My brother-in-law is hiv postive. I
recently found out that he has been
infected for five years. We've known for
about two and a half years. He thinks
that we're all out to get him. That we
don't want to be around him. He didn't
even know that we knew. The sister that
he did tell ended up telling us because
she thought we should know since he's
around us daily.
I've never had a problem being around him.
I know there are only a handful of ways
to contract the virus and there is no way
that I would contract it from him. But I
did have my own freak out the other night.
I have a daughter that is almost two.
She was giving everyone kisses and she
stopped by him for a kiss. He usually
gives her a kiss on top of her head but
for some reason he kissed her on her lips.
That really freaked me and his other
sister out. I've read that you can not
get the virus through a closed mouth peck
on the lips but if you have sores in the
mouth there is a possibility.
Then I found out that he had been ranting
to his other sister saying that everyone
is treating him badly and that since he's
dying he's going to give everyone else
aids too. That's when we all lost it.
How could he say that about us? We're
the ones who have been helping him out.
He quit his job and lost his apartment
because of financial problems. He eats
with us every night because he doesn't
have the money to feed himself.
After hearing what he had said. I told
him that I needed to talk to him. I told
him that I didn't understand why he kissed
his niece on the lips. That we need to
take every precaution to make sure none of
the kids could possibly become infected.
He swore up and down he didn't kiss her
but we all saw he did. I tried talking
to him as civally as I could. I don't
know. I feel bad that he thinks we're
all against him but I had to have this
talk with him for the sake of my sanity.
For the sake of my daughter.
I just want to know what you guys think.
How can I make him know we're all not
against him. That we're here for him.
Did I handle the situation the best I
could. I really could use some advice
here. Thanks.
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HIVRHH
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Feb 2006 Posts: 82
Posted: 04-12-06 21:27pm
You don't get hiv from kissing. You and
your family need to read up on hiv. I
don't believe it was right for you sister
to give up his trust and go around telling
everyone. If he wanted them to know he
would have told them himself.
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kiklis2k
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2005 Posts: 88
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Extremely Rare Posted: 04-25-06 21:53pm
Its an extremely rare case to contract hiv
thro kissing. And there is a 0%
possiblity for just a outward kissing.
Some documented cases record the presence
and spread of the virus is both have
bleeding gums thro which the virus can
spread.
Moreover, recent medical documents claim
that our saliva has something medical that
kills the virus instantly. And the virus
does not live in the open atmosphere for
more than 45 seconds.
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HIVRHH
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Feb 2006 Posts: 82
Posted: 04-26-06 02:43am
Kiklis2k, it's more than rare it's never
happened.
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Finess150
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True Posted: 04-28-06 10:34am
Kiklis, there have been no reported cases
of hiv transmission through deep kissing.
It doesn't work that way.
If you dispense advise on a forum, first
get your facts straight using the most
recent, reliable sources.
