I am new to this forum, but I so
understand what you all are going through.
I had a tah (ovaries, tubes, uterus,
cervix) 5 years ago (i was 28). I was
given premarin which I quit taking after
about 6 months because I had no insurance.
I am short (5') and have always been
overweight. I gained almost 50 pounds and
felt awful. Sex was impossible (painful
and I was embarrassed at how I looked).
So, this is what I have done in the past 2
1/2 years!
I decided if I couldn't stand to look at
me I had to do something! I joined curves
which was a slow process but I have lost
60 pounds (still 180 though) in a little
over 2 years. I cut my calories to about
1200-1400 per day. I finally feel good
about myself. But, let me tell you, the
weight is slow. I felt so discouraged
wearing myself out exercising and not
eating what I wanted and losing 1 or 2
pounds a month to start with. Anyway, as
for the sex part -- that took a long time
too. After I started losing weight, I
felt better so I was a little more
confident. I am in a relationship with a
man who had dated someone with
endometriosis years ago (which is why I
had the hyst) so he understood some of the
problem. The only way I fixed the
lubrication problem was mentally and I
know this sounds crazy. When I was alone
I would fantasize about having sex and it
going well. I did this every day and
after a few months things started to work
again. To me it seemed like I was
retraining my mind and body how to work.
As for the orgasm, that still is not
working. I would love to hear how anyone
has fixed that problem!
Anyway, I think that maybe it is just time
and not feeling pressured. Let me know
what you all think.
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 04-16-06 18:39pm
Split your post because your advice is
good and should be shared, but also it was
tagged on the end of an old old post.
Deserved it's own thread.
