Cant Stop Thinking About Sex!

How old is your bf?

That's how I was during the first two years with my bf, the only reason it was just the first two years was, because he kept turning me down so much. I'd get so irritated over it that I "died inside", as I put it, and just got used to not getting any.
He was 20 when we started dating and in the last year (he's 24) his sex drive has gone through the roof. I'm not sure if it was, because I made myself less available, or because he was just a late bloomer in the sex drive area.
My best friend has been reading a book called "men are from mars, women are from venus : in the bed room" and they tell you how to make your bf more interested in sex without him knowing that you're the reason. She's tested it on her bf and she says the methods work great.

So maybe that book could help you?


Good luck!

Christa

Hey

yeah hes 24, im 21. Dont get me wrong, he loves it - I just absolutely love it!! Seriously, I dont think its healthy how much I think about shagging. As soon as something gets my mind on it I cant stop thinking about it...

I'm with you krit, can't get enough...However it does kind of rule your life...Literally ran off the road when my beau came to "surprise" me at work(professional driver). Just make sure it's not an emotional or dependency-type thing, as we women sometimes attempt to put our entire lifes on the guy and this tends to push them away.
And here's a warning to sex addicts...You think your bad in your 20s.....Wait till you hit the 40s....I'm a walking talking cliche...You know what they say about 40 year old divorcees, ouch...It's true...Day off so, currently waiting for beau to call...Want to make his eyes roll to the back of his head :lol: happy friday everyone!

Yeah I think I may put a lot of my life on my guy. I hate doing things without him, but he is happy for me to go out with my friends whenever I want. I just love being with him, and I dont have fun when hes not there.

As for sex, I do fantasize about other guys - especially jensen ackles from supernatural !! Phwoar he is seeexxxyy!! Is this bad if I am with someone?? That usually gets my sexual appetite racing...

Ive been with my girlfriend for almost 3 months now and the first 2 to 3 weeks wed stay up all night having sex over and over again. Lately however, its more like she falls asleep on the couch and then we go to bed and she basically just goes to sleep and apologizes that shes so tired and that shes sorry. Then in the morning before work we have a quick one and then get in the shower. Its kinda lame. Im not saying that happens all the time but during the week its been happening more and more.

I dont want her to think im just using her for sex. Last night she was all chipper and then suddenly we went to bed and she just passed out. I was like, uh I thought we were gonna hang out for a bit and she got all nasty with me.

Any advice here? Its starting to seem almost as if the only times we hook up or have sex is when she initiates it. For example, sometimes shell get all crazy and turned on and grab my penis through my pants in public and stuff like that when I cant do anything about it, but then when we get somewhere we can actually do something its like shes not interested.

Hello

it sounds like she is bored with the "usual".

She loves the thought of getting caught... Does this sound right?

If you want to spice things up a bit maybe take her for a romp outdoors? My boyfriend and I got to that stage where we were just shagging on the bed and that was it. Not even in the lounge room or anything. We both must have been up for it one night - at my cousins wedding we went just around the corner from where everyone was standing and he had me up against the wall. It was so exciting!!

From then on we were into naughty stuff... At his parents house in the spare bedroom with the door wide open, on the balcony of a hotel in broad daylight...

Im not saying there necessarily has to be people around when you go at it, maybe start with just sex out the front of your house or whatever? Think u can do it??

Krit xx

Hello

yes its not unusual for males to have the same problem as me, because its a known fact that men love sex (most of them). But why does it happen to me if im female?

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Hello asher

im sorry but I think your proposal is a bit crazy... Maybe you should log on to an online dating service? I just needed advice regarding my larger than life sexual appetite... I am completely in love with my boyfriend and want to spend the rest of my life with him. Stay faithful to your gf - strange as it sounds coming from me, but sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. Love is the most wonderful emotion you can experience, and I am so grateful to have a wonderful man that loves me as much as I love him. I just dont understand my own libido...

I am just like you, I'm OBSESSED with sex! I think about it constantly and need it at least twice a day. Lucky for me my partner has a similar sex drive. When I'm in the mood and he's not, I just give him a bit of oral sex then I always get what I want

It seems we always hear about Guys thinking with the wrong head all the time. What we don't hear about is that a lot of Women seem to think about sex about as much as we guys do. LOL

It's ok so long as it doesn't interfere or cause problems in other areas of your life. I can't count the number of difficult shifts I have gotten through at work by taking a moment to think about the beautiful woman waiting for me to get home and how we might say hello to each other when I got there. That being said though, after just a moment of that luxury, I had to get my head back in the game and do my work.

As you are with someone for a while, you learn that each of your sex drives will fluctuate over time and not always in sync. with each other. Routine and predictability is good to a point. It helps us be comfortable with each other. BUT! A spirit of adventure and willingness to explore helps keep an excitement in the relationship. THE DIFFICULT part is striking the right balance of the two.

Don't forget to keep a healthy sense of humor! It will get you through a lot of situations in life (sexual and otherwise) which are boring or difficult or embarrassing.

BTW, I'm glad that wife thinks about sex as much as she does. Her ideas have taken us some interesting and slightly kinky places I never would have thought of much less asked her to participate in. Nothing severe mind you. We aren't into swinging or stuff like that, but some of the positions she has come up with and role plays she has suggested have been REALLY HOT!!!

good luck, you're apparently as normal as any of us.

Hi Krittyk

I am a 31 old women and I know what you talking about. I found this thread after I googeld looking for an answer to the same question.
I cant stop thinking about sex. My sex drive is much higher then my husbands and sometimes I think that it might be easier on both of us if I just find someone on the side and have an affair.
I find myself thinking about hot steamy sex almost everywhere I go. Commuting to work, at work, in the evenings when I watch tv.. It takes so much effort to keep all these boiling emotions under control that sometimes I don't know if its worth it.
Just for some background on me, I was never easygoing and never had one night stands or meaningless affairs.
And I don't find the thought of them very attractive.
So now I am at the point where I don't know what to do..
Let me know how r u dealing with this.

Self sexual gratification. Not as good but does the trick on a temporary basis! Our minds can be very mean to us but notice how you still smile a lot!

Hey ladies! I am 42 and I think this is totally normal! 2 long term relationships behind me and I was always the aggressive one. I've recently started dating and have found a Mr. Right now. I never slept around and always waited months before any sexual behaviour was in my relationship. Except this time. What ever happened he heightened my sexual appetite from my body to my brain! And it's great! Kind of annoying ,but great! He's not around, works away a week at a time. But that doesn't stop me from indulging when necessary! Then continuing on with my day! life tells us as women we are not suppose to be sexual beings but allow it embrase it and it will become a a positive part of you! The worse that happens you smile more and people are always curious why your smiling!

I think you need to a specialist. this is not too good. This can also result to having a third party, because if you continue doing that thing, you can look for other guy just to have sex. It's not good to hear if you are having sex with others.