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Q: Come Off It - It Aint That Small!

asked by: dekemc on April 18th, 2006

New User

I'm slightly confused by my girlfriend. She recently confessed that she wishes I was a bit wider and longer. I am 5.5" erect and im not sure about the girth but it looks in proportion to be honest. From what I have read I have always considered this slightly below average, but not exactly tiny.

What confuses me is that she has practically no interest in foreplay, and whenever we have sex she just wants me to put it straight in and hammer away. Considering what I have read about what women like about sex, I find this bizarre. I mean, has she always been really lucky with boyfriends in the past (in terms of size) and found a large penis just shagging her for 15 mins (a good duration she cited) to be enough to climax? It seems this is not the case with me, and has caused me to become anxious when we have sex and get limp dick a lot.

Hard and deep is all it seems she likes. Am I just unlucky that this is the only thing that turns her on? Or, has she just never experienced good oral sex, gspot stimulation, slow foreplay build up, and better use of positions etc...? I've never really done these things with her, but only because she just wants to shove it in and get going

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Human

replied on April 19th, 2006

Experienced User

Every girl likes it hard and deep however most girls also like foreplay. Your dick ain't small its average so don't worry about it and I highly doubt that another guy can make her cum just by having a bigger penis and going deep.
One pointer I can give you though is if say she's on top facing you. If you grab her ass cheeks and spread them it'll cause her vagina to shorten allowing you to go deeper. This works for any position obviously, try that its actually pretty effective.

Melissa_20

replied on April 19th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

Coming from a girl I like it when my man goes slow at first but then just goes at it hard and fast! So it;s not just her.I think my b/f is about 6 hard and he is fine for me and i've had larger guys before,so size doesn't matter in my case

ElsaSchultz

replied on April 20th, 2006

Experienced User

Why the hell would your girlfriend tell you this, anyway? It's not like you can do anything about it. Did you say something offensive to her?

Your penis sounds average to me and average is nice. Maybe her first sexual experiences were just the wham bam thank you mam types so she is now turned on by that? Maybe if you tell her you'd really like a lot of foreplay, she'd do it and learn to love it?

dekemc

replied on April 21st, 2006

New User

Well, we are not together now (suprisingly!) I did push her on the issue, because sex just didnt seem to interest her that much in the end - but I guess it is still a very cruel thing to turn round and say that i'm not big enough. It's hard because I always thought she was a better person, and she claimed that she loved me more than anyone before

i think deep down I was always intimidated when we had sex because she has had more regular sexual partners - this usually meant I wouldn't be fully hard or would lose my erection a bit.

Maybe I am just unlucky and it was a combination of her being a bit bigger than average and me being a little smaller. The fact that foreplay doesnt seem to appeal to her just seemed to make us completely incompatible in bed.

I would have done anything at all to please her, but there was just no communication whatsoever (or patience, really)

unfortunately, it has left me with my self esteem at an all time low

everglide

replied on April 21st, 2006

New User

:( sorry to hear that, at the end of the day if she just wanted the sex, then in my opion shes wasnt worth it, I kno sex sometimes plays a huge part in a relationship, but if u wanted something seroius and she just wanted sex, well tbh your better off without her.

At the moment your probly thinking your not better off without her, but if it was purely about the sex for her. And nothingl ong term (which I think u wanted?)

well as I said, you'll realise that it was maybe for the best. Now get out there and find a new girl. Its very hard , I know :o but apprently girls want a guy more than we want them, personally I dont think that thats possible, but chin up mate

(i hope everything I said made sense :s)

dekemc

replied on April 21st, 2006

New User

That's the worst thing - she never just wanted the sex. In her own words she describes me as perfect and we were together a year before anything went wrong. Obviously though this is one part of the jigsaw that is missing.

It just seems a bit odd that considering how she claims to feel about me, she hasnt talked or made more of an effort to work around the fact that I am not quite as big as she would like.

Apart from seriously suggesting surgery (she is obviously so naieve)

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