Hey dude I don't think masturbating hurt your inability to have an erection. I think you just need to relax and enjoy the experience. You should be complety honest and open with her and let her know that you need no pressure to preform and all should fall into place....If that doesn't help I would go see a doctor and check your man out.

I agree that u just need to relax u are putting way too much pressure on urself just wondering..Can u get it up when ur alone masturbating?

Yeah, I think your thinking too much about if you can't get it up again. Don't think about it and enjoy yourself :d
i think your putting too much presure on yourself

Go down on her; that'll get it up!

I think if you stop thinking about getting it up maybe you will. Try some foreplay with her and don't think about getting it up. Just close your eyes and have fun touching, feeling her, whatever. If you have to imagine masturbating to get it up..Then do so that is okay. Its a proven fact that alot of masturbation even daily is not harmful to your sex life or your "member"

~sara~

Your not gay its just that you still have feling for your ex give it time and you will see. If your new partner understand it will go away faster .She cant think thatyou still love your ex or that you want to go back with her
its normal tell your fomar lover about it is she does not understand then she aint the one for you .Believe me it happen to me an my new partner was there and now we have sex like animal the best I ever had .Comunication is the key

Hey, just a thought, but regarding the depression, have you tried talking with a counselor or therapist, or a really good friend? Sometimes, it's important to sort through various emotions and try to get a grip on your life before starting up a relationship. That could be a really positive step for your whole life, not just getting it up in bed in the short term...

Good luck, peter!!

How do we know he is still in love with is ex? And he didn't say anything about depression either?
Masturbating does not cause damage!
Like most of the above posts said, just relax. Of course it has been almost two months since you posted this, so you probably have already been able to

There is nothing wrong with your head or your relaxation and
don't believe anybody that tells you that this is a psychological
issue. Sexual stimuli are just an adjuvant to the process of
having an erection.

Definitely use cialis and on a regular basis, enough that you
would function normally every day (eg spontaneous night
and morning erections). It doesn't have to be just for sex.

Your problem is part of a greater one that is ignored on
purpose by the doctors (urologists and cardiologists) and the
media. The reason is that so far it cannot be stopped (i am
not talking cure here), but cialis (get a prescription) may help
in delaying the process of the disease.

This problem if appears under 45 yrs is due to heart and arterial
congenital defects that will cause an accelerated degradation of
your arteries, heart, lungs, etc. It is a circulation problem not a stress
problem although it may seems so and the doctors (especially the
psychiatrists will swear so).

You will be fine for about 15-17 yrs from other symptoms, but
when somebody will refer you to a psychiatrist be careful. You may
be close to being committed involuntary into a psychiatric hospital
so that they will hide your suffering from the naive society.
Once you are in that state, you have no civil rights, nobody (doctors,
lawyers, media) will help you. You will be lost in a black hole from
where nobody escapes.

Sorry to give you the bad news but it's better that people know
about it in advance instead of finding out too late that they are
hunted like animals by psychiatrists years later.
Hopefully, by then the doctors and the governments will become
more humane in treating people like you when the time comes.

Therefore, enjoy your life now as much as possible, and don't
forget that the doctors are not always your friends.

Ps: you should be worried when cialis doesn't work anymore,
you become dizzy, have respiratory problems, pressure in your
ears, have pain and neurologic symptoms, etc.
When that happens don't go to any hospital, especially a large one.