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Im a guy and I was 28, now im 29. Its cuz I was a big loser that made a bigger deal of sex than it really is. Its like I waited 28 years to take a dump. However, im still with her and shes great. She just thinks I dont know anything about sex because ive only been with her and she thinks I dont know anything about relationships. She assured me that im good in the sack however and didnt suspect I was a virgin until about a month and a half into the relationship when I told her. Now she doesnt think shes good enough for me since I waited and she didnt. Kick in the ass huh?

Virginity sucks. If I could go back in time I wouldve been the biggest manwhore ever.

Well reassure her that she is good enough. And even more you wouldn't have lost your virginity to her if she wasn't. Look at it from that point of view. She should feel special that she is your first and only. :)

Well thats the thing, how do I really know if shes good enough? Is sex better will other people? I dont know. She asked me if I think her vag is stretched out or too large and I dont know. That question alone made me wonder what kind of monsters she was hanging out with before me.

Anyhow, I do love her and we get along great and as far as im concerned the sex is great, but I still am afraid that im putting all my eggs in one basket here and potentially missing out on having sex with girls with different body types.

I can't help you there if its meant to be then its meant to be in time you will be able to tell if she is the one. :)

good luck and I hope everything works out right for you two

Now im 22 and I lost virginity when I was 19 to my boyfriend ( he's still with me now ).We're gonna get engaged on his birthday.Im glad that he's the 1st guy I have had sex with, I do hope hes the last one too.

I was 17, &it was some freak occurance, &.I don't even know why .I did it.. Haha. It was in a holiday inn hotel with a guy .I knew for a day &a half... Smart, huh? *rolls eyes* .Although .I really doubt that he can consider himself as holding my virginity. His dick was so small he couldn't even keep it inside of me. Hahahaha. Ugh.


I was 18 when .I had sex again. It was with my boyfriend [still with him! A year &a half + a baby on the way!]

I was 19 (... I still am 19). It was with my bf (he's still my bf) and we had been going out for almost 1/2 a year. It was kinda funny, because I had sworn not to do it till I was married, and even with my ex (we had gone out almost 2 years) I had self control. But this bf was different. He never pressured me for it, even though he's 23 and probably wanted it, but I just felt a very strong love for him. When we finally did, he asked me if I was sure, and made sure I was ok, and afterwards he held me like he never wanted to let go. So I definately had a good experience with it. He still tells me how much he loves me everyday. ^_^.

I think that 14 may be too young. But you know, it depends on when you're ready. I gave it up at 16/17 to a guy I loved, and have no regrets whatsoever. But I had to consider many many things before I made that step:

1. Pregnancy: even if you use condoms or another form of b.C., you have to have some sort of plan if you do get pregnant. Not thinking of pregnancy and the chances you are taking is a sign you aren't ready for sex. My mom did daycare inside the home, it was the best form of birth control ever!

2. Lost feelings: also, men are dogs. I love the penis, but you have to always be on guard. Make sure you are with someone you love, or someone you won't regret (my best friend and I did it...We were both virgins and discussed that we wouldn't want to lose it to anyone else). If you just do it with some random guy, prepared to not get attached.

Men separate sex and emotion. Women don't.

Good luck, be careful, and above all, be safe. Make sure you do it for the right reasons. This only happens once!!!

i have to disagree with the idea that women cant separate sex and emotion. i know a few that do this all the time.

To the guy who was a virgin for so long: I think you have an unhealthy view of virginity. You said you made a big deal out of sex and saving yourself, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! You are not a loser for doing so, and personally I respect the "past" you far more than I respect you now, for that whole "man-prostitute" comment. Honestly, there's no way I want to have sex with a guy who's been with dozens of women! *nasty*!!! Think about the disease! And that man clearly doesn't respect sex the same way I do!!

I waited until I was in love. This happened when I was 21. I absolutely do not regret waiting. I don't regret my first time either. He and I are still together, and now engaged!

As for the whole "I don't know if this is the best sex ever because I don't have the expereince" - so the f*ck what? Two simple questions: Do you enjoy sex? Are you satisfied with your girl? If you answered yes, then who cares if you didn't sleep with every cheerleader in highschool? The thought disgusts me.

Yes, you can go "what if" on and on and on. But are you willing to throw away the relationship you have right now just to go have a bunch of sex-flings? Think about that.

I have only ever had sex with one man, and now that we are engaged, I will only ever *have* sex with one man. I'm okay with that. I love him, and I love the sex we have. He's the only person on the planet who knows me this way, and I think that's very special. No one else has been inside of me (aside of gynecologists but that doesn't count lmao) and that is an amaizing gift.

I don't have a problem with people who have had multiple partners. I could have too. For some people, that is the right way and they enjoy themselves and lead wonderful lives. My point though, is that for people who have waited: Do not feel like a lesser person for doing so!!

Being promiscuous is normal.
Waiting for sex is normal.

Neither way is shameful. Being untrue to yourself is shameful. If you did what you thought was right, then it was right. No cultural influence should tell you otherwise.

I was 31 when i lost it. Previous to that i did had plenty of the other forms of sex but if we refer here to intercourse then that's it. I was ready at that age. I really wanted to wait til marriage but well marriage for me was meant for the later years so I had to overcome my principles and morals I was strongly raised up with in order to feel ready to have sex under the circumstances I never wished it to be.

So anybody breaking my virginity record here?

My fiancee (and possibly nightangel's too) does not want to bang everything he sees. I think it's a bad stereotype to say all men are horndogs, just as it is a bad stereotype to say that all women are manipulative witches.

Like some of the other lady posters have said, I don't believe all men are willing to sleep with anything that moves. I am not attracted to men who have been with many people.

I have had a few partners, but honestly, I have huge thing for male virgins. My current partner was a 27 year old virgin when I met him.

I was 15 when I lost mine, well a month from being 16. I pissed everybody off cause like my mam knew I was thinking about it but she wanted me to wait and I just thought, well I'm not going to be any different when I'm 16 and it's what I want to do so I just went ahead and did it lol.
Maybe I did do it for the wrong reasons. One reason was that one of my best friends had started with her bf, and I just sort of wanted to shut her up cuz she was the only one lol. Another reason is that I wanted to prove everyone wrong and not have them tell me what to do and when to lose it.
Having said that, I don't regret it. My boy was 17 and he was a virgin too, and we're still together.

I was 18 and am now married to him.