Hi, i'm a male with an asymmetric face.
It bothers me constantly, but oddly no one
has ever noticed it except for me. As a
matter of fact, everyone thinks i'm cute
for some reason. If I stand in front of
two mirrors(one slightly tilted), it can
clearly be seen that my nose, chin, jaw,
and cheekbones are bending so that it
looks like someone stretched my face to
the right hand side. It's quite an ugly
sight. If I ever have a picture taken,
the deal is the same and I look hideous.
Yet, when I look in the mirror in front of
me, everything seems normal! If I tilt my
head one way or another, I notice a slight
difference if I stare really hard for at
least 3-4 minutes. Otherwise, I don't see
it. So, i'm just confused. It is
impossible for people to hide something
like that from me because I have met some
really mean people who will make fun of
anyone they see anything wrong with! Plus
somehow i've had three beautiful girls
fall for me in my 20 years and I know it
was mostly because of my looks. I have
thought many times about how this has
occured, but to no avail. Does anyone
have an explanation why I look hideous in
pictures and double mirrors, yet cute in
"real life"? Is it something to do with
how mirrors and lenses work or something?
Any useful comments would be appreciated.
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cloudstrife06
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Joined: 01 Jun 2006 Posts: 3
Posted: 06-01-06 20:43pm
I have the same prob. I am always afraid
of taking pics with friends. I look fine
from the sides, but due to sleeping for
many yrs on one side of my face, it is
"flattened" and appears longer than the
other.
Everyday, I feel ugly if I take a picture
close up where the asymmetry can be
seen.
I do have one answer for you: if the
camera is too close to you it rounds out
your face from the circular lens.
However, if your whole face fits in the
image and you still see problems, that's
the way it really is. The camera pics
display differences in depth of your
facial structure more clearly with higher
contrast. That's why it's easy to tell
asymmetry in them.
So what are you going to do about it? I
need to check with a specialist first. It
might be that the pressed in cheekbone
makes my face look long or that the chin
really is too long. So, either a chin
reduction or some way to unflatten the
cheekbone would be my solution.
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jeffrey
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Joined: 08 Jun 2006 Posts: 3
Posted: 06-08-06 13:23pm
I hear you guys, I wonder if it's just me
being too self-conscious or what. Keep
us posted about what you find as possible
solutions.
Jeffrey
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cloudstrife06
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Joined: 01 Jun 2006 Posts: 3
Posted: 06-22-06 12:00pm
Strangely enough, I avoided sleeping on
the side of my face and it has become a
lot better. I only had a slight asymmetry
comparatively though.
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galant06
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Joined: 31 Aug 2006 Posts: 1 Location: ny
Posted: 08-31-06 06:45am
I have the same exact issue I know for a
fact that my face is asymetric and I would
love to have corrective surgery
it bothers me very much alot of ppl say
its not a big deal and they dont notice it
until I mention it but I hate taking
pictures because of it
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shikamaru111
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Joined: 29 Jan 2007 Posts: 1 Location: unknown
Solutions? Posted: 01-29-07 04:07am
I seem the have the same problem, it also
bothers me, I was wondering if there is
any solutions? Basically, the muscles on
one side of my face seem to be thinner and
weaker than the other side? I'm trying to
eat on one side of my face to strengthen
the muscle but I have no idea whether its
working or not, if it is, its very slight
increases. Are there any methods to
strengthen the muscle on one side so it
buldges out a little bit more and becomes
more definable?
The muscles which are weaker are the
masseter which is basically the muscle
lieing on your jaw beneath the ear.
Any comments are helpful, thanks
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patroklai
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Joined: 03 May 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Missouri
Posted: 05-03-07 00:12am
i have the same problem. with a mirror in
front of me, and another held on the side
I can clearly see what makes my face
uneved, similar to what i see in some
pictures. its almost like all mentioned
above, the mucle that wraps the lower jaw
bone (below the ear) seems to be thinner
than that of the other side. making my
face look asymmetric. On the side where
the muscle is thicker, my lower lip is
also thicker which makes it even more
noticeable. No one ever notices though,
just me.
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chrissss
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Joined: 23 May 2007 Posts: 1 Location: brisbane
Posted: 05-23-07 06:56am
Hi,
Similar deal for me too, the right side of
my face is noticeably longer than the
left. It happened, judging from photos,
between the age of 12-present (I'm 23
now). I wouldn't mind except that the
right side of my chin protudes lower than
the left, the left side of my chin is
lumpy and has receded into my jaw, and it
is of course quite noticeable, at least to
me. This wouldn't matter except that it
FEELS wrong. Also, I am paranoid whenever
I am talking to someone front on that they
are noticing and trying not to look. A
silly fear, I know, but I can't help it.
I also loathe being photographed, but
enough about mild psychological
discomfort, I am very curious why this has
happened, and if it is fixable. I would
definitely consider correction were it
possible.
I think I always chewed on my right side
as a child for some reason. Recently,
despite being fully grown and it probably
being far too late to make a difference,
I've started chewing only on my left to
compensate (my teeth don't meet properly
like the right side so it's not very
efficient), the left side of my chin has
started to ache though so I'm wondering if
this is the wisest thing to do.
Cloudstrife's suggestion of always
sleeping on one side is new to me, but I
think I sleep pretty evenly (who can know
for sure though).
blkxi said: Does anyone have an
explanation why I look hideous in pictures
and double mirrors, yet cute in "real
life"?
I suspect because real life usually is in
motion, and your irregularities are minor
enough that people don't notice until
you're dead still. The first time I had
any knowledge of my own facial wonkiness
was when someone pointed it out to me in
my learner's license photo when i was 16.
only when seen front on was the irregular
chin shape noticeable, prior to that time
even I had not noticed, although now that
i think of it when I was 14 a physio said
to me "you probably don't know this
yourself, but the right side of your face
is longer than the left one". of course,
it's gotten a lot worse since then.
Anyway, apologies for long post.
Chris.
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icebr8ker5
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Joined: 19 Jun 2007 Posts: 1
Posted: 06-19-07 01:58am
i was born with an assymetric face where
standing in front of a two way mirror my
face looks like it's been stretched to the
right side. i was sent to a maxillofacial
and oral surgeon and my doctor from that
department diagnosed me with golden har
syndrome. it turns out that my left jaw
is longer than my right jaw so it looks
like the way it is because the left jaw
gets stretched more to the right side
because it's longer. i had corrective
surgery when i was in 5th grade where they
took a small portion of my collarbone and
connected it to my right jaw to even it
out. it didn't come out to a success
because years later my left jaw grew more
so i had another surgery my during my
junior year of high school to fuse my
right jaw joints while adding a small
portion of my rib. and so far my face has
become very symmetrical but since my jaws
are not very defined i don't have any jaw
lines which makes me look like i'm fat if
i just have a headshot. but so far so
good.
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Geo18
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Joined: 27 Jun 2007 Posts: 1
Uneven Face Solution Posted: 07-20-07 00:06am
Whats the easiest way to correct an uneven
face.
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ian_ray
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Joined: 14 Aug 2007 Posts: 1
Posted: 08-14-07 19:12pm
I have the same problem. I sleep on the
right side of my face growing up. Not sure
if its really the cause of my asymetrical
face. My jaw line is clearer in the left
side, while on the right its not visible.
The left side have bones seems fully
develop while the right seems flatter.
Does anyone know of facial bones still
develops at age 23? I've been sleeping on
my back for a month now, wondering if it
will do some changes, even small changes.
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Beebobee
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Joined: 17 Aug 2007 Posts: 22 Location: ,
Posted: 08-17-07 14:08pm
Im soososos happy to hear that I'm not
alone!!! My right lower jaw is lower and
more thicker than my left and it looks so
grotesque. Also, my right face is wider
and my eye kinda sticks out more. (It is
not a thyroid problem with the eye
bulging). I shouldn't care... but since
I'm a perfectionist It really really
irritates me. ((( Hopefully when i
get my braces my bite will straighten out
and so will my jaw. I'm wondering if the
uneveness is maybe due to some other
underlying condition....
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Haychfx
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Joined: 20 Aug 2007 Posts: 2 Location: South London
Wow Posted: 08-20-07 17:30pm
This is more common than i first thought.
In every case its the right side aswell
:s. Im 15 and started noticing this about
a year ago, i seem to be the only one that
notices but i get paranoid at times and
feel like people do notice and are being
polite in a strange way ;s. I dont want to
point it out to any of my mates because if
they dont already notice i dont wanna make
them notice lol... People say im a good
looking lad, i get comments at school with
boys saying they're jealous of my looks
and say that i can get most girls looking
like i do but i dont know if theyre taking
the piss or being serious lol. I have to
admit im not the sort of person that gets
down but at times this seriously gets me
depressed. Im quite a shy lad anyways but
everytime i look in the mirror i can feel
my confidence drain a little more. It does
comfort me knowing im not the only one
going through this x thanks to who ever
started this post.
is surgery really possible?
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GarySan
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Joined: 30 May 2007 Posts: 13 Location: Australia
Me Too Wow Posted: 09-01-07 12:03pm
I am very very surprised that alot of
people actually suffer the same inside
pain as I do. I am quite a normal to good
looking person who studies hair, beauty
and fashion design. Since the age of 15, i
have been starting to notice my face
twitching towards one side. I feel as if I
only use the left side of my jaw muscles
and i swollow etc on one side. Eventually
I am now 20 turning 21 and am seeking for
help for my face because things are
getting more severe. The right side of my
face seems really puffed ( i never use
this side) and my left side is shortened
which would pull my whole jaw to the left
side. Not many people notice it, but what
hurts me the most is when I take pictures.
I have a very bright sweet smile, but it
is ruined by this assymetry of the face.
My smile would twitch towards my left side
and causing my whole chin or lower jaw to
just look really bad. It becomes very
very obvious when I take pictures and I
just hate it. What's even worst is my
talking ability impaired! my lips/jaw
would twitch to one side too when i speak
and because the teeth are not properly
aligned i would sound as if i have the
lisp.
Right now I am seeking for help going to a
Neuromuscular Dentist. I have popping
sounds in my left jaw joint and It has
been proven that I only use the left side
of my jaw muscle when i talk, bite or
swollow. Neuromuscular dentist is a form
of cosmetic dentist that deals with TMJ
problems. In order to cure you must
balance out the muscles of the two side of
your jaws. I suggest most of you guys to
go to the TMJ forum to take a look since
the assymetry of the face has much got to
do with misaligned teeth and horrible
bite.
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winst
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Joined: 07 Sep 2007 Posts: 3 Location: New York, NY
Yes! Posted: 09-07-07 10:44am
And I thought I was the only one in the
world...
I'm 19. Two years ago I started getting
vain. Very vain. People would tell me I
was very good looking, "super cute," and
yet whenever I had my photograph taken I
was hideous (I'm harsh to myself). I also
succumbed to the "true" mirror -- two
panes positioned at 90 degrees -- and saw
a completely different image from what I
was seeing head-on. And it sucked!
Since then I've always looked at each side
of my face and wondered why one was
attractive and the other, horrendous. It
bugs me every day, and I've since figured
out that the left side of my face is
higher than my right, and my jaw is less
defined (doesn't protrude as far).
Half of my says that I need to get over
this, and just be happy with what I
have... but the other part of me, which
I'm scared to say may be the stronger
half, tells me I need to have it corrected
or I'll never be pleased with myself. I
still keep looking in the mirror, every
day, playing with the "ugly" half of my
face to see what changes would need to be
made.
At least I'm not alone!
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canif
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Joined: 11 Sep 2007 Posts: 2 Location: ,
Posted: 09-11-07 04:06am
It's great to find a discussion about
this. I had a vague sense that something
was ugly about me when I was younger, but
never could figure out what it was, and so
sometimes though maybe I was mistaken.
Like many of you, it was a double mirror
that revealed the secret, and even then,
it did not happen right away - I really
had to look a long time and examine it. I
thought at first maybe I just had the
mirrors at a bad angle to each other or
something.
Mirrors and lenses do play tricks on us in
a sense. It's because the human brain, a
very powerful organ, likes patterns and it
like symmetry, and when we look at an
asymmetric face, it generally somehow
rounds things out and we just don't
notice. At most there might be a vague
impression that something's off or the
person is just not good looking, but often
there isn't even that. I told someone once
that my face was asymmetrical, but he
still couldn't see it when he looked.
BUT when we look with two mirrors, and see
something an image unlike what we've ever
seen before and unlike what we're
expecting to see, the brain is thrown off.
Anything that protruded in one direction
now protrudes in the opposite direction, a
180° change. It's quite different, and
though it may try, the brain can't cover
that up so easily. We can finally see our
face for what it is. The joke is that
that's what everyone else sees when they
look at us anyway, and what seems so
strange to us is actually normal to them
(and consequently they see THAT as
symmetrical). And of course we're seeing
this same reversed image when we look at a
photograph of ourselves. (Plus, I think
when we look at a person in real life,
most of our focus is on the the center of
the face, the eyes and facial expressions,
rather than the whole frame itself. We
look at still images differently.) If you
wanted to prove to someone else (not that
you would) that your face was
assymetrical, if photos didn't work, you'd
probably best start by having them look at
your face reflected in one mirror, which
is normal for you but not for them.
Since I broke through this barrier of the
brain, I've come to be able to see it
looking at one mirror as well, and to see
it in other people I face, without any
mirrors. My brain's been trained out of
its complacency ... and I don't think I'm
the better for it. I wonder if good
artists can see this more readily than
others. How could you draw an accurate
portrait if you're just following your
brain and not perceiving what's really
there?
I could be wrong, but I very seriously
doubt that this has any cause as innocent
as sleeping on one side or the other. The
shape of the face is mostly determined by
genetics, and is bone really that
malleable? I also think that we'd see it
in a lot more people than we do if that
were that cause. And for another thing, I
notice the exact facial line in my father.
It kills me that even if I get surgery to
even out my face, if I ever have kids,
I'll pass this on to them regardless. The
one thing I could do to help them would be
to not have any double mirrors set up in
the house so they remain in blissful
ignorance.
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canif
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Joined: 11 Sep 2007 Posts: 2 Location: ,
Posted: 09-20-07 18:19pm
I just realized, after examining my face
some more, that it's completely hopeless.
The whole vertical axis that my nose and
mouth are on is skewed slightly to the
left. (That's even aside from the
asymmetrical jaw; my right eyebrow, and
maybe the bone under it, which goes up a
little higher than the left; and the top
of my skull, where the incline on the left
is steeper than on the right and goes up a
little higher as well.) I don't think
there's any surgery in the world that can
fix that, so I guess I'm in the wrong
forum. Now where can I get a skull
transplant?
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CBacall
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Joined: 03 Sep 2007 Posts: 9
Posted: 09-21-07 18:42pm
Hi guys. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE's
faces are not totally symmetric. Of course
some are more asymmetric than others. If
no one really notices it though chances
are that your face looks "normal" enough.
Lenses and mirrors do add to the
distortion so if possible do stop
examining your face too much because it
will just make you feel bad, especially if
you use multiple mirrors, which will just
distort it even more.
If you really believe that your face is
too asymmetrical then I suggest you get
advice from several people you really
trust and ask for their honest opinion. If
they say that you look good then you do!
If they have to really scrutinize you to
see the distortion then it isn't really
obvious.
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lividbishop
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Its Perfectly Normal - Everyone Feels the Same Way Posted: 09-25-07 21:08pm
there's an exhibit i've seen in science
museums where it shows you your face the
way that everyone else sees it. that's
the mirro to how you are used to seeing
it. well, it looks very assymetrical to
*EVERYONE*, that's why its an interesting
exhibit!
even a slight curve that you don't notice
normally, you are used to, will look twice
as exaggerated when viewed curving the
opposite way.
the way that you are used to your face -
everyone else is used to your face looking
the other way, to the same degree. they
don't think anything looks wrong! its not
wrong - in fact if you would look at
someone else's face reversed it might look
a little odd to you as well.
its perfectly normal, and the 'ugliness'
is just surprise. you aren't ugly,
especially if people are telling you you
look cute.
one of my eyes is open more than another,
my face seems to curve to the left, etc
etc. people say i'm cute, and i believe
them. it only looks weird because its the
mirror of the face that you see the most,
up close, all the time - your own.
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wharfrat
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Joined: 08 Nov 2007 Posts: 1
Posted: 11-08-07 10:01am
holy #$@*! yah, this same thing has
tormented me since i first saw a photo of
myself ten years ago. it has gotten so
bad that i am constantly trying to stay on
the side of people where my left side
shows and will never take photos if it's
to the right. my mom for one doesn't see
it but with the double mirror test, my
right eye is significantly higher than the
other and everything looks like a bad acid
trip. stretched out like elephant man.
ugly, i mean. all the while, most
including my dad say i'm very handsome,
but there are those that notice it, and it
is the reason i don't even bother talking
to attractive women and have since
developed a drinking problem.