Hello fellow members
i have a erection problem - sort of speak - which i've been living with for about a year and a half now. The problem with me is this. I can get a great erection while masturbating, and maintain in during masturbation until ejaculation. During sex I am very unstable. Basically, I have never been able to have sex with my girlfriend for more than 4 minutes. The problem isn't that I ejaculate too fast, I basically loose my erection when i'm inside of her. Thankfully, I don't have a "size" issue, because i'm fairly well established in that region, so i'm hoping this is a psychological issue rather than medical. I have only tried having sex with her about 4 times during our 8 month relationship (i'm 22 years old) she now understands that we need to work this problem out together.
Here are some of the questions I would like to ask to other guys - maybe this will prove my theory that this problem is in my head, I would really appreciate any replies, as this is very important to me. Here we go:
1. During masturbation, when you are in the "middle" of the self-pleasuring, when you stop "stroking off", how long does it take for you to loose an erection?
2. This is regarding the first question: when you stop stroking off, does your body's position have any influence on how fast you loose your erection?
The reason i'm asking those first is because I think that I may loose my erection pretty fast when I masturbate, 15 seconds and I start loosing it. When i"m standing, sometimes it is even 10 or less.
Other questions regarding sex:
3. Precum - I get pre cum early during foreplay not that much, sometimes it leaves a small stain on my boxers. Sometimes I pre cum even during conversations with my girfriend, especially when we're talking sex. Does anyone else get that?
4. During sexual games in bed - 2 last times we started up with oral sex - when I get undressed and undress her, I don't always get an erection, i"m flacid, and then when I start giving her pleasure, I get an erection... For a while. Then, the moment I stop, I maintain it for about 20-30 seconds and I loose it again. Then, when I give her head again (yeah, that happens often) I get an erection again, only to strangely loose it when i"m done. Does anyone else get that? Should I get an erection at the very begining of the foreplay and maintain it?
5. I have a feeling that the erection I get during masturbation is different than the one during sex, foreplay. During masturbation I have much more feeling than during sex. During masturbation, I don't have precum- maybe untill after about 20 minutes right before cuming. During sex I get pre-cum very early, and I barelly feel my erection. I somehow know it's there, I can see it, but when my gf strokes me off, and when i"m in her (for those few minutes) i'm excited but I just don't have that much feeling there. Does anyone else have that? Is that normal?
6. Last question. When I masturbate, I get an easy erection and have absolutely full control of ejaculation, I used to use too much pc muscle and ejaculate much faster, but I overcame that and now i'm 100% in control. During sex, just like with the odd erection instability, I have problems ejaculating, and very often, after so many ups and downs, I have to work really hard (myself, my gf just can't do it) on my penis to ejaculate, usually in a semi flacid state. Can someone tell me what is up with that?
Thank you so much for your input and I really hope your answers help me figure out how to solve this. I have read something about venous leakage and the posibility of me having this, but 1 doctor which tested me said that I have no venous leakage anywhere. I'm confused, please help me!
Thanks!
Figaro 007
