I'm 16. To give a little background, i'm a junior in highschool, probably majoring in architecture once attending college.

During my sophomore year, I really didn't do much, I had friends but spent most of my time inside playing video games, mainly world of warcraft. It was aweosme, but I always knew it was just a temporary happiness. I had been eyeing a girl for about a year, and she had been with her boyfriend for over three years. They had had sex a few times, but nothing more than a few times. I was full aware of this.

I started hanging out with her, and spent more and more time with her. I fell head over heels in love with her. I loved every moment with her, and I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Stuff got bad with her boyfriend, and I was able to go out with her.

We've been together ten months. We've had oral sex, but nothing more. Since day one i've been sure she's the one I want to lose my virginity to. The time we spend together is amazing. We dont fight, we're always happy and never go to sleep angry at one another. We hang out all the time, and I love it.

However, about two months ago we were in a position to have sex, and although I started out hard when we were removing clothes, by the time we were on the bed I was no longer hard. This happened twice. This basically ruined all sexual experiences fo rthe next two months, and really put things in a shakey position. We still love eachother to death, however she feels taht the only way shed feel confident knowing I fully loved her was if we were able to have sex. I understand this, since I have absolutly no complaints or problems with our relationship. I just dont understand why it cant happen. She's stuck by my side this whole period, but I need an answer. Two months we've had problems even just having oral sex, and I think i've let my head get involved too much, worrying about "am I going to get hard tonight, what if I dont, what will she think, what will I do, why am I thinking?"

we've been in a position before where I thought I was actually in her vagina, but it turned out I wasnt. I was hard throughout that entire experience, and it has nothing to do with having a condom at the ready or the right preperation.

Any suggestions / advice is helpful.