First Abortion This Friday...need Support Posted: 04-17-06 09:00am
Hi everyone. As stated in the subject I
will be having my first abortion at 10
weeks this friday. I am on a
rollercoaster of emotions right now but my
boyfriend (of 5 years) and I both agree
that this is the right decision for us.
We are both recent college grads, mid 20's
and just starting life. We both want
kids but didn't expect it to happen this
soon. We have bounced back and forth
between to keep or not to keep numerous
times but in the end all roads lead to the
fact that we are not financially ready.
Last week I heard the heartbeat and that
made me breakdown in tears and so I don't
think i'll ever really know if I made the
right decsion. I just need a shoulder.
Anyone out there? Can anyone give me
advice? How was the procedure? Did you
feel anything? Emotions afterwards?
Thanks in advance.
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sandyallen
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Posted: 04-17-06 16:25pm
It is your choice and yours only, if their
is a lot of doubt thenyou really need to
think about it and talk to a professional
about it because it sounds like you are
really unsure of the situation. You need
to ask yourself if you will have the same
feelings for this guy after tis medical
procedure is done and ask him if he will
have the same feelings for you because it
is your choise more than it is his do to
the fact that it is your body even though
you both agree on it, their still seems
like a lot of doubt. You might want to
go or call the hospital and see if their
is someone that you might talk to about
this situation, I know that their are
generally a social service person or a
councelor, psychologist or a psychiatrist
to talk to in most hospitals for this.
In the meantime, I wish you the best with
your decision and being pro-choice , I do
understand either way that you decide..
The best to you both!
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lsipes
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jan 2006 Posts: 325
Posted: 04-20-06 12:09pm
Well I can't tell you about the procedure
as I had a medical abortion, but what I
can tell you is that whatever choice you
make is the right one. You said you'll
never know if you made the right choice...
You can't look at it that way. Because
you won't be able to change it there's no
sense in beating yourself up over "what
ifs". You will be fine, you have your
boyfriend there with you. I know it's
hard to hear the heartbeat stay strong but
if you don't feel that you're ready then
you are not ready because only you know,
right? I know it's hard, i've been
there, and it's probably the biggest
decision you will ever make, be content
with it. I know it sounds terrible to
say that, but it's true. You're doing
what you feel is best for you at the
moment and there's no reason to feel guilt
for that.
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jaime_elms
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Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Re: First Abortion This Friday...need Support Posted: 04-21-06 13:31pm
Have u had ur abortion!!!! Mines on the
27th!!! But I will be 15weeks im so
scared
july1981
wrote:
hi everyone. As stated in
the subject I will be having my first
abortion at 10 weeks this friday. I am
on a rollercoaster of emotions right now
but my boyfriend (of 5 years) and I both
agree that this is the right decision for
us. We are both recent college grads,
mid 20's and just starting life. We
both want kids but didn't expect it to
happen this soon. We have bounced back
and forth between to keep or not to keep
numerous times but in the end all roads
lead to the fact that we are not
financially ready. Last week I heard
the heartbeat and that made me breakdown
in tears and so I don't think i'll ever
really know if I made the right decsion.
I just need a shoulder. Anyone out
there? Can anyone give me advice?
How was the procedure? Did you feel
anything? Emotions afterwards?
Thanks in
advance.
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srtchick
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Apr 2006 Posts: 3 Location: NY
Re: First Abortion This Friday...need Support Posted: 04-25-06 19:28pm
july1981
wrote:
hi everyone. As stated in
the subject I will be having my first
abortion at 10 weeks this friday. I am
on a rollercoaster of emotions right now
but my boyfriend (of 5 years) and I both
agree that this is the right decision for
us. We are both recent college grads,
mid 20's and just starting life. We
both want kids but didn't expect it to
happen this soon. We have bounced back
and forth between to keep or not to keep
numerous times but in the end all roads
lead to the fact that we are not
financially ready. Last week I heard
the heartbeat and that made me breakdown
in tears and so I don't think i'll ever
really know if I made the right decsion.
I just need a shoulder. Anyone out
there? Can anyone give me advice?
How was the procedure? Did you feel
anything? Emotions afterwards?
Thanks in
advance.
i am in avery similar situation (but I am
6 wks) if you need someone to talk to pm
me. I'm going for my procedure next thurs
5-4-06.
