My Long Distance Girlfriend Doesnt Let Me Sleep Posted: 04-18-06 23:27pm
It can be anytime when I need sleep, but
usualy late, around 2am and i'll tell her
I need rest...Then she'll cry, and beg me
to stay, so I do...I cant get up in the
morrnings and its killing me wih stress, I
dont want to hurt her...I hate hearing her
cry, and being so far away doesnt help
causeit just makes me feel usless.
Also...If I fall asleep during us talking,
she'll scold me and argue for hours when I
wake up. I can understand this, I can,
but I did warn her...I did tell her I
needed sleep.
I love her, and we are engaged to marry,
so far it sbeen rocky but we've held up,
but this problem is causing me so much
stress. Everytime I try to bring it
upwith her, she gets really upset and asks
me things like 'dont you care when im
upset?' and itsthings like that that
really kill me.
What should I do?
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jen_reeves
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Mar 2006 Posts: 3
Posted: 04-18-06 23:49pm
Hi. I'm in a long distance and i'm
engaged as well. My fiance is very busy
with work and I definitely have to
understand he is that way. Whenever we're
on the phone at nite and he has to get up
early the next day, he simply says "baby,
you know I have an early day tomorrow, I
should get going, I will call you on break
time tomorrow" and no matter how difficult
it is for me to let him go, I have to do
it, I have to understand him and I have to
think about whats best for him. I
strongly believe that all relationships
have to be built upon communication, ppl
are supposed to talk about whats bothering
them so both can work things out finding a
middle point where neither you nor her
lose. Tell her gently whats going on with
you, how the lack of sleep is affecting
you, maybe you can schedule to call her
earlier or you can make it up by giving
her a quick call during the day and then
one at nite, or send her an email as well.
If she loves you, she will definitely
have to understand you, and she has to
seek for your wellness. Good luck!
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mike9856746
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 May 2004 Posts: 67 Location: ,
Posted: 04-19-06 00:18am
Seldom am I judgemental of people, but I
gotta say, your girlfriend is being
downright selfish. She's showing that she
doesn't care at all about your needs, and
more than anything that her needs take
prescedence over yours no matter what. If
she's so utterly emotional about you
denying her needs, no matter what the
detriment to yours, that cannot be
classified as anything short of extremely
selfish. Sorry to be harsh, but I think
you need to tell her that.
