Talking to Guy On the Net Posted: 01-07-04 20:02pm
Hi...I am a 21 yr. Old female and I have
been chatting with this guy for 6 months
now...We tell each other everything...Our
problems and such...We have exchanged
pics...Quite a few times...And we are both
very attracted to one another....I live in
the states and he lives in the uk....And
we both have a bf/gf......And we both say
we are not happy sometimes....And that
we'd rather have each other....What I
wanna know is am I crazy? Please
some1...Just tell me your opinion!
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mommabear16
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2004 Posts: 1222 Location: illinois
Posted: 01-19-04 15:21pm
It could be crazy, it could'nt be. He
could be giving you false pictures and he
could be a she...The internet is not very
trust worthy....But go with your gut
feeling I guess
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sparklypixie12
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 01-19-04 16:49pm
U trust an british guy 2 tell u the
truth?! Lol! Im joking!
Well,what can I say? R u in love with
this man? (even though you've never met)
r either of u in love with ur partners?
This is a tricky one cos like mommabear
sed,the internet isnt very trustworthy.U
obviously like this guy but whats the
chances that you'll ever meet him? I
mean,the uk & the usa r like a million
miles apart!! Wud u b prepared 2 loose ur
r/ship 2 come all the way here & maybe
b let down? But u shud go with ur
instincts I guess.Do u plan 2 ever meet
this guy?
Good luck,
liz
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sammisa
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jan 2004 Posts: 250 Location: Washington, State
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Posted: 01-19-04 17:08pm
No, I dont think that you are crazy, I
went through the very same thing, but
eventually, I found out I was totally in
love with the man that I was with. My
husband. I was going through alot at the
time, thought he didn't love me anymore
etc. I dont know why I thought this, but
no, I dont think you are a bit crazy!
Good luck to you, maybe you are not
"inlove" with your bfriend, and you are
inlove with this guy, who knows. But
remember you will never know what you have
till its gone, im glad I didn't wait that
long, I almost lost the man whom I was
inlove with, but didn't see it till it was
almost too late.
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ERICA1121
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004 Posts: 252 Location: DETROIT
Posted: 01-19-04 17:20pm
Trust me sweetie! Ur not crazy!! But
please listen to your heart. And be
careful. If u have any douhts, really
look into things. It sounds like a real
serious thing considering u already have a
b/f. Is this internet guy worth
everything?? Well I am pregnant and the
father and I have been together for like 3
and a half years. And we met on the net
lol. Were still 2gether and happy. I
thought I was crazy too! We didn't even
exchange pics, we described ourselves but
loved each other anyway we didnt need any
pics thank god lol hes hot though lol and
we werent even lookin for love we happen
to be chatting in a chat room and started
to argue about something and realized we
had somethin in common (fighting w/peeps)
lol and things went from there. But I
just did what my heart said and im so glad
I made that choice. He is my best friend.
I just havent told anyone how we met
except for a few close friends. My family
has no clue lol. They think we knew each
other back from high school. I just wanna
give them time to really get to know him
and not look at him like a weirdo. So go
with ur gut and keep up posted. Good luck
to ya. ~ erica.
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Posted: 02-20-04 02:19am
Hi there hay,
just wanted to share my experience with
you. I met my husband on the internet, I
wasn't in a relationship at the time and
nor was he, but even so we both lived on
different sides of the country.
(australia). We met in a chat room on
yahoo about 4 and a half years ago, we
chatted online for about 3 years, sent
each other pics, but we also insisted on
using a cam while we talked. We then
decided we should meet, so he flew over to
me and stayed for 2 weeks. We knew
everything was as perfect as it seemed
online, so we went for it and he moved
here to live with me. We got married, and
we very much in love. A lovier gentlemen
you will never meet. He is the man of my
dreams. We are now 28 weeks pregnant with
our first son, and preparing to try for
our second child after this one is born.
So it is possible to find your partner
online. I really believe using a cam is
essential if you are going to chat online
with a potential partner, so you can see
who you are really talking to. It is too
easy to send pics of someone else, and
believe me soooooo many people on the
internet actually do that. I have talked
to a lot of people online, and without any
exaggeration, there are more idiots and
dishonest people online, than honest ones
who are truly looking for love. I think
the net is a great place to meet someone
special, as physical contact is not there
to blind your judgement. At the same
time, you still need to be very careful
before taking the plunge and deciding to
go further. If you really end up wanting
to be with this guy, nothing in the world
will stop you. And I mean nothing ! If
you love each other beyond words, you will
be together. Just be very very careful,
and make sure you've done your homework
before you take any serious steps.
Good luck.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-20-04 03:36am
Yes dear it can happen, but be soooo
careful! There are a whole lot of
crazies out there. And if you like this
guy at all break up with your boyfriend.
It is not fair that you are leading him on
while falling for this other guy, and this
guy should also break up with his
girlfriend. Good luck to ya and be
careful!
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stiffjello
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Feb 2004 Posts: 4
Posted: 02-21-04 21:13pm
I too can attest to the fact that love
online is possible, but worth much
investigation. I met my fiancee online a
year before we actually met face to face.
Things have not been easy, as the usual
interactions between courting couples was
lost when we chose to type. However, we
have made extra care to get to know one
another as much as possible, and we are
most devoted. But it is a tricky
process. If you have a credit card, here
is the best 8.95 you can spend.... Find
out his full name, and where he was born,
and his most recent address, and buy a
full history report on him. It will tell
you anything regarding criminal records,
driving records, credit problems, etc.
It is very inexpensive, and will really
show you a lot about what kind of person
you are looking forward to. I found out
that my guy had reneged on his student
loans years ago. However, luckily, that
was the worst of his problems, so it was
really no great surprise. But its worth
paying the little money to really get a
full background check on anyone you are
thinking of spending more than typing time
with. Just prepare yourself, and then
follow your heart. Sometimes common
sense is more lucid than your emotions.
Good luck. It can work.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 02-21-04 23:38pm
The above advice is excellent, but I do
have to add one thing. Although these
background checks will show past acts that
you may not agree with, just remember that
not everyone is born a criminal. What I
mean is, just because he has not done
anything in the past does not mean that he
wont. And a lot of victims do not
report abuse or rape. Most people do not
ever report it, so he could still be a
horrible person. So just be careful.
