i found out six weeks ago that I was six
weeks pregnant, I was over the moon when I
found out even though I had just split
with the father, I didnt tell him til I
was 10 weeks and as soon as his family got
involvedi was under so much pressure and
so stressed, I stopped thinking about my
baby and my heart just colapsed, I booked
a coucilling session at a womens clinic
and when I turned up there was no
councillor for me, just a nurse, and she
convinced me that the best thing to do
would be having a termination, I am the
sort of person that questions everything
and has an opinion on everything because I
have been rooted over so many times,i have
never been in a situation like this and
unfortunately I was not myself this day, I
needed help and that was the stupid advise
they gave me, it was a complete out of
body experience and I went along with it,
they told me I could back out any time
before they put me to sleep, they tried
gettting the drip in my right hand first
and tore a vein sending me through
mindless pain, I was completely numb, she
tried the other arm and as I looked up to
the roof the vents in the roof started to
move, I turned my head and while thinking
stop, I love my baby and I dont want this
to happen, I said to her, I think, I dont
want this, she rubbed my arm and replied,
you'll be ok darling, and I remember
nothing after that, I feel like ive killed
part of myself and like they took
advantage of me. I dont know how iwill
ever get through this, all im trying to
say is if youve got a at least a little
love to give, value your baby and never
step foot in a womens clinic that does
terminations, they'll do anything to get
their money.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-14-06 09:58am
Wow I read your story and it was very
touching.Thank you for sharing it with
us.Thats horrible that you had to go
through it even though you asked them not
to in the end,which was wrong.You know you
can get then into a lot of trouble for
that,they infringed on your rights!
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Carrie-Lucie
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2006 Posts: 188
Posted: 04-14-06 10:29am
They can't do that it's illegal! When you
tell them to stop doing something they
have to respect your rights unless it is a
life or death situation. You should
really inform someone about this...
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-14-06 10:45am
I bet you could probably sew(sp?) them!
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christinamuir
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Feb 2006 Posts: 50 Location: san diego
Posted: 04-14-06 11:06am
Hi,
i'm so sorry to hear about what happened
to you. I know that for malparactice
suits you only have 1 year to file. If I
were you I would definitely check with a
malpractice attorney, tell him/her your
story and have them check to see if you
have a case against this clinic. I
really feel for you right now, but don't
blame yourself for what happened. You
tried to get them to stop the procedure
and they didn't respect your wishes. Even
though you went into the clinic willingly,
you didn't necessarly have the abortion
willingly.
Try to stay strong as hard as it might be.
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Mabel
Supporter
Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 8963 Location: Grinning like a Cheshire Cat,
Thanks: 179
Thanked:198
Posted: 04-14-06 11:31am
christinamuir
wrote:
hi,
i'm so sorry to hear about what happened
to you. I know that for malparactice
suits you only have 1 year to file. If
I were you I would definitely check with a
malpractice attorney, tell him/her your
story and have them check to see if you
have a case against this clinic. I
really feel for you right now, but don't
blame yourself for what happened. You
tried to get them to stop the procedure
and they didn't respect your wishes.
Even though you went into the clinic
willingly, you didn't necessarly have the
abortion willingly.
Try to stay strong as hard as it might
be.
there would be multiples of papers she
would have signed to have this procedure.
They also counsel you beforehand and she
would have had someone who had to drive
her home if they knocked her out. And,
unless she had made the appointment for an
abortion, I doubt the clinic would have
given her one immediately with only a
nurse present.
These things would not stand up in her
favor in court.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 04-14-06 18:56pm
I am very sorry this had to happen to you
like it did! I agree that the nurse or
the assistant probably should have stopped
it like I have done several times but I
believe it was ingi that said once the
paper work is signed for the procedure,
their is not too much that can be done,
the only suggestion that I can make here
is that you do need to forgive yourself
and do the best you can to move on, I did
not say forget and you might need some
professional guidance for this and I do
understand that .E.M.D.R. Has helped in
this and a lot of other situations to help
you to move on.
I do wish you the best!
