Is This Part of Pregnancy??? Posted: 01-07-04 13:41pm
Well even though this is not my first
pregnancy, I do not know if this is part
of it or not, since I was not around my
daughters dad to know it. Anyway well
lately I have been treating my dh like
crap, I can not stand him and just looking
at him gets me mad, nothing that he does
is enough for me I want him to do more,
and sometimes I sit and think that I am
been a bit ;bi**hy but I cant help it! If
he gets close to me I get mad and push him
away I dont let him get close to my tummy,
I without lying have not even kissed he's
cheek in over a week, when he tries to
kiss me I move away or pretend that I have
to do something else! He says he thinks I
dont even feel anything for him anymore
and it even got me to wonder if I do, but
deep inside I know that I do still care
for him! I dont know this is all
confusing, my mom says that it could be my
pregnancy hormones and I just think I am
being a little too selfish, like when we
talk about the day that I am in labor I
tell him that I don't want him to hold the
baby first and that I dont want him to cut
the umbilical cord and I have even told
him that I do not like his last name and
i'd rather mine!! The last name is not
really an issue I mean I will get over
taht and of course the baby will have his
last name, but the part of holding the
baby before me is something I really dont
want, I want to be able to hold him or her
first I want the baby to see me before
anyone! And about the umbilical cord,
well I didnt get the chance to even touch
my first borns cord much less to cut it,
and that is something that I wanted to do
but couldnt cause she was a premie and the
doctor just cut it really quick to check
her asap! Everyone says I am being really
selfish but hey I am going thru the pain I
also want to go thru they joy of doing
something I have been wanting to do since
my first pregnancy! Does anyone think I
am being selfish, sometimes I think I am
and other I dont think so! I am just
going crazy! Is anyone else going thru
mood swings with their dh, I mean these
moood swings are only with him I dont go
thru this with any friends or family, I am
very loving to my daughter and other kids
its just him that annoys me! Will I get
over this before the baby is born or will
he have to deal with this all of my
pregnancy. Please give me some advice!!!
Thanxs in advance!!
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nikki_caro
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Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4921 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 01-07-04 13:55pm
I think you are being a bit selfish and
you are taking advantage of a nice guy who
wants to be there for you and with you.
Let him be involved. He wants to be
loving. Do you know how many women would
kill to have a father be like that? Would
you rather go this alone? Men have
feelings too and it seems as though you
are puching him away. He is realizing it
too. Your hormones seem to be going crazy
so talk to your doc about it. In the
meantime try being nicer to your guy. The
poor guy is not even getting a chance to
play a part in this pregnancy because you
keep pushing him. Thin k for a second if
he was the opposite. What if he didnt
want to be there, and he puched you away.
And didnt care what you did. How would
you feel? Let him have a chance and be
nicer. Dont take this guy for granted.
Be nicer and loving. Let him be apart of
this family. Or let him go. Good luck!
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pregmommy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2004 Posts: 15
See Thats the Thing Posted: 01-07-04 14:19pm
I know what I am doing and I dont mean to
but I am like that anyway, I do want him
there but something inside of me wont let
him, I dont want to push him away but I
also cant stand him close to me! I will
try to talk to my doctor about this, I
know he is a nice guy and I know that he
is trying, I mean I have been thru the
part of being alone with my first daughter
and trust me I dont want that again, but I
just dont know what to do! If he gets
close to me or tries to touch my tummy I
feel like ughh dont touch me and this has
only been happening lately I am not that
kind of a person, I am very sweet and
loving, thats why he is like what the h*ll
why are you like this! I hope this is
only the first part of pregnancy and that
I get over it really soon! I will see
what my doctor says!
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 01-07-04 14:28pm
Don't know...It defentily could be.
Jennifer
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latoya_bryer
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2004 Posts: 73 Location: New Orleans
Dont Panic Posted: 01-07-04 15:45pm
How far along are you? It may be that
you feel this way now and later you'll
feel better towards him. I sometimes
feel like I hate my bf and I dont want him
to touch me or say anything to me. But
during the first part of my pregnancy I
always wanted attention from him. It's
normal dont worry too much.
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snuggles
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Jan 2004 Posts: 32 Location: Highland, CA
I Wish My Hubby Was Like That! Posted: 01-07-04 16:07pm
It is definatly your hormones when I was
pregnant I didn't want anything to do with
anyone but other times I wanted all the
attention it was all about me. But
another thingis the fact the first wasn't
around and you probably wanted him to be
just like this one is but you don't want
the same thing to happen again with this
one so your not becoming to attatched I
don't know if im right but let me know
tricia
