread venereal diseases and possibly making another child to plague the earth.

I say bed, made, lie - whatever bad comes out of her situation, she deserves. You just can't sympathize for people who do stupid things like this.

DylanJacob

replied on May 1st, 2006

Experienced User

cambion wrote:

i say bed, made, lie - whatever bad comes out of her situation, she deserves. You just can't sympathize for people who do stupid things like this.

that's a bit harsh - yes it was her fault and yes she made the decision but I bet everyone on here (even you?) has made a bad decision at some point in their life... Maybe not that drastic but we all could one day.

Just be there for her - let her know whatever you think, but she may need a mate too. If her bfd knew as well then it isn't wholly her fault and she alone should not be given the whole stick for it, he could have said no.

Get her to see a doctor - does she want kids? There are ways you can have a baby who is not hiv positive even if you are - you just have to be really careful and arent alloed a vaginal birth or to breastfeed etc. It's not the end of the world.

oh_mommy

replied on May 3rd, 2006

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No she dosnt want kids.. Well not yet, she wants to once she's older but not now, (she's only 16) but yeah.. Her siduation is kinda hard for me to simpathize for her cause I dont completely understand cause I have never had a desease or virus I could pass on sexualy so yeah I dont know.. She's on meds that would allow her to have a baby that wouldnt get hiv, but yeah she dosnt want one, not just because her parents would kill her, but because she hasnt been in the realationship that long.. She also wants to grad first.. I dont know what to do, and she's my best friend.. When she first told me she was having sex I freaked out later when she wasnt around, I told my bf the whole siduation (he already knew she had hiv and she dosnt care if I tell shawn things anyways) but yeah he was pretty ticked too because she should be careful, not careless

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