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Q: Soon to Be Teen Dad Needs Help!

asked by: CTurner1187 on April 27th, 2006

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My girl (well my ex) is 4 months preg. With my child. We used to be the perfect couple but 2 months into her preg. She told me she no longer loved me and she needed a break. I've tryed my best to work out some kind of close friendship with her since then but she doesnt want anything to do with me. Now two months later she has quit talking to me all together. She says that I have turned everyone against her (we hung around the same people and when she quit talking to me they took my side of the situation) and she hates me for it. She says that whenever we do talk, no matter if I am being a perfect sweetheart, her anger for me builds up and she stresses out til she throws up so much she cant move (she's been to the hospital 4 times since our break up). I've talked to a lawyer about what will happen if we cant work things out and he informed me that I cant do anything unless we go to court and when we go there the only thing I will be able to get is visitation of my baby every other weekend. This kills me cause I already love my child more than anything in the world. Any advice? :(

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matthieusmom

replied on April 27th, 2006

Experienced User

First of all if you don't mind me asking how old you are? Okay see if you can just talk to her and see if she is going to let you see your baby after the baby is born. And is she says no, then I would get a lawyer and a dna test ( I know that may sound mean or whatever but I would) and get the baby every other weekend if that's what you want. Sorry if i'm not much help. Let me know if I can help in any other way

Melissa_20

replied on April 27th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

The only thing I can think of is(sry) maybe she cheated and is scared it's not yours or she used you to get pregnant(there are women like that).I just don't see how someone would all of a sudden turn on you,not saying your lying,just saying she might be lying about the reason she broke up with you.Why does she say she is so mad at you?What are her reasons?

hunterjumper

replied on April 27th, 2006

Experienced User

I'm not one to be a health forum (usually anyway) but have you tried being firm with her? There's a point between being nice and then letting people walk all over you. Just because she's pregnant doesn't give her the right to talk smack about you or be rude every time you two speak.

She needs to grow up and be civil and maybe you telling her just that might shake some cobwebs out of her head.

I would simply say something the next time she starts being snotty. Something like "i realize that we're broken up, however, that child is still both of ours. You don't have to like me but we do have to be civil for the sake of that child because I *am* going to be involved in it's life as much as I can."

i would talk to another lawyer because what that first told you sounds like bs to me. Every other weekend?? If you put your name on the birth certificate you should have equal custody. You should be entitled to way more then supervised visitation every other weekend. Get a 2nd opinion.

~*MaRiE*~

replied on April 28th, 2006

New User

I think that shes way out of hand! She should be happy that you wanna be there for your child cause some guys wouldnt even care! When I told my bf that I might be pregnant he went on and on about how he would be a good father and that caca and we eneded up breakin up and now he has another girlfriend. Even though im mad and hurt, for the babys sake im gonna let him be around , and just try to make the best of it. So my point is that your ex is being straight up selfish, and like some of the other girls said, it may not be your baby. Better check that out.! Good luck and let us know how things go!

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