Help-i Think My Boyfriend Is Bipolar Posted: 04-13-06 11:37am
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years,
and he is a really great guy. Our fights
come from misunderstandings due to being
very different from each other. I have
recently discovered that I think he may be
bipolar and I really want to help him.
Lately, all he has been thinking about is
that people are out to get him and screw
him over somehow. When I ask him about
it, he can't ever give me in my opinion a
realistic explanation why. Is this a sign
of bipolar? Other things about him that
make me think this include: he's very
forgetfull, he gets depressed a lot, he
often doesn't eat/can't sleep or will
sleep all day, he tends to be somewhat
irresponsible, very non-responsive,
non-communicative, sometimes moody, he's
very careless about himself, which has now
led him to be insecure, and he very
frequently cannot put his thoughts into
words, so if you ask him a question, he
appears to be overwhelmed by it. I will
repeat my question, and sometimes he
forces himself to answer, sometimes he
gets mad. I understand he is a bit slow,
so I make myself be very patient and
understanding, so sometimes I wont repeat
the question, to see what he will do, and
lots of times he will just dismiss the
fact I asked him a question, and after
five minutes I will remind him I asked him
a question and he wont even remember. He
has always blamed all this on add, so I
dont know if thats his problem, or
bipolar, or both or what?! If he is
bipolar, then that means he would have to
be diagnosed and get a prescription and
stay on meds which would cost lots of
money I presume, and he has no health
insurance. I also have read that a lot of
bipolar people are in and out of
psychiatric wards, and that is what he is
most scared of, being confined. I just
dont know what to do. I love him so much
and I want to help him, but I need help
and information, please help!
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DSmith529
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 59
Maybe Posted: 04-15-06 13:56pm
Quote:
i really want to
help him.
does he want your help? Does he want to
change? It has to come from within
himself or else he *may* go along and make
the motions, but he will definitely resent
you eventually. Either you can tolerate
a relationship that will definitely get
worse (if it is untreated bipolar) or one
that may not ever get much better.
As for arguments based upon how different
the two of you are, well, of course.
That goes without saying. Unless you
want to have a dim reflection of yourself
who nods up and down like a puppet on a
string, disagreements are inevitable in
all relationships.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 04-15-06 16:01pm
Hi! Is he being treated for the add, it
could be time to get his medication
changed for that. Maybe you both need a
little space.
The best to you both!
