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Q: Want to Get Married Ladies!
asked by: wickedwanda on April 22nd, 2006
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Ladies,
i have been married for 15 years and we dated for 9 before we committed. Thats 24 years! It's been worth it!
Listen you don't want to rush into marriage.. The best choice that I made was, we were friends for 1 year before it ever went any where sexual.. He became my best friend, we had serious fun together and we challenged each other.. He accepted me when is was in an "ugly " mood and when I was stunninly beautiful.. Thru the years we have had years of tough times, but if the friendship is there, you will make it thru.
Relationship is about give and take and communication and that you have to feel comfortable with a person.. If you don't have that, then thats it folks, you will never last.
Find a man that you can relate to, have fun with, who is respectful and treats you like you want to be treated. Any thing less and you will regret it in the future.
We have had a few rules: if you fall out of love, don't cheat, just tell me.
It may hurt, but its better than getting a disease .
We always have our nights together and family nites, as well as girls and guys nites out.. You have to be who you are! Don't try and be some one your not for someone else, don't starve your self, do plastic surgery.
Because any man that is that fickle now will be a horror to live with in the future and you only get older..
I wish you all the best and keep your head high, attain your goals and wait for mister right, he will come along when you least expect it and it will be who you least expect.. :) all the best, and happy hunting.. Remember no one is perfect, desire doesn't always happen the moment you meet.. Chao bella ww
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Kittykatus
replied on May 18th, 2006
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Agreed
Wickedwanda; that is a great load of information.

I agree with becoming friends before you commit. I think sometimes you end up forgetting that and dive straight into lust at times.

Cheer for the wise words :)

kitty
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wickedwanda
replied on May 18th, 2006
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Lust Is Powerful!
Kitty kat, cool name! I feel lust can really overpower love. Sex is a part of life and love and if young woman can fiqure out the difference, that is extremly empowering for a woman.. I have another friend whom has been married 22 years and she says, she knew that her husband was the right guy, by 2 things how he looked at her and how he made her feel. Among other parts of him..Uhh and believe it or not his "smell". I was like I hadn't even thought about that, but that is what gives us great desire, in the 40's, because nature has it's way of making you face reality. If you fall in love with all those quality's friendship, smell, lust, communication & physical attraction at 18 , then that bonds grows into an unbelivable love, that for me is forever.. And that is a "soul mate".. I know it sounds weird and some of you young ladies may think i'm cuckoo.. But my man loves me, despite of my sever illness and some extra weight, he still opens every door for me and is respectful to every woman he meets.. That ladies is a gentlemen! I really hope you all can experience that, because there is nothing in the world like a soul mate.. Happy hunting kitty kat and to the rest of you.. Ww
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Kittykatus
replied on May 19th, 2006
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Lol thank you wickedwanda!!

I guess it becomes difficult to understand you, or rather accept what you say to some. I guess I could even say so; it's not offense my repsonse, I assure you, but I think that us girls are so dominated at times that we lose meaning and follow everyone else like sheep!!
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wickedwanda
replied on January 13th, 2007
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kittykatus wrote:
lol thank you wickedwanda!!


I guess it becomes difficult to understand you, or rather accept what you say to some. I guess I could even say so; it's not offense my repsonse, I assure you, but I think that us girls are so dominated at times that we lose meaning and follow everyone else like sheep!!
Laughing Laughing yes we do, we are the peace keepers.. I always say "don't start doin anything you dont want to do for the rest of your life!" ie: picking up the socks.. We had a rough 2006 and fought thru it and at the end of the year, we felt soo good, don't give up ladies
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