I'm usually the strong one, I seem to give
more advice than take it but the guy i'm
love with has decided things between us
are too intense and he has recently
started with someone else....Its
absolutely breaking me up and i'm scared
this will tip me back into the depression
I had through the winter.....Do any of you
have any tips for getting over ppl ?? It
would be v. Appreciated
rue
xxxxx
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Spirit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 388 Location: Canada
Posted: 04-16-06 08:35am
So sorry to hear that rue, unfortunately
sometimes our feelings are not returned
equally. When i'm considering breaking up
with someone, I often ask myself one
question,"am I happier with this person or
am I happier without this person?" maybe
it was too intense, especially for younger
couples, there's one who may feel
pressured or controlled and wants to just
be young and free.
To stay depression free, i'd recommend the
old saying,"living well is the best
revenge", that is, go out, have fun with
friends, meet new people and have a grand
old time!------you heard about the
"replacement"....He'll hear about your
fun. :)
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-18-06 11:42am
Do what they said.You know what I do?I
pamper myself! Go get my nails done,get
my hair cut,buy some new clothes,and
better yet,do it with a friend.I find that
helps me out a lot.Also you look good
after you've done it all so who knows,youy
may attract attention from someone else!
Hope you get to feelin better soon!
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RubyLei
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2005 Posts: 33 Location: UK
Thanks Posted: 04-20-06 10:24am
Thank you both for your replies....It
means alot...And I am starting to feel
better at least in the day...Night is
still a problem but i'm sorting it
out....Trying to forget....Its just so
hard to stop thinking about what could
have been and i'm sure you know what I
mean....But thanks for the advise....A bit
of pampering and partying may do me the
world of good
luv
rue
xxxx
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-20-06 10:38am
I think it would do you great! Have fun
and get better!
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kenya2006
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Feb 2006 Posts: 9 Location: UK
Posted: 04-21-06 18:23pm
Hi rue, since you've given me some good
advice in the past I thought it only fair
to return the favour.
You seem like a really intelligent girl
with a lot to offer, always remember that.
If he couldn't appreciate that, then he's
done you a favour by moving on, that way
you get to get on with your life. Look at
the positives, you're young and you're
free. This world has so many
opportunities within it; now is the time
to go out and really enjoy it. Don't let
what's happened compromise who you are and
what you want out of life. With a hurt
like that; it will take time (i know),
allow yourself to hurt and allow yourself
to get over it. With time you definitely
will.
I hope this work out for you...I wish you
all the luck in the world.
Kenyax
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 04-21-06 18:39pm
I am sorry that you are going through
something like this! No, he is not worth
putting yourself inta a depression mode it
is just telling you that you deserve
better, a lot of us have been through this
and yes, nights are the roughest, it might
take a little time and then again, you
might meet someone tomorrow, just try not
to find someone on the rebound but the
poster was right, do something nice for
yourself, you deserve it! Remember, it
is his lost!
The best to you!
Keep us posted.
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RubyLei
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2005 Posts: 33 Location: UK
Thank You Posted: 04-27-06 11:48am
Thanks for all your advice and although
i'd be lying to myself if I said I was
over him I am feeling much better and
taking comfort in the fact i'm still free
and other areas of my life are going well.
I think the hardest thing is the
disappointment of believing someone is
right for you only to be let down...And im
sure its something i'll accept with time.
There is little signs that im sinkin back
into my depression so thats something to
be v happy about
