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Q: My Condom Fell Off During Intercourse

asked by: camaro21 on April 16th, 2006

New User

Tonight me(18) my girlfriend(15) had sex with a condom as the only form of prevention. After we finished I put my clothes on. We were in pitch black the entire time mind you. I go to the bathroom and there is no condom. I freak out and go in my room and its on the bed and she already had left. Now when we started we were on my bed and I know I had it on. Then we went to the floor where I also know I had it on. Then we went back to the bed and I was on top for a bit. Then I stopped for a min and began fingering her then we started again. I got really tired so she went back on top and we finished where I ejaculated when I was inside of her under the impression the condom was on. I did not feel any difference in sexual experience other than my first time being on top I thought it felt better. But im scared now because I have no idea when the condom came off and I fully ejaculated inside of her. I checked the condom and I saw no signs of sperm. She had her last period around march 29 or 30. I have been reading on ovulation calenders and hers would peak between a couple days ago to now. I didnt know what to do the only stores open was food lion so she bought 2 douches and used them I have no idea if that would even help I heard somewhere it can. We are both smokers I heard that can reduce my count and her fertility. I heard large amounts of caffeine can also reduce the chance, and she is a caffeine junkie. I cannot get the morning after pill to her as she is going out of town tomorrow for four days. I have heard it only works up to 72 hours afterwards. But ive also heard 7-8 days afterwards. I think its only possible by getting it through a doctor too. I live in the state of virginia. I dont know how many days her cycles are she doesnt know either. Any advice would be well appreciated.

Replies(24)

sammisa

replied on April 16th, 2006

Experienced User

Re: My Condom Fell Off During Intercourse

Uh-oh. Shoot! Now whatcha gonna do? 15 and 18, is that legal in virginia? Hmmm dunno.. Lets hope she isn't pregnant, and that hopefully you two learned from this scare if she isn't pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is still a child!! That would be and aweful lot for a 15 yr old to handle.

n0rthernbelle

replied on April 16th, 2006

Experienced User

First of all, douches won't prevent pregnancy. Being smokers and drinking lots of caffeine won't prevent two young people from getting pregnant, either. You mentioned you couldn't get the morning-after pill to her because she's going out of town. Is there any way she can get it? If there's a planned parenthood center where she will be, they can write a prescription for it. Next time, please be certain the condom has a snug fit and you leave some space at the tip of it for when you ejaculate. Also, when you take the condom off, hold it very carefully so that no sperm spills out. I really wish you good luck, because at least you're actively trying to get advice on the issue - not too many guys would! However, be careful. You're 18, she's 15, and i'm quite sure having sex with her qualifies as statutory rape in your state. If she were to get pregnant, her parents might try to bring you to court.

camaro21

replied on April 16th, 2006

New User

Yeah I know. She doesnt want a baby. But I mean her parents finding out she would be pregnant would be bad too. I have a well paying job I could raise the kid but she doesnt want her life to be ruined by having a kid at such a young age. I consider myself mentally ready for a child I am just freaked out because I know no one else around me is mentally ready for me to have a kid. And of course we're not married. And no it isnt legal in va but neither is oral sex, you think everyone abides by that too?

n0rthernbelle

replied on April 16th, 2006

Experienced User

I wasn't passing judgement.

camaro21

replied on April 16th, 2006

New User

Well I doubt she could get it. She is going to harrisonburg, va to her grandma's house, she doesn't drive. I don't think it is possible. I have to work this week I might have to take a day off and drive 3 hours to get her the pill or something. I just don't know. And yeah her parents bringing me to court, I don't know about that. I mean her parents really like me, a lot. I'm a generally responsible and respectable guy. But I mean something like this, people can go crazy over and change on you in an instant. I'm not worried about jail, i'm more worried about losing their trust i've worked so hard to build up with them.

camaro21

replied on April 16th, 2006

New User

Actually that first response was to sammisa :p

n0rthernbelle

replied on April 16th, 2006

Experienced User

Guess ya better pray, then.

sammisa

replied on April 16th, 2006

Experienced User

No, I dont. But a 15 yr old can't get pregnant by oral sex.. It just worries me because you seem like a cool kid, and if she were to get pregnant, and told her parents, you would be thrown in jail, not just go to court. So then you could say goodbye to your "well paying job" and your readiness to be a father.. See what i'm saying? It would be so much different if you were just a year younger, it would not be considered illegal, and things would be much easier on you.

camaro21

replied on April 17th, 2006

New User

Well she does turn 16 on july 7. And if you're 16 those laws dont apply. How late can you get an abortion in your pregnancy? What if we waited to tell them until then if she was pregnant. Could they still press charges because we had sex when she was 15?

sammisa

replied on April 17th, 2006

Experienced User

Oh man, I dunno.. It just sucks for you.. Because 3 yrs differance in a relationship is nothing! Ya know? But under those circumstances it is everything :( I think they would look at it as her being 15, because that is when she got pregnant, and by july, if she is pregnant, she will be 3 months and only have 6 more months to go. And people would probably be suspicious of that. That is something you might want to look into though. I really do wish the best for you two though and I will keep hoping for the best for you! I'm not going to touch the abortion issue.. Lol.. Sorry.

camaro21

replied on April 17th, 2006

New User

Is it true that I can use an emergency contraception within 120 hours? Because the earliest I can get on to her is friday morning. Roughly 100 hours from now.

sammisa

replied on April 17th, 2006

Experienced User

What is the morning-after pill?

The morning-after pill needs to be taken within 72 hours after unprotected sex.

Although lots of people talk about ‘the morning-after pill’ this term is actually very misleading.

Why? Because in fact, you don’t have to take this pill on ‘the morning after’ having sex. In reality, it is fairly effective for up to 72 hours (three days).

camaro21

replied on April 17th, 2006

New User

Ive read that but ive heard of other pills on other sites that can be used up to 5 days after?

sammisa

replied on April 17th, 2006

Experienced User

Oh ok, I have not clue then, I just did a search on the morning after pill, and just copied and pasted :p.

Tylanas

replied on April 17th, 2006

Especially eHealthy

If there wasn't any sperm in the condom, it most likely went inside your girlfriend. And seriously, she would have known when she went to the bathroom afterwards, because (not to be gross) it's pretty slimy and whatnot. Way way more than normal vaginal lubrication. You should probably ask her about that.

Mabel

replied on April 17th, 2006

Moderator

So it must really be true then, guys can't tell the difference with or without a rubber? That sounds fishy to me - but since that is the way you said it happened...

You can take the morning after pill within 72 hours from the time of the 'accident'. Not 120 hours. You only have 3 days. Sounds like you better get this.

Good luck.

AshBoBash

replied on April 17th, 2006

Experienced User

Quote:

so it must really be true then, guys can't tell the difference with or without a rubber?

i was about to say something abot that cause my guy friends say it feels better without the condom and if the condom snaps they can feel it.
Also dude what was the point of telling us all the different places yo u did it at an what positions
it just seems like your getting a jollies from this
anyways u cant make your girlfriend get a abortion if she doesnt want one and also if your to get in trouble they will look at what age she was the time she got pregnant which was 15 so you could get in trouble for that
if your that sensable to be thinking of all this consequences right after it happened why did you not think of them beforehand
if I was you I would stop having sex if the condom slips or breaks and also I would not have sex with minors if you want to really be on the safe side

Lalee

replied on April 17th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

I think, considering the situation, you should probably call in sick to work asap and go help her get the pill. Or find a close friend who can do it. Or tell her to take a bus to planned parenthood.

Good luck.

camaro21

replied on April 18th, 2006

New User

Ok smartass, that doesnt help me, but thanks anyways. I took her to get the morning after pill today so hopefully it'll work.

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