Hey mickey, I can say from my own experience, this is a form of control on their part over you. It is also a lack of self confidence in themselves. My ex was that way. Unless they get professional help, this will continue to happen to you. There is nothing you can do to prove them wrong. They will always feel you are cheating on them. They will always threaten to cheat on you, and some day they will.

This is not a healthy relationship. I have seen talked to others in the same position. Even though you love the person, your well being is more important than a relationship that ends in mental abuse.

My thoughts are to get help for yourself first. Don't allow his excuses run your life like he wants it to be.

Keep in touch. I hope others will have other insights.

I know, I have offered for him and me to take counseling together and I would pay for it too. I just dont want to loose him over something stupid like this, I have been with him for over 3years now. He just dosent realize how much I do care for him. I try and try all the time to prove to him that i've never cheated and that I care and love him. Well anyways thnxs for the advice, but what exactly do you think I should do, like we both go to cousenling together?

Initally, yes, but at some point the counselling will be centered around him. He may or may not accept this because in his own mind, he might not see anything wrong with the way he is acting.

Love is one thing, but personal stability is another.

The only thing I can say is, I wish you the best and I hope things work out for you.

Let us know how things go.

Yeah, I told him today that maybe he should try and go to counseling for help with his anxiety and other problems. And thnxs for the advice, hopefully it will work out ok. I will post some new topics about it if anything changes.

Hi there! I am sooo sorry you have to go thru this I went with a guy that was like that for a while and I just coulnot take it any more, it just got to the point where I just wanted to say okay if I was going to be continually accused of it, then heck, I might just as well do it but that was not right either. However I do believe the other poster iiiis correct he seems to have some deep seeded problems that he needs to let go of besides the anxiety. Have you ever checked into .E.M.D.R. It deals with such things as phobias, post war syndromes, past childhood problems, including rape and molestation problems and it is done by a psychologist so you do not have to worry about medication not a psychiatrist and I have nothing against psychiatrists but it is generally done by knee taping or finger movement they can bring a problem from the past back and it allows you to release it, it is very interesting , you might want to research it on the internet.
I do wish you the best!

Yeah, I know. But hey thnxs for the advice im going to research it right now!!!! Lol...But anyways thnxs for the advice I really needed some. But yah if I become interested I will let you know. It sounds like it would really help us.

Ok, now heres what has happened between us. He said that when we first got together that I was going to let his friend lose his virginity to me. And first off, I hate every last one of his friends and I cant stand when hes around them!!!! When I was on the phone last night with him he said he doesnt want to be with me, so I hung up on him and went to sleep cuz it was like goin on 12:00pm, so then today he says last night becaz I didnt call him back or answer any of his phone calls that I was cheating on him last night, when I was f*****g crying myself to sleep!!!! So now hes saying that hes going to leave me, and that we dont need to be together!!! And hes a few of his excuses of me cheating, supposedly im cheating on him in school, im supposedly cheating on him at night when hes not around me!!! And first of all I have no friends, second I go nowhere ever, all I do is sit in my house and cry over him and argue with him over the phone!!!!! And now I havent seen him for like 2days!!!! And im not allowed back down to his house, so the only way I can see him is if he comes to my house but he will not come over and see me!!!! And I cannot let him go I love him to death!!!! I have never fuc*ing cheated on him!!!!! Why does he want to leave me after 3years of being with me!!!! I love him to death and dont ever want to loose him!!!!!! I just wish that he loved me as much as I love him!!! And believed me that I have never cheated!!!! Im ready to fuc*ing kill myself over him!!!!!

Ok now I just found out today from my parents that my fiance might be cheating on me!!!!!, I knew something was up, ever since he met my friend and her cuz, he started to act differently like I havent seen him in a week, and he will not come and see me, and his mom told my friends mom that shes glad that he broke up with me and found someone new, and then my friends mom told my aunt and my aunt told my parent who told me!!!! And when I confronted him about it, he denied it, and he said he didnt go to the movies with her behind my back and doesnt even like her, but I dont know who to believe or what to believe either, I mean I want to believe him, but then again I want to believe everyone else whos telling me that hes cheating!!!! I dont know what to do anymore, I just cant take it anymore!!!!!