Oh you are in south africa.. I do not exactly know everything about your healthcare system..

I work in aboriton clinics here in the us... Abortion doesn't have to hurt, you can get good medicine to take the pain away during the procedure..Like regular operations they can put you to sleep, but it does cost extra. If you cannot afford it they will most likely give you lighter medicine to help with pain, from women who have had aboritons without "good drugs" they say yes it does hurt, but it is over quickly, very very quickly, and it feels like intense menstrual cramps. Yes you might be able to choose a man doc or a female, but honestly I have no preference..I have found both docs to be quite capable.

The thing is that I would prefer to have a female do it cause I dnt feel comfortable with the fact of having a man do it! So I am just hoping I can be able to chose a female to do the abortion!

I am just very scared of the pain and I dont really want my boy friend to be there with me but he is taking me and paying so I dont know how to tell him not be there with me but to wait! How would I do this?

Pls help me!
I really need help!
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why don't you want your bf there? He can offer you emotional support during something which is going to be very stressful for you. Besides, you will need someone to drive you home from the clinic anyway.

Like I posted on the other topic, they can be painful, but nothing more than a moderate to severe period cramp. Which, if you get them normally, is easily dealt with!

I dnt really know I just feel a tad bit uncomfortable! Him watching... I just cant picture that! Well I do get period pains and they are severe but the clinic told him that it is going to be painfull very painfull and I think that is why I am scared of the pain! Is this true or what?
Thanks!! :wink:

Did you have your boyfriend ask the clinic if they offer "anesthesia", you know, put you to sleep?? Maybe he cannot afford it.. Yes it will hurt, but it is like bad menstrual cramps..Which for some people hurt..

Childbirth is wayyyy more painful than an abortion, trust me on this.. I have talked to many women who had babies who were themselves fearful of pain during abortion..They said childbirth is so much more painful than aboriton.Childbirth and labor also lasts days sometimes, abortion lasts 3-5 minutes..And the pain stops after that.

Just a question...
Do you know how they do it? (the abortion) the thing is when my boyfriend phoned in they told him that it would take 3 hours and it would be very painfull! Thats why I am so worried! And he is going to pay r900 so cauld you maybe tell me why he has to pay so much? And whats it for!
Thanks! :?