Really Long =( Need Some Tips Posted: 01-06-04 20:48pm
I know alot of you are younger than me and
already have children. I am twenty and so
is dad he will be 21 in april. The thing
is I work at an inhome daycare making 7.50
an hour under the table no benefits or
anything and dad is at an unstable job.
Our plan is by the end of this month, to
move in with his mom ouch! I cant stand
her and save all of our money while dad
tries to find like a 40 hour week job and
me still at the daycare as long as I can
so that we can find an apartment we now
rent someones basement for 400 a month and
all the other bills and do just fine. I
am just worried like it's way more
expensive for a regular apartment and with
the economy so bad I worry he might lose
his job. Also babysitting when I want to
go to work. My family isn't supporting us
about having this baby they'd be much
happier with an abortion but screw them
anyway they are like an hour away from me
and also my mom died in 2001 so I dont
have her and his mom is a severe alcholic
in which that case she'll only get to see
the baby when we are visiting. I am just
so scared because we really have noone.
My sis had her first when she was 17 and u
wont believe this , the dad was only
14!!!!!!!! But they have 2 boys 8 and 10
and they are still 2gether and have a
wonderful family and they had noone either
. Sorry its so long but I know you all
have been there done that I need you all
my family just tells me how much I will
struggle and that my man will leave
me(aint worried about that. Very much
inlove and he seems happier to be a parent
that me lol) anyways i'll end this before
I turn it into a book! Lol ~ erica.
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ERICA1121
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004 Posts: 251 Location: DETROIT
Posted: 01-07-04 00:54am
17 reviews and no replys??????????
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Ansleyt2004
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Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 346 Location: MS
Posted: 01-07-04 02:36am
Moving in with them might be a good idea
to save money and all that.... I have a
friend that is doing that now so they can
try to get a house.... As far as yall I
think yall will do just fine.... Just
give things time it will all work out and
im sure once u have the baby there will be
plenty of people there to help you out
with the babysitting part..... And dont
worry what other people say or think....
You know whats going on and what everyone
else thinks doesnt matter..... But I
really do I think yall will do just fine
its a lil hard everynow and then for
everyone but you can work thru it and get
past all that..... And maybe if he finds
a good enough job if wanted u could just
quit n stay at home with the baby when it
gets here or continue to work.... I mean
its all in what you want..... Not what
anyone else wants.... I know the money
situation is hard and prolly will get hard
a lot of times but ull do fine!!
Goodluck and hope the best for ya!
Ansley
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5235
Posted: 01-07-04 10:17am
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ERICA1121
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004 Posts: 251 Location: DETROIT
Posted: 01-07-04 20:03pm
Thanks soooooooo much!! What messenger
type do u have? ~ erica.
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insurancegirl
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Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5235
Posted: 01-08-04 09:09am
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Mesmerizeu15
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Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2677 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 01-08-04 09:25am
Ok. What do I have to say about this. I
got one, been there done that. My mom is
a nut!! I had to leave my home with a 2
month old baby, because my mom lost the
house and car to crack. My boyfriends mom
wouldnt take us because she is money
hungry and doesnt care about anyone but
her precious daughter. She gets money
from the state for her, that is the only
reason. We recently went to visit her and
it was no good, she was always out
drinking and didnt spend anytime with us.
The hosue was dirty and itwas just a mess.
I think that you need to do something
else, that is not a good environment to
bring a baby into. Have you thought about
asking the state and asking for some type
of assistance? There is a thing called
hud. I mean I know that a lot of us dont
wanna be "welfare cases" but I think that
it is better than begin stuck in a messy
situation. I am on wic, and it is the
best thing ever!! I hope that everything
works out, and I dont that you understand
where I am coming from. I am here for you
if you need me. I also have aol
mesmerizeu16!! Talk to you soon!!
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ERICA1121
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2004 Posts: 251 Location: DETROIT
Posted: 01-09-04 00:31am
Thanks mes. Yeah we plan on bein out be4
the baby is here but I get so stressed
just thinkin about it all. By the way,
what is a hud?? My worker said I am
eligable for ebt food stamps w/e and wic
and I also have medicaid that makes me
feel a lil better since I can use it for a
while till I go back to work about 4
months after the baby is born and when I
can help daddy out I can get off its just
where we live now , paying rent and bills
and all, there are rules and we cant bring
a baby into the home due to some contract
stuff anyway lol by payin so much here, we
would not be able to save enough money for
another place like an apartment be4 the
baby is here so we have no choice but to
go to his "mommy's" like I
said thx again and ill talk to ya soon :d
~ erica.
P.S. Baby is due end of august
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Mesmerizeu15
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Joined: 11 Aug 2003 Posts: 2677 Location: Pittsburgh,PA
Posted: 01-09-04 08:22am
Hud is low inome housing, they like find a
way to get a nice house for a low monthy
price...It is pretty good.. I have heard
good reviews. I dont know all the much
about it, but I seen it and I have friends
who are on it. I was on the medical card
and dint have to pay for anything, I am on
wic which helps but I still must buy
formula, and I dont recieve foodstamps...I
dont know I think that if you stop bby the
clinic or whatever that they should haves
ome fliers. It is becoming pretty big, or
what about living in low income housing??
I bet you could qualify, if you or the
person you are living with is over 18 or
emancipated...
like I
said thx again and ill talk to ya soon :d
~ erica.