Hi,

first I am sorry for the long post!

I am new to this forum, but I so understand what you all are going through. I had a tah (ovaries, tubes, uterus, cervix) 5 years ago (i was 28). I was given premarin which I quit taking after about 6 months because I had no insurance. I am short (5') and have always been overweight. I gained almost 50 pounds and felt awful. Sex was impossible (painful and I was embarrassed at how I looked). So, this is what I have done in the past 2 1/2 years!

I decided if I couldn't stand to look at me I had to do something! I joined curves which was a slow process but I have lost 60 pounds (still 180 though) in a little over 2 years. I cut my calories to about 1200-1400 per day. I finally feel good about myself. But, let me tell you, the weight is slow. I felt so discouraged wearing myself out exercising and not eating what I wanted and losing 1 or 2 pounds a month to start with. Anyway, as for the sex part -- that took a long time too. After I started losing weight, I felt better so I was a little more confident. I am in a relationship with a man who had dated someone with endometriosis years ago (which is why I had the hyst) so he understood some of the problem. The only way I fixed the lubrication problem was mentally and I know this sounds crazy. When I was alone I would fantasize about having sex and it going well. I did this every day and after a few months things started to work again. To me it seemed like I was retraining my mind and body how to work. As for the orgasm, that still is not working. I would love to hear how anyone has fixed that problem!

Anyway, I think that maybe it is just time and not feeling pressured. Let me know what you all think.