Joined: 22 Dec 2005 Posts: 57 Location: county durham
Advice Posted: 04-13-06 16:29pm
I'am 22 and in a stable relationship with
my fiance of 2 years. I really want to
get pregant and have a baby, but I don't
know how to approach the topic with my
fiance. How should I do it? What should
I say?
Any advice is welcome!!
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Moo
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Posted: 04-13-06 16:45pm
Have you guys talked about children
before?
What contraception are you currently
using?
I guess that you need to be honest with
him (never get pregnant without both
people agreeing) but maybe bring it up in
a more casual way to gage his reaction (as
opposed to saying "i want us to get
pregnant" maybe try something along the
lines of "what do you think our kids would
be like" /"have you ever though about
having children" etc...And then take it
from there).
You never know, he might be wondering how
to ask the exact same thing!
Good luck
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Re: Advice Posted: 04-13-06 16:51pm
lickle_lea
wrote:
i'am 22 and in a stable
relationship with my fiance of 2 years.
I really want to get pregant and have a
baby, but I don't know how to approach the
topic with my fiance. How should I do
it? What should I say?
Any advice is
welcome!!
if you guys are engaged
maybe you should talk about marriage
before having babys..He's probably going
to say "after we get married hunny"..Lol
maybe talking about marriage will lead
into the whole I want a baby soon !!..Guys
are clueless when it comes to the things
we women want..But when they want
something they just come out and ask ...So
maybe you should just throw it at him and
get it out in the open ..Heck it just
depends on what type of person he
is!..Just dont piss him off because he the
sperm donor... :wink:
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lickle_lea
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Dec 2005 Posts: 57 Location: county durham
Posted: 04-13-06 16:52pm
Im on the pill at the moment. We have
talked about children in the future, but
he doesn't think were old enough to have
one. I really want us to have one.
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Moo
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Posted: 04-13-06 16:59pm
Talk to him about it again but if he still
says he doesn't feel old enough then,
unfortunately, you have to respect that.
Ask him how he'd feel if you stopped
taking your pill (but reassure him that
you'd only do so if he agreed) and didn't
actively ttc but, obviously, the
possibility is there.
Maternal instincts can be hard to overcome
when you're definately set that you want
to fall pregnant but you have plenty of
time and you need to have both of you
involved in the decision.
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-14-06 11:43am
Moo is right,you should talk to him and
make the decision together.Maybe he says
he's too young cause he's not ready.If you
have a baby too soon it could ruin the
relationship and prolong the possibility
of having a child.So it's your choice!
