Very common for penetrative sex to not bring a girl to orgasm.
Most women need clitoral stimulation to bring them to climax, hence why you succeed with oral and with your hands.

Does this fact make intercourse any less pleasurable? Most of the time she likes it hard and fast, is this a sign that she just wants me to get it over with because shes not really into it? I dont think this is the case but I want a womans opinion. She says giving me oral doesnt do anything for her so I was wondering if penetration wasnt doing anything for her either in which case my penis has zero value in the equation.

Aw bless you - no it doesn't make intercousre less pleasureable - it just means that intercourse is not the be all and end all of sex.
It is part of a team with your hands and mouth.

Some girls find giving head erotic some don't - personally I vary depending on my mood.

Foreplay with out penetration is kinda teasing but penetration without foreplay is useless and foreplay is a bit misleading because it doesn't have to be all done before hand.

It can and should be used during and after depending on what works for your girl.

To get a good idea of what she wants (if she is willing to play a bit) is tell her that you are her love slave for the evening (or morning/afternoon) and that you will do as she pleases (state your objections if you have any).
So if she says she wants you to play with her clit ask her how she wants it - soft and gentle - up and down - round and round - intense and hard.....

The list is endless!

Alright, here's some information for you. Most women do not experience orgasm through penetration. The vast majority of orgasms women experience are clitoral. One other thing; women do not need to orgasm in order to experience sexual fulfillment (but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't bring her to orgasm in the ways that you've been able to in the past). Good luck!

I've never come to orgasm through intercourse, though I have many times through oral

i still love having sex, though, sheerly for the closeness and feeling it brings, even though I know maybe I won't come, it's still very very enjoyable :)

Definitely the big thing is clitoral stimulation. I've only ever had an orgasm once through just penetration alone. I must have definitely been in the mood then, because usually I wouldn't even come close. The one thing that I really like is him giving me oral until im close to orgasm, then we start to have sex... The orgasm is definitely better like that... The best of both worlds I think.

Yeah it's always much better if the girl gets oral before :) everything's a lot more stimulated and sensitive and 'ready to go' :p

Thanks, although I wish that wasnt the case. Actually im surprised that the penis, or sex for pleasure didnt become extinct a long time ago if this is how most women are.

Its just wierd, like I feel like the penis is kinda useless. Its like we had sex last night before we went to sleep and I came pretty fast cuz I was worked up, and I felt stupid and she was like "its ok, ill never come in that position anyway so dont worry about it". Boy, shes got a real way with words when shes cranky and tired. Why bother right? Then we went to sleep. I usually come fast the first time, especially if im really turned on and I havent ejaculated in a day or two. Sometimes we just go to bed after that cuz its late so I dont get a chance to redeem myself, not like it would do any good cuz penetration doesnt do anything apparently anyway. I kinda go to sleep feeling like a failure. Sometimes I can go a decent amount of time, other times I cant. Does it even matter?

I think I may need to start masturbating regularly again (i basically stopped after my girlfriend and I got together 3 months ago) just for myself, not for pleasure, but just so I dont come so fast and feel and potentially look like a scrub.

I really wish I understood better. I kinda just feel dumb. Oh yeah, and im 28 so har dee har har. Aint I cool?

Are you listening? Penetration is great it's just that women need stimulation of the clit....If the penis is going in the vagina and the clit is north of that then what's the solution?.......Bump and grind.....It's not as easy to orgasm as with oral cause there's no direct stimulation but it is definitely not impossible. Don't be shy get those hips moving, up down, round in circles.....Her too. And if a penis were useless we'd all be lesbians, wouldn't we?
It's probably a mental hurdle for her to overcome too, because she thinks she's never orgasmed before from intercourse that it's probably impossible for her. Help her see the error of her ways. :)

My boyfriend has confronted me with the same concerns, awkwarddepressed.

I, like just about anyone else, rarely rarely rarely will ever have an orgasm solely from penetration.

He was asking me all sorts of questions. If sex actually even felt good since I don't orgasm from it &it alone. If there's anything he could do to stimulate me more to bring me to an orgasm from penetration..

It's a tricky business. But I found [through masturbation, hehe] that I can orgasm from penetration [i used a vibrator] but it has to be really slow &gentle. Lots of moving the vibrator [which would be the penis] around in circular motions.

It can be done, it can just be extremely difficult!