Im an 18 year old woman in a not very
serious relationship... 2 weeks ago I
found out that im pregnant and straight
away I decided on abortion...
Now the abortion date is getting closer
but I feel I have no choice, I no I will
have done damage to the baby with the
amount of alcohol I drink at weekends and
I also use illegal drugs - only
recreational - but all the same dangerous
to an un born baby..
What are the chances ive done damage.. Id
say I use cocaine once a weekend and I
drink thurs-sun on average 7-8 pints of
lager ot 2 bottles of wine..
Please help because im beginning to have
second thoughts asbout the abortion..
Although I am not stable enough to cope
with a disabled or ill child
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Melissa_20
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Re: No One Else to Ask Posted: 04-18-06 09:43am
starshine1001
wrote:
im an 18 year old woman in a
not very serious relationship... 2
weeks ago I found out that im pregnant and
straight away I decided on abortion...
Now the abortion date is getting closer
but I feel I have no choice, I no I will
have done damage to the baby with the
amount of alcohol I drink at weekends and
I also use illegal drugs - only
recreational - but all the same dangerous
to an un born baby..
What are the chances ive done damage..
Id say I use cocaine once a weekend and I
drink thurs-sun on average 7-8 pints of
lager ot 2 bottles of wine..
Please help because im beginning to have
second thoughts asbout the abortion..
Although I am not stable enough to cope
with a disabled or ill
child
i think the alcohol alone will mess your
child up pretty bad.Marijuana isn't bad,i
have known a lot of girls who still smoke
weed while they're preggy and their kids
come out fine,but coke and alcohol? Not
good.I think this is a situation where
abortion should be acceptable.When you
found out you were preggy did you continue
to do all the drugs and alcohol? There
is a chance your child will be normal but
very slim.I don't think people will give
you a lot of sh*t about the abortion
unless you knew about the pregnancy and
still did the drugs or if you wanted an
abortion just because.
Last edited by Melissa_20 on 04-18-06 10:07am; edited 1 time in total
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-18-06 13:43pm
Well there is hope. . .I stil wouldn't
take the chance.But I think I would love
the kid too much to abort. . .
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Ingi
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Posted: 04-18-06 13:51pm
My friend's son is slow. The best
diagnosis the doctors can give her is that
he has .Asperger syndrome - but he also
has adhd and multiple other issues.
Basically he is 20 with the .I.Q of a 5th
grader. But he is not retarded - the
doctor's say. She smoked pot for the
first 6 months of her pregnancy and she
regrets that every day of her life. Her
son will live with her forever because he
will never be capable of having his own
life outside her home.
The reality is, you won't even know about
these conditions until the child is born.
Some people will tell you their kid was
just fine and they did drugs - and other
people will tell you their kid is screwed
up from them.
A family member of mine did cocaine her
entire pregnancy. One particular night it
put her into labor and she had a blue baby
that had to be on oxygen for 6 months. He
is now 18 and he is fine. But the first
few years of his life he was constantly
ill and always in the hospital.
Good luck whatever you do.
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 04-18-06 13:55pm
I secoond that notion!
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sandyallen
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Posted: 04-18-06 14:10pm
The best bet is is to talk to a
professional in a situation like this.
Their is always a 50% chance of a baby
being born without problems anyway and in
your case probably more even though I am
not a Dr. Probably going to the abortion
forum would be better but the bottom line
is that it is your choice and it is
between you and your Dr. You have a lot
to think about and to ask yourself.
I do wish you the best in your decision!
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starshine1001
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Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Posts: 2 Location: UK
Posted: 04-19-06 08:24am
Thanks for the advice fromsome of you.. I
was un aware of an abortion forum and
didnt mean to cause offence.. The doctors
now want me to go for a scan to see how
far gone.. I think this is rather odd as
most people dont go for a scan til later
on??
Also if doctors can do tests what stage in
pregnancy and will it be to late to abort?
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-19-06 08:42am
Well you didn't offend me! I think it's
like 15 or 20 weeks to be able to
abort.How far along are you?(sry if you
already said it)
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Moo
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Posted: 04-19-06 09:04am
Just noticed you're in the uk so I can
answer this!
You can have an abortion up until 24weeks
here but it isn't advised that you wait
that long - the procedures are
increasingly difficult as the pregnancy
goes on. Abortions past 24weeks can only
happen because of severe maternal health
problems or severe fetal abnormality.
If you have mentioned abortion then the
doctors do a scan as early as possible to
see what gestation you are (you don't have
to go through with the termination though
because you've had your scan - you can
change your mind at any time
before the procedure begins.
I'm not sure what the chances of damage
are but I reccommend you speak to your gp
about it. Figure out all of your options
before deciding on anything.
Mollie x
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lsipes
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Joined: 15 Jan 2006 Posts: 325
Posted: 04-20-06 12:05pm
I agree with sandyallen. Drugs and
alcohol are of course bad for a baby, but
think about how many people use
drugs/alcohol before they even *know*
they're pregnant? I know I had a drink
or two (quite the understatement) before I
found out I was pregnant, but I was in
fact pregnant.
It really depends. It can have an affect
on the baby or it can not. If you're
continuing to use the drugs, the longer
you use them the more the chances are
hightened. You could give birth to a
drug addicted baby, deformed, etc. But
you could also not.
