You know, love takes two. There is love going to the other person, and love coming back. When this happens, you grow together. Sometimes, there is a detour in our lives which causes that love to not get to you, but you still keep sending your love out and not getting anything back. Frustrated. I hope so, that is the way it works.
With that said, if you love your girl, but she is not loving you back, it is only natural to try to do anything you can to get her back. Your frustration level gets elevated. You get into fights. You part angry. But bottomline you still love her. She doesn't love you.
A few questions come to mind,
is she seeing someone else?
Are you trying to get her to love you again as you were before?
Is there just a problem with communication between the two of you?
Are you both willing to seek help to save what you have?
If she is seeing someone else, your chances of getting it back together again is not good.
If you are trying to get her back to the stage it was before, that will never happen bacause that may be part of the problem to begin with.
Do you two talk about anything and everything? I mean down to the last minute problem that concerns you. Open and honest communication. If this is not a part of your everyday life, the marriage really was a 4 year partnership.
If you are both ready to seek help together, this signifies two things. First, she is willing to try to keep what could be a marriage. Second, if she is not willing to try, I think there is no way you will be able to patch things up.
My opinion. Anyone else willing to pitch in on this?
Sorry buddy. My heart goes out to you. I have been there, and I worked through it and survived. Let me know how things work out.