Thanks ... I needed that kind of advice

ha ha - young people can make good parents though! But only when they are .B.O.T.H ready (otherwise not so)

talk to her about it.

[quote="sandralynn"]wait wait wait wait wait.....

Finish school... Go to college get a degree... Get a good job... Support the two of you financially .... Get married... Establish a home, a savings account...

You're young.. Act it. Be stupid.. Get tattoos... Go bungee jumping.. Cow tipping.. Make prank phone calls.. Teepee your neighbors house.. Flush all the toilets at ur school at once.. Stuff an orange in ur principals tail pipe..

My point is.. Shes 16.. Ur 18.. Live it up. Dont worry about kids right now. You have the rest of your life to do that. Take advantage of the fact that you can sleep a whole night thru without having to stumble into the kitchen at 2 am to make a bottle and end up with coffee instead of formula. Its not easy staying up all night with a newborn. They are also expensive. I spent over $1000 before my son was born, and I still didnt have everything. And they grow out of all that within 2 months and you gotta spend .M.O.R.E. Money on clothes... Then comes the food.. And diapers... And wipes.. And doctor apointment... And medicines..



I liked your asdvise sandra.I think it would put almost anybody's thoughts into perspective! Lol

Lmao,how old are you,if you don't mind me asking?

Oh shut up! You are not old.I'm only 3 years younger than you.I don't think your old until about 60. . .Then your old,but then again it depends on how you think.My b/f's dad is 52 but he said he still feels like he's 35!

yes - if you must continue to engage in sexual intercourse, use condoms to protect yourself, because if she really wants a baby, she'll lie about being on birth control. Saying "whatever happens, happens" is a bad way to go through life, especially when it comes to something as important and life-altering as childbearing.

Ah,thats hight school,your on to bigger and better things now! : )

Lol,it happens! You know what I was thinking about? If I had a kid I would be keeping track of how old they were and probably forget how old I was,lol

Oh pshh! Lol but your wiser!

Have you explored why your girlfriend wants to have a baby so badly? It could be that her miscarriage has caused her to suffer from a sort of post-traumatic stress disorder. She might be struggling with the loss of the fetus and thinks that another pregnancy will help "compensate" the one that was lost. I think it's advisable for you to broach the subject as gently as possible with your girlfriend, and encourage her to seek therapy in the matter if she hasn't already. It would certainly be understandable if she needed some outside help from a therapist.

My girlfriend and I talked last night about the situation. We got into a really deep convo about the whole topic on pregnancy. Anyways she told me that when she really thought about it she knows she isnt ready. I think its the fact that the pregnancy ended in a miscariage. I love her with all my heart and soul and the 3 years ive been with her has been amazing. She is staying on b-control and we are going to use a condom. I think we just really needed to sit down and talk about the whole thing.. To this day she still crys randomly and cant be around babys cause she will start to cry ,but I think we are going to talk to someone about it and try to move on because I think we have been at a stand still in our relationship. We are now both ready to move on.

Lastnight we had along talk about the whole situation... We really needed that talk. She told me a lot of deep things... Im really happy that she finally came out and told me everything. I think we are going to talk to someone about the miscariage because I think she never got over it. I love her with all my heart and soul and so does she. I cant see myself with her anymore. She told me she knows its not right to have a child because she wants the child to be brought up in a healthy enviorment ( stable loving ect) I just wanted to let you all know where we are at right now.... We saw eachother today ( at school ) and we were so much closer I feel like she is becomming herself again and it makes me so happy! Anyways just wanted to let you all know...

Thanks everyone for all of your comments

lmao!

I think if I got preggy right now(highly doubtful since i'm on b/c) I wouldn't feel ready but I would keep it.I want to go to college but I could still do that

Lmao

i think we'd all agree with that but it's a very good point. I'm sure the first pregnancy was unexpected, but sometimes when it ends in tragedy there's a void that needs to be filled, which could explain why she wants to get pregnant again (whether it's the smart thing to do or not). I think he needs to talk to her about all of the issues.
By the way, you're not that old. I'll be 25 in a month. :) 3 year old son, divorced, graduated high school 8 years ago. I f.E.E.L o.L.D!!!

Jako, i'm glad you talked with your girlfriend and that you two made such a mature decision. All the best to you two.

Yeah thanks! We feel better now... I mean she still kind of crys when she see's mothers with there children and everytime we talk about a baby or the miscariage she will cry... I feel bad though that I wasnt there for her enough during the miscariage so I think that is a factor on why she is so hurt..... And yes she is useing her b-control she is having her period right now but then we are useing a condom and she will be on b-control ( lol ). Anyways thanks everyon!

Whoops I didnt proof read well I ment to say I cant see myself without her anymore ( meaning I want to be with her forever I love her so much ) sorry that didnt come out right ( lol )