Joined: 02 Jan 2004 Posts: 85 Location: Santa Barbara, CA
Selfish Or Not?? I Feel Terrible! Posted: 01-06-04 17:52pm
I really want to have another child. My
first born will be five years old on the
18th of this month. I really went through
some depressing times after I had him. I
felt so unhappy with the way I looked
after giving birth. My stomach was so
jelly like, my boobs sagged all the way to
my stomach, I have stretch marks all over
my body. It took me a long while to get
back to where I feel a little more
comfortable with myself. I had to take
depression pills and I am so scared of
feeling that way again.
There are no other worries I have other
than that. Am I being selfish? Should I
really be thinking of my child to be other
than myself? What should I do?
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ThatGurlAj
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2003 Posts: 24 Location: Michigan
Same Here Posted: 01-06-04 18:48pm
I actually know where your coming from.No,
I don't think your being selfish.I've felt
the same way I mean especially after
having a baby u want to look and feel the
same way b4.I guess it's just a part of
life,either u deal with it or do something
about it.When it comes to things like this
u have to be your best in order to give
someone the best.If your feeling down in
the dumps your not gonna wanna do
anything.Having another child would be too
much 4 me,because of how I felt during and
after my pregnancy,and to be honest I dont
want to go through that again.
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Uniquecc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2004 Posts: 85 Location: Santa Barbara, CA
I Thought I Was the Only One Posted: 01-06-04 19:04pm
I guess I felt extra bad because I thought
I was the only one feeling this way. In
my case, I was a teen mom. I had my son
at 17. I used to model here and there.
So after I had my son, I guess I thought I
would go back to normal. I was wrong. I
actually stayed the same weight (103), but
had all the other problems I mentioned.
I'm still so confused!!
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DismalEuphoria
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2003 Posts: 99 Location: US
Posted: 01-07-04 16:57pm
All of those symptoms are normal, and it
is probably more abnormal not to have
them!!! Don't you remember how much joy
you felt when you first felt a kick, or
seeing your baby for the first time? It's
a beautiful thing, even though you feel
less than beautiful at the time! If you
really want another baby, go for it! You
can always work on your physical
appearance afterwards, you won't stay that
way forever, and you won't always be able
to have a baby forever! Goodluck!
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Uniquecc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2004 Posts: 85 Location: Santa Barbara, CA
Posted: 01-07-04 17:09pm
Your right. I'm sure there's lots of
people out there that wish and would love
to give birth to there own child. But
can't, due to age or health problems. And
here I am worried about the way my body
will look afterwards. But it's true, this
is the way I feel. I'll just take it day
by day.
Thanks.
