Sex After a Complete Hystorectomy / Advice Please Posted: 04-14-06 10:51am
I am a 33 year old woman who had a
complete hystorectomy at the age of 32.
My obgyn put me on premerin 1.5 mg right
after my surgery and have been taking it
for 1 1/2 years. I have no desire for sex
at all and it is starting to way heavily
on my marriage of 13 years. My husband
has been so patient with me, but this
cannot go on forever. Can someone please
throw some advice my way!!! :cry:
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Kirstyn
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Please Reply to My Problem. All Suggestions Are Welcome! Posted: 04-14-06 20:37pm
Would someone please respond to my
problem. I am in desperate need of some
advice. Anyone with any recommendations?
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Ingi
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Posted: 04-14-06 20:46pm
I don't have any advice other than to
maybe speak to your gynecologist about it.
Terrible personal advice I know, and
probably nothing that will help you now -
but they can help tremendously.
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Kia
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Posted: 04-15-06 04:10am
After an amount of time with out sex your
body will not "crave" it anyway.
Its a case of the less you get, the less
you want.
The most important thing is is to keep up
the contact with your partner.
Rule out sex for a couple months at
least.
Focus on making contact
hold hands, kiss, cuddle - if you don't
have these basics then you won't enjoy the
rest anyway.
Once you have established contact, look at
body image.
How do you see yourself and why.
Do you subconsciously feel you are less of
a woman because of the hyst?
It's really not true.
The fact that your husband desires you
shows you that you are still an attractive
woman.
Start "dating" your husband again.
Go out to a movie or a meal, pretend to be
strangers. Take him home (on the basis of
no sex - remember you only just met ;p )
kiss and cuddle, then just maybe you will
get caught up in the moment.
Even if you don't feel like penetrative
sex, if your husband is respectful of this
then show him the same respect, masturbate
him, talk dirty while he masturbates -
just a small amount of involvement can do
wonders for bringing you back together.
Let me know if you need more advice on
this
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MissShortie
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Joined: 22 May 2005 Posts: 146
Posted: 04-15-06 17:24pm
Not to try and scare you or anything, but
have you really ever looked up the kind of
medication your using? Premerin if its
what im thinking ive heard nothing but bad
from it, and do you know what its made out
of? If you smell the pill most likely it
will smell like urine, because it is made
from pregnant mare (horse) urine. And
they abuse and torture these animals to
get it, and by impregnating so many horses
to get it, they end up shipping the babies
up and sending them to slaughter houses,
there are rescue teams out there that try
to save them, but also ive heard just in
general the pill does more bad then good,
and there are other things out there your
doctor could precribe for you, so maybe
its the medication that is making you feel
the way you do. But I just didn't know if
you knew the whole story behind premerin,
and if not, google it, and look up all the
things about it, and how its made...Might
change you mind about what your putting
into your body. Good luck and I hope you
start feeling better soon : )
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Kirstyn
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Posted: 04-20-06 11:35am
Thanks for the input you guys. I had no
idea about what was in premerin, but now
that I am totally disgusted that I have
been ingesting it for 1 1/2 years, I will
stop taking it immediately. My husband
and I have tried the cuddle dating
approach and it worked for a while, but I
am not satisfied for my husband. He
deserves more than that from his wife. I
heard about estertest and I will look into
taking that instead. Thanks again you
guys and i'll let you know what happens.
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 04-20-06 12:26pm
Don't stop takingit immediately - it can
be bad for your health to suddenly cut out
a medication.
Speak to your doctor about switching to a
different type of med.
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Kirstyn
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Joined: 14 Apr 2006 Posts: 4 Location: NC
Posted: 04-20-06 13:51pm
I phoned my ob this morning about
switching and she is really bad about
calling me back. I am insanely disgusted
that I have been taking a medication that
contained horse urine and I refuse to take
anymore tablets. I think I would prefer
to suffer the consequences of stopping the
meds rather than ingesting even 1 more. I
will call her again tomorrow and voice my
concerns. I swear, I am far too young for
this. I have bigger and better things to
worry about than a nonexistant sex life,
menopause at 32, and horse pee! Things
can only get better, right? :x
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MissShortie
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Joined: 22 May 2005 Posts: 146
Posted: 04-20-06 15:27pm
Im really happy to hear you took into
consideration about premerin, just
thinking about it makes me want to cry, I
can't stand the torture these poor animals
go through, and if I had the money id save
them all. But its sick that people do
things like this just for the profit, and
its actually not even good for us to take
the pill they are making, and they get
away with it! I'd wanna kick my docs butt
if they precribed me something like that
without even informing me about it! So
good for you, your doing a good thing by
not taking it, and I encourage you to
inform anyone else that may be taking it,
or not, just get the word around! I
really hope you can start getting better
soon so you and your husband can enjoy
intimate time together again. God bless,
and take care : )
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 04-20-06 16:22pm
They say some women get like that after a
hysterectomy but I was told it wasn't the
hysterectomy, that it was the menopause, I
was one of the fortunate ones, I did not
get that way. My hysterectomy(complete)
was due to cancer and after c. Cancer I
was told by someone else that you are not
supposed to be on anything such as that
well I talked to my surgeon he apologized
andd he said that I was right and to start
cutting them into half and then
discontinue them completely. I did not
know that about premarin either.
The best to you!
Keep us updated.
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MissShortie
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Joined: 22 May 2005 Posts: 146
Posted: 04-20-06 18:07pm
I noticing alot of women do not know about
this drug. I think I am going to make a
new post in the menopause section
specifically about premarin, might be able
to find alot more using it and prevent
others from starting it.
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eveie
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Joined: 11 Jun 2006 Posts: 1 Location: dorset
Re: Sex After a Complete Hystorectomy / Advice Please Posted: 06-11-06 16:32pm
Ive just had a tah breezed the actuual op.
Sex has given me a little bleeding not
much with little pain am I too early for
sex??? Help
